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RE: Submissive, or Dominant? - 9/18/2007 7:56:34 PM

kdsub

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Hon I do feel for you…my daughter is also Bipolar and has taken every drug available as well as Electro-convulsive therapy. Beside the mood swings she has trouble making decisions...she just can’t seem to get things done or break a bad relationship. Speaking of relationships she has gone from bad to worse over the years...one abusive man after another. You at least sound like you are suffering from the same symptoms.

Over the last year she has finally found the right combination of psychiatric help and drug combinations that have changed her life. She has become responsible and self-reliant …dumped the last bum and seems to have found someone who treats her with respect. She no longer has extreme mood swings…is now employed…and making the hard decisions in her new life.

My advice is step back from making big decisions on a particular or type of relationship. This may mean temporarily withdrawing from your present relationship… it will be a good test to see what this person truly thinks of you. Revaluate your present treatment for your disease. If you are not happy with the progress or results of that treatment change!!! Find another doctor… you do not have to suffer… you do not deserve to suffer…God is not punishing you!

When you feel you are again in control of your life…then decide where to go with it.

I wish you wellButch

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RE: Submissive, or Dominant? - 9/18/2007 8:03:23 PM

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Why would you think a switch is a bad choice?

Take my wife as an example: She likes men, she likes women. This doesn't make her 'undecided' or odd, it simply means that she is bi. Even then, there is a large difference within bi groups as to what percentages are 'most bi'. She has been yelled at by straight people for being lesbian, and lesbians for not being lesbian enough. It's hard for her sometimes because neither group really considers her one of 'theirs' and it's all over these stupid names we give each other with absolutely no real value whatsoever. If you can embrace both Dominant and submissive roles with equal ease, then accept who you are and ignore the labels.

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RE: Submissive, or Dominant? - 9/19/2007 10:07:28 PM

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I cannot discuss this issue with Him because He does not listen. In my mind and thoughts, he has never considered what I want or need, whether in the lifestyle or otherwise. He has a fit anytime I request anything of Him. He has not trained me one day since I met Him. for the past two years (to the day) we have lived in a 7*12 room, He has not been able to keep a job, and has never shown interest in helping me finish my schooling for my highschool diploma (had to drop out because of my bipolarism.)

You definitely need a stable and trustworthy individual. Find someone to GROW with.

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RE: Submissive, or Dominant? - 9/21/2007 8:19:31 AM

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Thank you A/all for your advice. my Master and i have talked and i have decided to give Him one more chance. We have sought out a new friend to help us on our journey to become a better couple.

Be Well

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RE: Submissive, or Dominant? - 9/21/2007 8:20:48 AM

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Hey :)

I was actually thinking about you last night, wondering if I should send an email asking how you were doing. I am glad to hear you're doing well, and I wish the both of you the best of luck :)

*hugs*

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RE: Submissive, or Dominant? - 9/21/2007 10:35:39 AM

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Hello A/all who read this, I hope I can recieve good advice.

I have been going back and forth about whether or not I see myself as submissive or Dominant. There are certain aspects of my desires that I see myself as submissive i.e. being "in my place", "at His feet" , and "wanting to please Him." However there are many other aspects of my desires that note me as a dominant person, i.e. "Wanting it My way" , and "Wanting someone to look up to Me."

I am Bipolar, which is basically having menopause on steroids,(or at least it is to me,) and this causes me to become angry or depressed or other moods within a second or two from the previous moment.

So, how can I tell which road to take? I have called myself a switch before, but I really dont like it because it seems to wishy washy to me.

Oh being a switch os not wishy washy believe me! It's as important in bdsm as orientation is...ie bisexual is an orientation as well as hetero or gay....II am a switch. I have been in a relationship (cyber) with a guy half way across Europe for about 4 years. he is a switch. When we are both in dominant mode we fight. When we are both in sub mode we whine and feel insecure and share cravings about finding the right dominant. When I was domme I have had HIM in chains when he's sub and sometimes for days on his knees with his hands unable to reach his dinner....he's chained himself and done all manner of wonderous things for me on cam. Likewise I have submitted to him and we have also di=one this by phone. Great play, great fun but really like a relationship of four people lol.

These days I have settled....that is I have become more submissive and do so as I grow older and submit to a man. However i stilll retain my dominant desires but only as what I call an Alpha female to women. I domme them lovingly and with empathy as it is same on same and totally different to being on my knees to HIM.

Bi-polar is just another aspect of me that doesn't correspong to being switch. I can be a moody domme as well as a moody brattish submissive.

Does that help? i would say though that rarely have I switched within a scene and then only by pprior agreement ie started as submissive and then 'turned' on him.

Prinnie xxx

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