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Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 11:49:23 AM

SirEbonyPhoenix

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I've recently pondered this query as far as the BDSM lifestyle goes: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? What I mean by this is, did we show an interest in this from some of the tv shows or movies we watched that contained a scene where someone was tied up and held prisoner by their captor? Or could it be something much deeper than this, such as the music we listen to or a strong desire to fulfill our sexual fantasies? Any thoughts on this?

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 11:55:31 AM

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Well, the Addams Family premiered during my formative years and I'm all over Goth and BDSM .. so, ya never know.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 11:58:24 AM

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My interest in WIITWD stems from what's natural to who and what I am, not how I've been influenced by media of any sort.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 12:02:36 PM

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nope. I am who I am because of something inside. I do know people who say "it all started when I saw XYZ movie" though.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 12:05:30 PM

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nope--I was raised in a very disciplined environement...survived catholic school, etc...so naturally I want that same discipline in my adult life...as for the physical discipline...again no...nothing in the media sparked my interest, it was ingrained deep inside of me all along...

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 12:05:42 PM

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I think alot of people who naturally are interested in BDSM find things that draw us in deeper when we see certain scenes and read certain passages.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 12:06:08 PM

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Whats the media got to do with something that interests you??

For me personally I love what BDSM entails because it turns me on..Simple!!

If the media says its bad for you are you gonna stop something you enjoy? Are you hell!!!

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 12:55:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rover

My interest in WIITWD stems from what's natural to who and what I am, not how I've been influenced by media of any sort.

John

I agree with Rover and D, it is what I am--well ok that first red riding crop pretty much solidified it.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 12:57:25 PM

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I believe that my interests were always there, however media did help bring those interests to the fore.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 1:11:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirEbonyPhoenix

I've recently pondered this query as far as the BDSM lifestyle goes: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? What I mean by this is, did we show an interest in this from some of the tv shows or movies we watched that contained a scene where someone was tied up and held prisoner by their captor? Or could it be something much deeper than this, such as the music we listen to or a strong desire to fulfill our sexual fantasies? Any thoughts on this?

Tremendously. My first exposure to BDSM/fetish images was when I was in 3rd or 4th grade or so. I was living in Japan at the time and basically, a Japanese man took his wife to the states and had her killed. He made it look like some American thug did it. . . cried all over the news etc. It was later found that he had her killed so that he could be with his mistress (in the BDSM sense.) So it was *sensational* news in Japan. To lure in more viewers, they had images of dominatrices and sub males, whips and chains, scenes of torture on the tele ALL DAY. I really didn't concern myself with the story and the outcome. . .I was fascinated by the lifestyle of "them there bad people" they were showing us vanilla folk. *I* wanted to be a part of that world (sans going around killing people of course!)

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 2:48:54 PM

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did we show an interest in this from some of the tv shows or movies we watched that contained a scene where someone was tied up and held prisoner by their captor?

Hell yeah. Watching saturday morning cartoons as a wee one used to do it for me.

Though nowadays, whenever I see or read anything about war, prison, or the police, it's a huge turn off. Whenever I see real abuse of power it's an instant turn off sexually, (but still fascinating nonetheless).

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 2:49:19 PM

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it wasnt media for me atleast i dont think it was
was a freidn helping me find a difrent way to cope with my stress

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 2:52:45 PM

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to answer simply - no.

my fascination with BDSM started when i met a dominant online and the rest is history

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/5/2007 4:56:58 PM

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i think if your wonder about this you need to see this lol

1965 Anti-Pornography Propaganda film

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NidUG88wY4o

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/6/2007 5:28:23 AM

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whenever I saw a dominatrix scene in a movie I would think that it was hot but would give no more thought to it.

As far as what brought me into the scene itself, a good friend took me to a fetish club one night, she beat the hell out of me and I enjoyed it. the rest is history...

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/6/2007 5:29:41 AM

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No.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/6/2007 6:46:48 AM

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No, mine did not. Mine came from a person who I was involved with early on.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/6/2007 7:32:58 AM

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Interesting question, i think the media impacts us in so many ways we are not even aware of. i became interested and involved in my late 30's but i think the underlying inclination was always there. i just chose to bury it, ignore it, and not generally think or indulge in it. i do have a memory which is pertinent to this thread theme. When i was about 6 i was taken to see a movie by my sister. i was fidgeting in my seat as it was hard for me to sit still in those seats. It happened to be a scene on the screen of a woman, she was mexican i believe as she had her hair tied back with a flower in it and she was wearing the typical colorful frilly mexican dress. She was tied to a post and crying. There was a matador there as well and they were in a bull ring. She was being whipped by this matador. i do vaguely remember seeing shots of the bull, but have no recollection of him. As this scene was progressing and i was fidgeting, all of a sudden i had my first orgasm, i remember it quite distinctly as it overwhelmed me. My question would be - which caused which? Was it inside of me even then and i responded to the scene, or did watching the scene as i happened to be fidgeting create this connection? i will never know

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/6/2007 9:22:04 AM

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I was playing 'capture the spy' when I was under ten with my friends and all sorts of other fun games. As I got older and realised more about myself the media did help in presenting idea's and confirming that i wasn't the 'only one' out there thinking and feeling these things. The terrible movie Waxworks in the 80's inspired more Marque De Sade fantasies than anything I had ever read before.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/6/2007 11:04:04 AM

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It isn't that it triggered my interests but more than my interests greatly affected what I wanted to watch and what I remember seeing from my childhood. There are lots of cartoons where up until a few years ago I thought were really set on "Amazon" islands and worlds when it turns out it was merely an episode or two of seasons of a show.

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