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MzMia -> So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 9:47:09 PM)
After reading the two other posts, I decided to create one for the Dominant women. There are many, many, single Dominant women on this site, that are finding it extremely hard to find what they are searching for in a submissive male/or submissive female. I live in Maryland, and I have a wonderful, and attractive, female Dominant friend who lives in CA. Both of us, have not found what we desire in a submissive male on this site. We have both been on here over 2 years. I have also noticed MANY, MANY, Dominant women that appear to have been looking/ or searching for years, despite the claim that there are so many available submissive males/females. So why are there SO many Dominant women here that can't find a suitable submissive male? Do you hate men? I noticed many moons ago, that IMHO the common denominator here is "men". It seems hard for women to find the male that they want, period. It does not matter whether he is a Dominant or submissive male. Good men are hard to find, period.

DominaSmartass -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 9:58:59 PM)
Well yes...obviously. If we didn't hate men, why on Earth would we want to torture, humiliate, and otherwise use them? ;) Just a word of advice from someone who has found an amazing man (using that term loosely, as his gender identity is bit skewed, but he has a penis so he counts) get off this site to look for people. I'm sure you already have but I'll say it again. Get off this site! Go to real life events - there are amazing ones all over the country for every taste and style of bdsm. There is Frolicon in Atlanta for sci-fi nerdy computer and RPG bdsm-ers....there are Leatherfests nearly once a month for the "Old Guard" types...there are outdoor events like Leather Retreat and Dark Odyssey for the nature lovers...there are events in hotels, events at restaurants, night clubs, bars, alcohol, no alcohol, women only, men only, transpeople only...it's ALL out there. Go out and find it and you will be more likely to meet someone who not only is compatible with your kinks but compatible with you as a whole person. Goodluck to all.

SolarAndViolet -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:04:32 PM)
I think I'll start a post about "So, do <broad generalization> all hate <broad generalization>" and just let people duke it out. -Solar

briska -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:06:11 PM)
I don't know that that questions conveys what you think it conveys... Maybe you're really asking if they're too picky? Wtf does hating men have to do with not being able to find a mate? Also, anyone who exclusively uses one interweb site to find apartner4lifeomg is kinda swimming in the shallow end of the pool, imo...

MzMia -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:08:54 PM)
Great post DominaSmartass, I love and enjoy the Collarme community, I come here mainly for the comradery. If I ever find someone from this site, it would just be a plus. I plan to hang out here until I drop dead or Collarme {gosh forbid!} closes shop. I just wanted to make a point on behalf of the Female Dominants, who are NOT having an easy time finding someone compatible. Many submissive men apply, but few are being chosen. Congratulations on finding someone suitable.

DominaSmartass -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:16:50 PM)
Mz Mia, Thanks and thanks :) We've been together almost 14 months now, but who's counting? The funny thing is that we were both on CM but never met or interacted that way. We met at a MAsT meeting, introduced by a mutual friend and only later exchanged CM names but by that time we were already a couple. CM is a lot of fun when it comes to making friends and discussion but I've long since given up on it as a way to meet a suitable partner. Not that it doesn't happen. BUT I would never, ever, ever, trade that first moment I saw him and knew that we'd be together, for anything in the world.

undergroundsea -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:42:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia I have also noticed MANY, MANY, Dominant women that appear to have been looking/ or searching for years, despite the claim that there are so many available submissive males/females. So why are there SO many Dominant women here that can't find a suitable submissive male? Do you hate men? I noticed many moons ago, that IMHO the common denominator here is "men". It seems hard for women to find the male that they want, period. It does not matter whether he is a Dominant or submissive male. Good men are hard to find, period. My logic does not follow the conclusion suggested. I have been on online sites longer and have had little success to find a relationship partner. However, I continue to appreciate dominant women and do not blame the lack of such success on dominant women. Perhaps the success I have had through other avenues keeps me from being jaded. I think the conclusion you state comes from frustration more than reason. Cheers, Sea

MzMia -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:43:35 PM)
Well thank you sea, for your usual "kind" response to me. [;)]

undergroundsea -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:45:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia Well thank you sea, for your usual "kind" response to me. [;)] I appreciate your sarcasm. Cheers, Sea

domiguy -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:47:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia After reading the two other posts, I decided to create one for the Dominant women. There are many, many, single Dominant women on this site, that are finding it extremely hard to find what they are searching for in a submissive male/or submissive female. I live in Maryland, and I have a wonderful, and attractive, female Dominant friend who lives in CA. Both of us, have not found what we desire in a submissive male on this site. We have both been on here over 2 years. I have also noticed MANY, MANY, Dominant women that appear to have been looking/ or searching for years, despite the claim that there are so many available submissive males/females. So why are there SO many Dominant women here that can't find a suitable submissive male? Do you hate men? I noticed many moons ago, that IMHO the common denominator here is "men". It seems hard for women to find the male that they want, period. It does not matter whether he is a Dominant or submissive male. Good men are hard to find, period. Obviously it is high time you make a trip to Chicago, Missy.

