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RE: Littleone??? - 7/14/2007 11:29:09 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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I only get irked by it when it's an assumed relationship that doesn't exist. A guy using the term with me trying to make me all melty is just going to get a raised eyebrow. But someone I'm in a relationship with and has that sense of closeness already will have a positive reaction.

Names have power, use them as you wish.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/14/2007 12:02:56 PM

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I think it is one of those terms that can be used to insult. I also see it as a sign of respect/acknowledgement by a dominant of someone he/she considers to be submissive. I also see it as an endearment.

I am sure there are those who throw around "little" or "little one" or "girl" with every submissive they meet or those who begin using those terms in what seems to be a very quick manner. In the second instance, it may just be that they have read your posts and may have never responded but may feel as they have come to know a lot about you through your postings and it may be a "slip" when they first write you because of that feeling when what is meant is the acknowledgement/respect I noted above.

I have been called "Sir" by those who have not met me and when I have asked why, I have sometimes gotten the response that they address all male dominants in that way and I have sometimes gotten the response that they have read my postings and it is their way of acknowledging that they like/respect what I have written.

I would say that in most cases, give the person the benefit of the doubt until their actions/words indicate something more ulterior and/or a general lack of respect that the person is trying to cover with a careless use of the term.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/14/2007 12:14:14 PM

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My Daddy used to call me 'little one", "baby girl" and "kitten". Coming from Him, it make me feel really special. However, a Dom i was speaking to since being released called me by the first two, and it just meant nothing to me. I guess it just depends on who is using the name, and what they mean to you.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/14/2007 1:04:43 PM

nephandi

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Hi

quote:

Good post, but I would add that I see some submissives giving themselves a nickname with "lil" or "littleone" in it, and it perhaps....... not fitting.

That i very true to. Many have names that are less than self insightful. :)

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My ex used to call all women he dated "Babe". He said it was easier to call them all the same thing so no mistakes were ever made.

Lol, well a very smart man that. ;) And my Master agrees. Problem solves he says.

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I am sure there are those who throw around "little" or "little one" or "girl" with every submissive they meet or those who begin using those terms in what seems to be a very quick manner. In the second instance, it may just be that they have read your posts and may have never responded but may feel as they have come to know a lot about you through your postings and it may be a "slip" when they first write you because of that feeling when what is meant is the acknowledgement/respect I noted above.

i know, and i dont think it is anything wrong whit it, i just find it curious. i think it is a bit like my mother said that when she was chosing my name she did not want to choose one that would sound strange if i ended up fat, like Siv, with is a thin little plant or Lill witch is also a common Norweegian girls name. i dont have anything against being called little one, it just think it is funny and wonder a bit why the Dominants do it.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/14/2007 2:20:23 PM

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At first i thought that all masters call me little one because of my age! but then i realized that they call all the slaves in the same way...

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/14/2007 2:20:57 PM

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Fast reply to no one in particular...

As it relates to one's personal relationships and pet names, I have no issue with "little one", "snookums" or anything else. But when it comes to calling a total stranger "little one" I can barely stifle a laugh. Term of endearment my ass. Yeah, I know how friendly the folks are down south so I don't need a lecture. I've spent plenty of time in the south, and that's not a common term amongst strangers.

It's a thinly veiled effort to establish a power exchange where none exists. And frankly, it's laughable.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 8:42:37 AM

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Even though I am not all that big - I'm not all the thrilled with littleone (part of it is old tapes).
If it is a Dom/Master I respect I like girl (but if I don't know you - don't go there.)

My favorite is "my" witch.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 9:33:12 AM

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What I thought was really funny was when a submissive guy wrote and called me 'lilone' a couple of days ago. I wrote him back to ask why he: a) wrote to me since he's a sub, and b) called me 'lilone'. He replies that he's really a switch and mostly dom. Needless to say, I had a good long laugh as I clicked the delete button.

I /might/ tolerate a nickname from someone I know well, but complete strangers can forget it.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 9:33:31 AM

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Last night I received a first time email from a dominant who said, "hello lil' one". I couldn't help but giggle because he was 5'4" and I am 5'10" in my bare feetsies. Alrighty then......

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 9:56:06 AM

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I had one clueless individual send me a private message addressing me as "little one" when we were both in a BDSM chatroom a while back. I politely advised him that he needs to read profiles before sending private messages, as he would have seen that I was a Domme. He then patronizingly informed me that I, like all the other "misguided Dommes," was in need of "masculine care and guidance" even if I did not realize it. After telling him he was in need of a visit from the "clue fairy" I blocked him, LOL. It is quite possible he did read the profile and just wanted to see what reaction he would get. Or he could have been one of those individuals who thinks that being female automatically equates with being submissive.

Lady Topaz

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 10:05:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

I had one clueless individual send me a private message addressing me as "little one" when we were both in a BDSM chatroom a while back. I politely advised him that he needs to read profiles before sending private messages, as he would have seen that I was a Domme. He then patronizingly informed me that I, like all the other "misguided Dommes," was in need of "masculine care and guidance" even if I did not realize it. After telling him he was in need of a visit from the "clue fairy" I blocked him, LOL. It is quite possible he did read the profile and just wanted to see what reaction he would get. Or he could have been one of those individuals who thinks that being female automatically equates with being submissive.

