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Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 9:16:35 PM   
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...Although everyone is welcome.

A few days ago my cat suddenly started eating and drinking a lot less than he normally does. He also became much less active and affectionate, and he was always an very active and very affectionate cat. I took him to the vet this morning and then went through my day as best I could, trying not to worry too much. I got the news around 6pm. Liver cancer. He will have to be put down. I’ll be going back to the vet tomorrow morning so I can be there with him when it happens.

I first met him six years ago, a few days before my birthday, in the middle of November 2001. He was a very furry fella and quite young, little more than a kitten. He was hanging around the door to my apartment building, being friendly to everyone who passed by, but he seemed particularly interested in me. He would follow me to my car when I left in the morning and I’d have to shoo him away because he kept trying to get into the car with me. When I came home from work he would try to follow me inside and again I’d have to shoo him away. Then he’d perched himself outside my window and just stare at me.

This went on for a few days and he began to cry and cry more often. At first I assumed that he belonged to somebody nearby but now I began to wonder if he wasn’t lost (he seemed too friendly with people to be a stray). Finally, after three days, I couldn’t take it any more. I went outside and petted him and asked everybody who went by if they knew anything about him. One elderly gentleman in my building knew his tale (no pun intended).

He had belonged to a couple who lived in the building furthest from mine. They had gotten him for their young daughter. Unfortunately, the couple were quite noisy (apparently they liked to blast punk rock music at three in the morning) and got evicted. They had simply abandoned him. He was then taken in by another couple but when they found out that they had to pay a two hundred dollar pet deposit and an additional twenty on their rent – back out the door he went. That’s when he apparently pegged me for a sucker.

Well, we’d always had cats when I was growing up. I think cats are the second coolest creatures on the planet. Having recently moved in I hadn’t really though about getting a pet but I was cool to the idea of having one now. "Fine," I said, "looks like the third times the charm for you."

I brought him inside and gave him some water which he lapped up eagerly. I then went to the store to buy some cat food and a little box. When I returned, I found that he had knocked over my garbage and feasted on some chicken bones, and had then made himself quite at home, sleeping on my bed.

The next day I took him to the vet. She pronounced him to be six months old and other than a case of worms and some ear mites, healthy. It was while driving him back home that I decided that his story reminded me of Charles Dickinson’s story of Oliver. Thus did he become Oliver – but of course I, and everyone else, just called him Ollie.

I looked up his breed on the internet and discovered that he was a Main Coon. Like most Main Coons he is VERY furry, very affectionate and people oriented. He’s a bit smaller than the average Main Coon and the tufts on the top of his ears weren’t quite as pronounced, so maybe he’s got a little something else in him.

With Ollie I’ve had all the typical cat owner complaints and then some. I know I didn’t teach him to stay off the counters but to stay off the counters only when I was there. Most cat owners can tell you about shedding but with Ollie (who appeared to be twice as big as he really was) you have to multiply that by ten. Fur everywhere! I’ve gone through three vacuum cleaners in six years. And of course there were the hair balls. He was good for a big icky one about once a month.

So why will I miss him? Well, cat owners know the answer to that too.






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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 9:20:00 PM   
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will u be getting another cat in the future

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 9:22:47 PM   
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Wow, that sucks.
Nice story though.
I have a big Tabby Tomcat about 15 pounds ("Bubba") that I saved from the animal pound up in Stratham, N.H.
Hopefully he'll be around for many more years.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 9:29:44 PM   
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Hugs to you..I love my cats..I have one named Felix who was born in 92..He is perched on the window sill blocking any chance of a cool breeze as I type this.
I am dreading the time when he can no longer function.
Hugs to you kiddo..


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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 9:38:02 PM   
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Having lost many cat and dog family members over the years myself (4 I had to have put down due to illness), I understand what you're feeling.  You're doing what's best for Ollie, but you know that.  It still doesn't help much...

My thoughts are with you and your friend.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 9:46:55 PM   
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My heart goes out to you, Marc. My cats...all six of them...are near and dear to me. They're all rescues one way or another. I met Otis 14 years ago, the same way you hooked up with Ollie. Found Daisy in an alley five years ago when she was 3 months old. Now I've taken in a feral mama calico, Molly, and her three kittens, Alphie, Emma, and Chloe. Was gonna get 'em all fixed up and find homes for them, but I decided to keep them. I've had to say goodbye to some beloved pets, too. It was hard. For a long time. I guess that's how it has to be. I am sorry. Glad that you got to know and love Ollie, though.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 10:15:23 PM   
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Thanks to everone who responded so far.  As for whether or not I'll be getting a new cat, I think it's a little early to start thinking about that now.  Probably will happen, though, but it will be a few months before I even start thinking about it.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 10:31:09 PM   
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Do I have the only cat who likes watching t.v.?
Bubba's sitting on the couch right now watching "Driving Miss Daisey" on HBO.

Marc, yeah, you should probably wait a bit before getting another cat.
Nice story about how you got him.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 10:31:18 PM   
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Like DesertRat, we have six cats, all strays that we adopted. The last one was a very young pregnant female we adopted three months ago. She has five kittens, three of which died within a week, of fading kitten syndrome. The other two, are alive, well and hell on wheels. The mom is doing great, and is a real sweetheart.
 
I know how hard it is, and how sad you feel, and you have my sympathy of the heart ... but, you need to consider that you gave this cat some very good years. When we adopted the pregnant female, we has a dreadful cold spell a week later, just when she gave birth. All would have died, has we not taken them in.
 
