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Hello everyone,
I have recently joined this online community and find it most delightful. Nonetheless, please allow me to apologize to you all for not saying "hi" in the introductions section first before posting anywhere else.
Anyhow, there are actually a few question I wish to raise; that is, the relationship between politics, history (specifically colonial history), sexuality and BDSM. It would be more proper if I were to define specifically what I mean by politics, colonial history, sexuality and BDSM first before talking about them or drawing relationships about them, but that would be a tedious task for me and a very boring read for you. After all, this lifestyle or hobby is suppose to be fun, enlightening, entertaining and fulfilling and not boring, discouraging and regressive for our souls. Therefore, for the sake of convenience and facilitate reading, we shall understand the said terms as they are used in every day context.
Please let me start off by saying that I was inspired to post this after some thinking on my own thanks largely to a book I read awhile back entitled "Black skin White masks" by Frantz Fanon. Most people know Dr. Fanon as a revolutionary who sympathized with the Algerian Revolution. Others know him as a psychoanalysis. It is the latter Fanon in which I am most touched by. Although I am not a Black man, I am a man of color. Although I was not born in Algeria, I was born in a former British colony. Although I am not French educated, I am Canadian (Anglo) educated. And finally, although I can never see the world through the eyes of a Black man, I can see the world through the eyes of a "Chinaman" or "Chink" or whatever racist or derogatory term used to describe a person of my ethnicity.
At first you may ask why I would post something of this nature in a BDSM board, but as you will see, my reasons are threefold. 1) I wish to understand why certain White males still insist on fetishsizing "Oriental" women as docile, fragile, submissive, obedient and full of sexual energy who can never get enough; 2) why certain "colored" people both male and female consider being with Whites as "fucking up"; and 3) considering the first two conditions in a BDSM context where a White volunteers to be dominated by a "colored person" or a former colonized "colored person" to be voluntarily dominated by Whites.
Lets consider the first situation.
As a Chinese-Canadian it really pisses me off when I hear comments from Whites saying how "submissive" "Asian" girls are. At the same time, it pisses me off just as much when I hear comments saying how "horny" "Asian" women are. This constitutes two and only two labels for "Asian" women. They are either so submissive to the point that they can not survive without the "guidance" of a male, almost always White because the Asian man isn't man enough or does not have the desire or ability to lead her or satisfy her, or, so aggressive that she will fuck his brains out until his balls are drained making him crawl out of bed. So, Asian women are either the "innocent school girl" or "the dragon lady" and they can not be anything in between. What's up with that dawg?
Situation two.
Beginning with the US Civil War to the British outlawing slavery to wars of liberation after WWII to wars of independence to the Civil Rights Movement to the UN Universal Declaration of Human Rights and so on and so forth ..... why do certain colored people still think or believe that they are inferior to the White man? Why do they desire so much to be banged by a White man? I mean yeah, it is true. If you are a White man, it automatically puts you in an advantageous position in respect to a higher income then a colored person and a women because of unequal pay for equal jobs. Which means that if you are a women from a third world country, your ticket to an "American lifestyle" of Gucci and Prada is to marry a White dude and not a the fellow from your village because to her, he's stuck in his shit hole. Moreover, I have also heard of stories where colored people are self haters and the only way for them to be White, to be away from their own kind is to have White in them, literally speaking. And by doing so, s/he is adapting his lifestyle, his culture, his values, his language and as a result becomes White. I do not understand these people! Where is your pride and self respect not only for yourself but also your people? Why do some people think that they are inferior to the White man? This also transcends race because it includes women as well. Not just "colored" women but also White women as they too are victims of the male. With all the feminist movements, literature, etc. Why do certain women still consider themselves to be inferior to men? I don't know about you but last time I check, female graduate students at my school outnumbered male graduate students 6:4. Yet, if more and more women are being more educated then men are, how come they are still making less and that we see so few women political/business leaders? I always thought that there was a positive co-relationship between education, position and income. One article that is stuck in my mind is that when I was in school I read an article by Harvard Business Review saying that women are suited for middle management because of their characteristics. When I came out to the work force, I looked around and was pretty sure the organizations has but the HBR's article into practice. To me, this is sad because this makes it even more difficult for women to be in position of power or in the decision making process making the glass ceiling thicker ... whad up man? Why do certain women still rely on men? Why do some women still insist on leaching off men when they have the ability to make their own money and build a career based on her own abilities and intellect?
Situation number three.
I find this one to be the most interesting and relevant to this board because of the dynamics and relationships which includes both race and sex or gender. As of now, I am personally trying to work things out and on the road of self discovery. I am a hypocrite and a self contradiction in this regard. I do not know why but I have a stronger sense of submission when I submit to a White women as opposed to an Asian women. Perhaps it is my Western (Anglo) education that has shaped a large part of my character or perhaps it is the media. Or perhaps it is just because of my background as a former subject of the British Empire that when I submit to a White women, I feel a sense of connection with her because her people used to be my colonial masters and when I voluntarily submit to her in a BDSM relationship, the feeling is stronger? I just find it interesting how my personal background which includes colonial history to play such a significant role in my sexuality. Nonetheless, I do not have the same desires as the people mentioned in situation number one. I have dated a White girl before and never have I thought I was "fucking up". In fact, I have dated Whites, Blacks and Asians and just know a pretty, beautiful and intelligent women when I see and meet one. Therefore, here is the question I wish to throw out: Can you help me solve this riddle, a riddle of identity, gender and race when placed in the BDSM context?
Thanks y'all !
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by the stereotypical comments. Then I decided to focus on the question you (finally ) came to. 
but he still has me serve white Dominants on a regular basis, particularly those of a sadistic, somewhat racist nature. He feels the degradation is healthy and good for me as a slave, and it fulfills my own needs as well. 
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