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Communication - 8/17/2007 4:10:32 PM   
instynctive


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Status: offline 		Why is it there are so many posts here asking "what should I/i do?" when all the OP has to do is approach the subject matter with the appropriate person, be it husband, wife, Dom/me, b/f or g/f?

Honestly, if I ever came across a post from one of My subs or a friend asking something of the general populace that only I could truly answer and in context, that would make Me very unhappy that they couldn't approach Me.

Just a random musing.  Please carry on.


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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:14:39 PM   
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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:14:56 PM   
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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:17:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sometimes the 'appropriate person' as you refer to them is too close to the situation to ask and sometimes they are the problem, something they said / did etc.
Sometimes its just nice to have an honest, anonymous, non-involved opinion.

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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:22:55 PM   
instynctive


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Status: offline 		Perhaps so, but like the OP in the "first time to a BDSM club" post.. s/he's asking something only their Master could answer...

In other more intimate questions, instead of airing potential "dirty laundry" on the internet, why not seek advice and counsel from a friend?

Personally I would HATE to find out I'm being cheated on by reading a post looking for honest, anonymous, non-involved opinions...

Maybe I'm just old, crusty and jaded, but I've been on the net long enough to know that there is very little chance of getting a "good" answer online... a question is more prone to getting flamed than anything else.




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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:30:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: instynctive

Perhaps so, but like the OP in the "first time to a BDSM club" post.. s/he's asking something only their Master could answer...
I've not read the post but yes in theory i agree she should ask her Master.

In other more intimate questions, instead of airing potential "dirty laundry" on the internet, why not seek advice and counsel from a friend?
Its only potential dirty laundry if all partners are forum posters / members of cm. I don't have many friends in the lifestyle to talk to in real life and to be honest have often found the advice here to be very useful.

Personally I would HATE to find out I'm being cheated on by reading a post looking for honest, anonymous, non-involved opinions...
Agreed, something like that though no decent person would post about knowing you'd read it.

Maybe I'm just old, crusty and jaded, but I've been on the net long enough to know that there is very little chance of getting a "good" answer online... a question is more prone to getting flamed than anything else.
Many posters here give 'good answers'. Yeah quite often you have to sift through the flames etc but there are some really good helpful people here.





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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:31:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Actually she didnt ask what should be expected of her...she asked what kind of experience other subs have had at a BDSM club....just sayin....

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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:36:56 PM   
instynctive


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Ugh.. that messed Me up.. LOL  Not used to reading between the lines as it were.. lol


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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:39:08 PM   
instynctive


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Actually she didnt ask what should be expected of her...she asked what kind of experience other subs have had at a BDSM club....just sayin....


I mis-read then... but can see how.. that'll teach Me to write something during a sugar crash...


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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:47:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: instynctive

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ORIGINAL: missturbation



Ugh.. that messed Me up.. LOL  Not used to reading between the lines as it were.. lol



Now i'm confused

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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:49:23 PM   
instynctive


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Now i'm confused


Sorry Misst..

I honestly had nothing to add to My thoughts or comments to your responses, as you have some valid points in there... :-)


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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:53:42 PM   
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Especially when distracted by a pic of a handsome man with long hair

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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 4:59:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: instynctive

quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Actually she didnt ask what should be expected of her...she asked what kind of experience other subs have had at a BDSM club....just sayin....


I mis-read then... but can see how.. that'll teach Me to write something during a sugar crash...


I feel ya!!...it happens to me all the time...and i can't even blame sugar....LOL


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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 5:06:22 PM   
instynctive


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No worries, i'm easily confused lol
Especially when distracted by a pic of a handsome man with long hair


Where?  I missed one? 

Dammit.


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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 5:09:16 PM   
instynctive


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I feel ya!!...it happens to me all the time...and i can't even blame sugar....LOL


Umm.. I was having a blonde moment?




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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 5:10:13 PM   
Griswold


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ORIGINAL: instynctive

Why is it there are so many posts here asking "what should I/i do?" when all the OP has to do is approach the subject matter with the appropriate person, be it husband, wife, Dom/me, b/f or g/f?

Honestly, if I ever came across a post from one of My subs or a friend asking something of the general populace that only I could truly answer and in context, that would make Me very unhappy that they couldn't approach Me.

Just a random musing.  Please carry on.



I shall...thank you so much for that cadence.

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RE: Communication - 8/17/2007 5:10:44 PM   
missturbation


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