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RE: Fantasy vs reality - 9/2/2007 7:47:53 PM

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chelle. There are times when you have to put down the burden and let your partner take care of YOU. Even in M/S....I had a girl who came down with a pretty bad bladder infection once. Hellacious high fever, delerious, just soaked the sheets with sweat. We ran her in for some antibiotics to the er pronto......they messed up her bladder control, and I had to change diapers on her for a few days-until new meds we got stopped it. Didn't phase me. So diapers aren't a hard limit for me, like they seem to be for so many others. In fact, I rather smile when I see a girl brave enough to list them now-shows she isn't stuck in the boring mainstream-and might have possibilities.

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the non-consensual diaper play...i went through a period of a few weeks when my blood sugar was wildly out of control and i had pnuemonia so i was coughing and peeing all the time...well...eventually i got tired of changing my clothes and invested in some depends and it was all better...no one but my very closest friends knew about it...but, if they did, it would have been really embarrassing...in a non exciting way....i lived through it and am happily panty-less again on an almost regular basis (i subscribe to the only reason to wear panties is if they are gonna be seen, so they better be pretty philosophy)...
oh the other thing that was hard on the fantasy to reality thing was that i don't always physically feel like serving...and for someone that is wired like me it is fucking hard when your Sir goes, sit your ass back down i will get my own tea/soda....
edited cause i missed the last question...i made it so much better...it makes it so much better when they like or even love all the aspects of you...the part of you that pees on yourself that coughs cause you're so fucking sick but is still thinking about how to make his day an iota better...and the part that is still trying to get him something to drink when you're foot has 9 stitches in the bottom of it....reality sometimes sucks...but its real...and when your partner loves the real stuff too...its all that more powerful...

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RE: Fantasy vs reality - 9/2/2007 7:55:23 PM

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Actually nothing has been difficult to reconcile. In part that may be cause I insist on making my own reality and I found someone who was good with that. So if something doesn't seem to fit I jettison it for what does fit me. And that works well for me. And for him.

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RE: Fantasy vs reality - 9/2/2007 7:58:38 PM

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For those of you who went from fantasy to real-what struck you as the most difficult parts to reconcile?

That slaves werent always kneeling, nakked and in chains. That we still had to do dishes, house work, take care of UM's , work and couldnt stay chained to the bed all day.

Oh and Doms didnt have horns.

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RE: Fantasy vs reality - 9/2/2007 9:50:48 PM

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For those of you who went from fantasy to real-what struck you as the most difficult parts to reconcile?

That slaves werent always kneeling, nakked and in chains. That we still had to do dishes, house work, take care of UM's , work and couldnt stay chained to the bed all day.

Oh and Doms didnt have horns.

And superman only exists in hollywood movies-and there is no such thing as a totally selfless human being.

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RE: Fantasy vs reality - 9/2/2007 9:52:31 PM

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Actually, my fantasies pretty much stayed in the real world so there wasn't much adjustment.

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RE: Fantasy vs reality - 9/2/2007 9:54:06 PM

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Actually, my fantasies pretty much stayed in the real world so there wasn't much adjustment.

That's the real trick. If you have a fantasy-make it a plausible one. So much more fun when you make it real.

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RE: Fantasy vs reality - 9/2/2007 10:01:25 PM

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chelle. There are times when you have to put down the burden and let your partner take care of YOU.

the ones i have found only take care of me when i am sick to a point...so i kicked their asses to the curb...still looking...well, actually not looking right now...enjoying being me, by myself...but yea...haven't given up hope...eventually...

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RE: Fantasy vs reality - 9/2/2007 10:03:37 PM

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chelle. There are times when you have to put down the burden and let your partner take care of YOU.

the ones i have found only take care of me when i am sick to a point...so i kicked their asses to the curb...still looking...well, actually not looking right now...enjoying being me, by myself...but yea...haven't given up hope...eventually...

It's about value. Instant gratification is great for fast food-doesn't work in relationships. Enjoy your rest-and remeber-the future is only going to repeat the past if you let it-break the pattern.

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