Oliver ... it sounds like you gave him a happy home, and a chance to have a life, other than a bad one. Go get another cat tomorrow ... there are a lot more that need people like you.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 11:01:50 PM   
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I am sorry about the loss of your cat. I never had a cat but my sibling had 4 of them and i really adored those cats. They will always have a special place in my heart.
They are all gone but i remember the funny times i had with them. They were extremely affectionate cats. I would love to have them on my lap so i could pet them and also play with them.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 11:07:36 PM   
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A  *big hug*  to you, Marc.   You have My sympathy.  I know what it is like to lose a fur-kid.

So far, I have had to say good-bye to six precious babies.  Just thinking about them now has Me in tears.   You did the right thing for Ollie.  Your head tells you that it is time to let  him go, so he will not suffer,  but your heart screams "no!!!".  

I have had eight fur-kids so far.  All of them were stray's I took in, or the kittens of a stray I took in.  I really wasn't looking for a cat when they all found Me.  That sounds like the way you got Ollie -- he "chose" you, not the other way around. 

It is too soon to think about getting another friend.   Mourn for Ollie.  Grieve his loss.  Remember the joy and love he gave you.  And when the time is right,  another cat will come along and choose you.....



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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/11/2007 11:24:35 PM   
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I got Bubba when I lived up in New Hampshire.
The animal pound was on the way to the music store where I was taking fiddle lessons.
My ex g/f and her um lived in an apartment and couldn't have pets but I had a house with 4 acres of land.
One day on the way back from my lesson right out of the blue as I was comming up on the pound I just said out loud; "I think I'll get a cat!"
I turned in and went into the building and told the lady what I wanted and she told me to look around.
I looked and looked, no connection!
All of a sudden I saw this cat lying on his back with his paws stretched above his head like me sitting on the reclyning couch and I knew immediately that he was the one!

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/12/2007 12:50:55 AM   
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I am one of those who, when a cat moves in to my life, I add a place for dinner.

The quote that keeps me going is "Cats do not have owners, they have slaves."

I would suggest to you that you should feel blessed by the time your cat gave to you,
and understand that all you did for/with the cat was for everybody's benefit.

And further, I have had to lay my feline owner to rest more than once, and I feel
what you are going through.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/12/2007 12:52:28 AM   
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i am so sorry for your loss...........just this time yesterday, i was getting ready to take my furry friend to the animal ER......and after 14 years, rubbed his head as he went to sleep for the last time.....

furbabies love us no matter what.....that is why you will miss ollie, and why i have cried non-stop for the past 24 hours

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/12/2007 2:41:27 AM   
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Damn...it breaks my heart hearing about others losing pets....

i'm a cat owner myself, Marc, so i completely understand WHY you will miss your Ollie.  And, 2 of mine are Maine Coon's, the shedding & hairballs are mind-numbing *smile*

my deepest sympathies for your loss *hug*  This time *i* will post the bridge:

The Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together… – Author Unknown



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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/12/2007 3:00:46 AM   
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Hugs...  I lost an Olie years ago too. 


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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/12/2007 3:09:38 AM   
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well, thanks a lot for making me cry at 11 in the morning you lot!

I just got two kittens last week (4th July, so that will be easy to remember), so I'm at the other end of the pets affair right now. But your story reminded me so much of Mindy, the little cat from next door whose original owners dumped her at the pound when they split up when she was less than a year old. She'd already adopted us beforehand so we made the trip to go and get her. How anyone could be so uncaring for such a wonderful beastie I dont understand - she truly was the best cat ever, and did the trying to get into the car thing as well - she even followed us into town one day, and we had to walk back home with her when we discovered her behind us, weaving through the crowd. Then one sunny morning, 14th July I went to go to work and saw her asleep on the kerb in the sun. "You cant sleep there" I told her as I approached... but she was dead; not a mark on her, just sleeping peacefully. We buried her in the garden with her toys and her bowl and that is where she remains, in her garden.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/12/2007 3:45:29 AM   
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My condolences for your recent loss. Plays with shadows (so named because that's all he loved to do, as a kitten, was run around the house and jump at shadows) whom we've called Shads or Shadow for short, was a large (13 lb.) grey on grey tiger striped Maine Coon as well.

When he was younger, he was almost like my little brother... A bit of that sibling rivalry... Bat at the back of my head while I was sitting on the couch, I'd yell at him, he'd piss on a pillow, I'd rub his nose in it, he'd try to bite my friends, that sort of thing...

In any case, as we got older, that relationship changed much... When I began working from home, he got to the point that there wouldn't be a day gone by, while I was working on the computer that he wouldn't be on my lap...

When I slept, as I do, normally on my side... He was up stretched along the length of my body, front paws on my shoulder and purring quietly in my ear...

He too passed just recently (about 3 months ago, we had to put him down), due to a cancerous growth of the jaw... And he was also starting to show kidney issues in his bloodwork...

So we knew we had to do something about it, and trying to pay for the surgery for his jaw was too much... He wouldn't well have been the same after in any case.

He was very stoic, even when he couldn't eat or drink... Just wanted his attention, and didn't complain... Okay, I'm losin' it here again... Heh... I miss him a lot...

My condolences on your loss... I totally relate to what you're feeling.

Peace.

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/12/2007 5:51:56 AM   
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My sympathy to you also.  The love that cats give is unique.  We are truly blessed when one (or more) decide to share their lives with us.  The grief you feel now is a tribute to the love that your Ollie choose to share with you.  He trusted you to care for him and you did. 

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RE: Looking for sympathy from cat owners - 7/12/2007 6:00:29 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DommeChains
The love that cats give is unique.


I think it's called milk-treading and drool...



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