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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/18/2007 7:08:37 PM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		In the past I have played as a submissive only with my Master/husband. On Saturday night at a play party, he handed me over to a gay proDom friend for a scene. It was an amazing experience. Gay male Tops who usually play with other males often have a much more confrontational style than het males playing with females, and he knew me well enough to know that he didn't have to moderate his play for me. It was an amazing and challenging experience. I loved it! (And have the bruises to prove it, lol)

We are often approached by gay women to play as we are seen as safe, being a "straight" hetero couple - they get to play without the complications. I have also assisted in a scene where a gay male pro Dom was topped by a bisexual female pro Domme. The play was incredible. These "cross over" scenes can be awesome.

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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/18/2007 8:27:39 PM   
Aswad


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Phin

this question is less for the bisexual folks here and more for the hetero- or homo-sexual crowd


Not sure what I qualify as. Never gave it a twirl, really.
Only feel emotional attraction to females, though, so I'll bite.

quote:


do you play with people of the oppisate gender than you are attracted too?


Not yet; I've considered it, since there have been offers, but I lack the time to reconcile it with my faith. Most likely, I will conclude that the prohibitions are irrelevant, being of a political nature, rather than an actual commandment. In that case, I will try it.

For me, there isn't the same emotional attraction as to a woman.
But I can't predict whether the dynamic itself will work.

Worst case, I'll work it methodically, trying to provide a good session, much as if hired to do so.
Men give as many clues as to what kind of a time they are having as women do.
Going by those clues should give a positive experience.
Hence, I'm willing to give it a serious go.
If the faith bits work as I think.


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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/19/2007 11:03:12 AM   
PONYSEEKER


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Status: offline 		To me its just way to sexual for me to even think about Doming a guy.  I have never had any kind of sexual intrest in men and durring the time I get really rough with a sub its not uncommon for semen to be running out of me...LOL So for me I just couldnt do it because my own bodies reaction would embarrass me. For me a woman who can take a lot is a tease keeping me on the edge the whole time.

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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/19/2007 2:58:11 PM   
daddysliloneds


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Phin

this question is less for the bisexual folks here and more for the hetero- or homo-sexual crowd

do you play with people of the oppisate gender than you are attracted too?


yes; yummmm!

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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/19/2007 3:53:37 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Yes, I have played with the same sex and found it very unsatisfying.
 
To me, I find the female submissive much too needy, plus I do not enjoy touching them (way too squooshy for my tastes). 
 
The "neediness" of a male submissive I handle (and enjoy) much better.
 

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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/19/2007 4:36:01 PM   
VeryMercurial


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Status: offline 		I would be willing to do a scene with a female.
I prefer male submissives and for me, a lot of this has sexual connotations.
I enjoy being in a close physical and sexually charged scene.

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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/19/2007 6:53:11 PM   
PrincessEllie


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Status: offline 		For me, BDSM is a part of who I am but it is also very sexual.
You wouldn't get into a vanilla relationship with someone who doesn't attract you, why ever would you do it with BDSM?


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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/19/2007 7:20:34 PM   
Sinergy


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For me, it is the emotional and physical connection to my partner, being able to sense her feelings and reactions and moods and energy, which attract me to a person.  I am not a sadist, and I tend to blame that on spending 30 some odd years in martial arts and self defense; I know how to damage people.  But I can effect change on my partner by the use of pain, and it is that change that I live for.

The need for that connection is why I tend towards monogamy.

D/s for me is rather sexual.  While there have been times in my past where I had that sort of mental connection with a man, where I would want to rise into that connection, it has been many, many, years. 

Sinergy

p.s.  I imagine the fact that I think men are funny looking and I dont want to have sex with them might also be a factor.



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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/19/2007 7:26:52 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		I am with you on this Sinergy.
D/s for ME, is sexually charged also.
I don't knock those that don't feel this way, but unless it is a demonstration,
I need a physical/sexual/relationship connection to really GET into what I am
doing and the person I am with.

**I want to add I am heavily into the D/s aspects of this lifestyle, so that explains it.**
**IF I were a major Sadist, heavily into inflicting pain, I would feel very differently!**  
 

< Message edited by MzMia -- 7/19/2007 7:49:03 PM >

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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/19/2007 11:28:58 PM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		I don't do public scening, but if I did I would not scene
publicly or even privately with the opposite sex.
I like men as friends in fact my best friend is a hetrosexual man.
Having anything to do with my sexual life though, just isn't going to happen.
This for me includes WIITWD.
 
Missy.

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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/22/2007 5:50:35 AM   
leatherette


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Status: offline 		A connection. A spark and a bond. A physical, caring, intimate, sexual relationship.
Got to have this spiral of energy.

Sometimes, I wish I didn't.
I like it - need it to be personal.

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RE: Sexual preference vs. BDSM preference - 7/22/2007 12:20:51 PM   
LadyIce


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quote:

ORIGINAL: leatherette

A connection. A spark and a bond. A physical, caring, intimate, sexual relationship.
Got to have this spiral of energy.

Sometimes, I wish I didn't.
I like it - need it to be personal.


I agree with leatherette, the connection is intense, physical and sexual for me.
For some it may not be the case, but for me it is very physical.

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