Lady Topaz

Or it could be that he's still waiting for a visit from that clue fairy (love that term), and is simply expressing what he's learned about "real D/s" from some silly online website.

John

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 10:09:34 AM

dincubus

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personally i would never use those words for my One... unless in a scene setting...
it is a personal thing. to give a short answer... i was engaged to a prosecuting attorney. i saw the case files for what she did... not cool... she was doing DV cases...

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ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl

well how about whore, slut, cunt, etc.....

i kind of understand what your saying but dont take the words little one as a tactfull humiliation attempt. Take it like the Dominant cares and is expressing care.

It took me a long time to figure out that the "names" my Owner calls me is His way of saying i love you and i care about you.

I love you and I care about you is never said by Him, it's expressed in other ways and when He chooses to express it, it does make me feel "special" in a way.

Just remember it's not the choice of words or phrases, but the thought that counts.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 10:09:54 AM

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I've tended to shrug off the 'little one' thing as an online way. I've never been called that in real life, be it by a dom, or anyone else I know lol. It doesn't do anything for me, nor does babygirl, babydoll, etc. Terms of endearment, or terms of address only have a power over me, an effect on me, if I let them.

I've had people email me on here claiming I'm a player, or poser lol (one because I actually *shock* signed my name on the end of an email- wow who would have thought basic letter writing protocol would be a bad thing. I sign my work emails with my pen name, my family emails with my 'birth' name, and emails to do with the scene/lifestyle with the name I was given.). Other's have called me a bitch, well thankyou, yes I am one, their point would be what? It comes with the work I do.

Honestly speaking, to me it sometimes comes across as a form of laziness to call all subs/slaves/women/whatever by the same form of address. But that's a choice they make and the side of their personality they wish you to see. They can live with the choices, or change, and it obviously - to a degree- works for them or they wouldn't keep on doing it.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 10:23:13 AM

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I find that I have started to really like using one's name (or an honorific) in conversations... both in online and real life conversations. It had always been difficult for me in the past.

It is a result of.... recently, I find that when Dominants contact me, they like to use their favorite "name" for me, for example, kitten, pet, girl. I felt so generic. They don't know me and they want to create some familiarity... or even power exchange (echoing Rover's comment)... that doesn't exist. I find it rather presumptuous.

But it made me change my behaviour and now I use names. I will not use "Sir" with anyone but my dear Sir, but I enjoy using one's name...real or scene...doesn't matter to me.

best!

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 10:31:52 AM

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quote:

well how about whore, slut, cunt, etc..... i kind of understand what your saying but dont take the words little one as a tactfull humiliation attempt. Take it like the Dominant cares and is expressing care.

It took me a long time to figure out that the "names" my Owner calls me is His way of saying i love you and i care about you.

I love you and I care about you is never said by Him, it's expressed in other ways and when He chooses to express it, it does make me feel "special" in a way.

Just remember it's not the choice of words or phrases, but the thought that counts.

~meticulous~

i don't know why, but i actually have a harder time being called names that are normally used as profanity. i never really understood why they are used in the first place and is there a special reason for them being used? i'd rather be called "li'l one" rather than "cunt, bitch or slut" any time.
*sweet caleigh*

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 11:24:38 AM

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i don't know why, but i actually have a harder time being called names that are normally used as profanity. i never really understood why they are used in the first place and is there a special reason for them being used? i'd rather be called "li'l one" rather than "cunt, bitch or slut" any time.
*sweet caleigh*

For me, lil' one definitely doesn't work. As some have said, it feels wayyy too generic. However, bitch, slut, whore, can be great.... but not standing alone. I take high offense to being called A slut.... however, when He calls me My slut.. it makes so much difference. Amazing how two little letters can change the whole meaning.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 11:27:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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but I would add that I see some submissives giving themselves a nickname with "lil" or "littleone" in it, and it perhaps....... not fitting.

!! Are you trying to start another fat thread?

you know, he is just a trouble maker, that Level, lol

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 11:36:22 AM

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I love when Master calls me littleone...I don't find any insult in it at all. It's a term of endearment. It's also something he can call me in public to remind me of my "station". It's mostly just a common nickname. If you look in the vanilla world you will find a lot of men use it if his wife or girlfriend is smaller in some way (height, age, etc.). I personally will always prefer that one over some of the examples that have been provided.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 1:07:30 PM

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At 5'6 your still six inches shorter than I am. To me that makes you a lil one. The 285 pounds means I would need to regulate your eating since you obviously can't do that for yourself.

But lil one is a nickname same as pet or kitten. If I were you I would just appreciate that someone cared enough to assign me a nickname. It shows interest.

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RE: Littleone??? - 7/15/2007 1:25:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist

At 5'6 your still six inches shorter than I am. To me that makes you a lil one. The 285 pounds means I would need to regulate your eating since you obviously can't do that for yourself.

But lil one is a nickname same as pet or kitten. If I were you I would just appreciate that someone cared enough to assign me a nickname. It shows interest.

Ah, yes. I remember my first good drunk. For your sake, let's hope that's the case. Then the worst you have to look forward to is the dry heaves and a headache. Otherwise, there's no getting over stupidity.

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