MzMia -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 10:49:48 PM)
lol, hummmmm

goddessblaze -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 11:06:45 PM)
I was once told If you hate men this is not the lifestyle for you. My reason for this lifestyle is a spritual journey. Not only for me but for the person I play with. I want the person to walk away being better and more complete then when we first met. I choose to connect to the person I play with and see BDSM as a healing tool for most people. I have met some wonderful men on this site that may no longer be my submissive but we are still very close and I can call on them anytime if I need something. Yes, I do get sexually charged when I dominate someone, but sex with the men that serve me just seems werid. Connecting with them emotionally and spirtually I feel that they will give more and it is from the heart. Not sure if anyone else relates to what I am saying, but I want my subs to serve me from their heart and know that I appreiate the gift of service as mush as they appreicate the gift of Domination

MzMia -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/25/2007 11:13:25 PM)
Great post GoddessBlaze, thanks for sharing.

LadyHugs -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/26/2007 12:12:34 AM)
Dear MzMia, Ladies and Gentlemen, In response to your topic question, do single Dominant women hate men? I can only speak for myself but, I do not hate men or women really--I just hate what they do sometimes. Success in finding suitable slaves, for me is difficult and really don't look. I have had wonderful male slaves in the past and have no regrets there. I look forward to slave males in the future but, until then -- I will continue to teach, mentor, coach and or support others. Just some thoughts. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

CuriousLord -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/26/2007 12:51:14 AM)
Not to be cruel, though I'd like to point out that everyone seems to have something in mind that they're looking for. As it's my nature to be blunt, I would have to point out to you that I've looked at your profile. The whole "female supremacy" and "black supremacy" things are immediate turn offs. And I don't just mean sexually. They smack of sexism and racism so hard that I'm somewhat disgusted. Of course, you should look for what works for you. If various prejustices happen to work for you, whatever, you know? Nonetheless, my point remains: this may be a source of problems for you in your search. PS- I'm not even sure if your profile's trying to say you're racist and sexist. Maybe it has nothing to do with either, and you mean something entirely different. Still, I'm pretty open minded, and even I find that to be quite unlikely. People looking for mates aren't courts. You're not innocent until proven guilty. Give off an odd vibe like that, and they're on to the next profile.

LaMistressa -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/26/2007 2:20:54 AM)
I get the title of this post (in reference to the other post), so I'm not going to dwell on the whole "do I hate men thing." I don't hate men, unless they are Eagles fans (yeah, I went there.) I simply think it's hard meeting the right person sometimes, and I agree 100% with DominaSmartAss that getting out into the meatworld community (and stepping away from the computer) really helps. If nothing else, you might get some additional vitamins via sunshine.

Lashra -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/26/2007 3:32:24 AM)
I've never hated men or women regardless if I was single, married or divorced. I take people on a very individual basis as to whether I like them or not. I didn't meet my sub on this site or any other, but in a online game. It was chance or fate as my sub says, either way so far its worked for us. I found him when I wasn't looking and the same was true for him. I hope everyone finds the one they are seeking. ~Lashra

petdave -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/26/2007 4:11:40 AM)
yup! [8D] Now, the Yanks hate the Reds and the Greeks hate the Turks I really hate to say it, but they're all a bunch of jerks! 'Seems like ev'rybody's shakin' 'cuz the Big One's 'bout to fall I'm just tryin' to hold it steady while I piss on the wall

MzMia -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/26/2007 4:23:07 AM)
Ah CuriousLord, I get tons of emails. You would be surprised at the number of men, that are into Female Supremacy. Also, if you read my OP, I am also speaking of the many OTHER women on here that say the exact same thing. My other female friends, HERE, have different profiles, yet the same experience. There is no lack of quantity, I am speaking about quality. Thanks for the advice, though. Also, CuriousLord my profile speaks my truth of who I am, and how I live this lifestyle. I will not change it, nor alter it. That would be false advertising. We all have the right to live this lifestyle as we choose, I have made my path, and I am certainly not ever going to change it. It may not be your path, and you may not like it or agree with it. I don't care, really. To each their own, don't judge me so I don't have to judge you. If you want/need to learn more about Female Supremacy, visit Elise Sutton's website. Ciao

MzMia -> RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? (9/26/2007 4:29:02 AM)
Thanks everyone for the replies! With the other 2 threads going, I just had to start this one. Of course, I don't think most Dominant women hate men. I don't think most submissive women hate men. I don't think most Dominant men hate women. It is interesting to here different points of views.

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