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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/6/2007 11:07:50 AM

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I don't think the media lead me to becoming a dominant. I feel it was in my nature/personality from the beginning. But as was said earlier the media influences us in many ways. We see and read things that affect us. I was 14 when the Gor series first came out and I knew nothing about BDSM, but I knew there were scenes in the books that captured by imagination. Media made me aware of the community and helped give me the courage to join it. But I would have found some way to express my feelings, I am sure.
So I would say it shapes us, but does not create us.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/6/2007 2:27:26 PM

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No. I was a sadistic little bitch long before I even heard of BDSM. Even when I did hear of it, I had a totally skewed idea of what it was and did not identify with that idea at all.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/14/2007 3:55:21 PM

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Mine didn't come from anything to do with the media. So, I'd have to say the answer to the question, at least for me, is no.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/14/2007 4:10:19 PM

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I think a lot of people were living it and did not know what they were till media came along how could they it had been underground for many years so. most people unless they were part of the underground scene which was ran mainly by the old leather guard or they were deep into porn could not know

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/14/2007 4:16:57 PM

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No. My earliest fantasies of being bound and used and caged were back when I was watching Romper Room, Captian Kangaroo and Mr. Rodgers. I thought I was a freak until I realized others were into it, too.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/14/2007 4:29:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: SirEbonyPhoenix

Or could it be something much deeper than this, such as the music we listen to or a strong desire to fulfill our sexual fantasies? Any thoughts on this?

wait... so the music i listen to is deeper than the media of film??
i'm confused...

anyway i don't really buy into the idea that you see something in the media and go forth and act it out like some kind of well-programmed manchurian automaton. that's right up there with "playing doom made the columbine boys shoot people" or "listening to marilyn manson made my daughter worship satan" you become fascinated by these things because they resonate with something inside you that's already there.

although sometimes i wonder if we don't pick things subconciously that highlight that part of ourselves more than we think they do...

i sometimes look at something i'm obsessed with, or used to be obsessed with and wonder "do i like this because i'm a submissive?"

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/14/2007 5:45:16 PM

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I think media exposure might influence how often someone thinks about BDSM activity (if they are not active yet in any kind of BDSM life-style, perhaps) - and I think it also might influence how they view BDSM (if they've not made their mind up about that and are not also exposed to sites like this one, for instance), BUT - I've been thinking about things like this since I was about 10 years old, sans any BDSM exposure at all -so, for me, the answer would be No.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/14/2007 6:30:48 PM

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I tend to agree with denika... for my own part, I had a definite liking for girls on the playground who were "take charge" types, even from an early age. I grew up thinking I was some kind of mutant because of it. Then, around '74, Playboy ran a pictoral on the Jacklin version of "Story of O" and realized there was a name for what it was that interested me so much. A name... and that there were enought people out there also interested in it to make producing a movie about it worth while. It was the classic: "I'm not the only one!" moment.

However, as she rightly pointed out, from that moment on, I was a little more aware of such depictions in the media, and it shaped my desires somewhat. I know that I definitely picked up ideas from Catwoman, and Emma Peel, and all those other "damsel in distress" scenes in adventure stories. By the time I actually hit puberty, I think the pattern had been set. But I feel I was predisposed to it to begin with.

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RE: Did our fascination with BDSM come from the media? - 8/14/2007 8:20:34 PM

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