LadyHugs
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Dear hotwater07, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my mind's eyes I see, that real life is a priority. Few are blessed to be independently wealthy and have servants serve the slave/submissive.
I do care about my slaves and friends, to which I feel badly if I fail to check in with them and just see how as a person, they're doing. The 24/7 is impossible, as there must be time to sleep, work and such. The meaning is to say it isn't a weekend relationship or so many exceptions and or conditions that its extremely restricted.
My personal priorities for my slaves have been: 1. Themselves -take care of themselves, physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. 1.a. Communicate to me how best to give them support and how best to take unnecessary pressure off of them. Ex. Sometimes people have temporary times where its wild and high pressure--the last thing they need is their Dominant to be uncaring or disinterested and or making their life more frustrating/stressed.
For my own household, due to my first slave's inability to discuss his job and such, I created a mood code. For example, if he felt 'blue'/depressed all he had to say was 'blue' and or add other code words if needed. He didn't have to give a lengthy explaination as to not being in 'the mood' to be a outstanding slave. It can work for Dominants, as there are times--like for me currently, my mood isn't all cheery and dancing. Perhaps creating a mood code may work for your situation. I find, at times talking about it--by force or obligation, as none have the ability to read each other's minds--is bad timing.
I currently am sole care giver to a parent with Alzheimer's, I was taking care of two parents until one passed away a bit ago. I have no support and parent's finances won't support professional institutional relief. I have a dear friend who had a heart attack recently, a cousin who lost both parents to cancer, my parents were his God-parents--so, guess who went to their support when my cousin had to go through his cancer surgery. I've recently buried a friend from my green days. This has happened in the last three weeks. I haven't had a decent sleep since August 31, 2005. I've met my faculty obligations, presenting and mentoring obligations. I've been handling the books, legal aspects and running a home. April 16th, my nephew overslept his alarm and missed being murdered at Virginia Tech. My neighbor's child wasn't so blessed. Yes--life happens. I do the best I can with what talents I have. I admit I am more exhausted then I ever realized. I dare not take on a slave, as I wouldn't have quality time which a relationship requires--it is an investment. Having had slaves before in a relationship and on premise for years, at times I had to let the US Government take my slave away--It did not make us any less of a Master/Mistress-slave couple or any less a human being living life.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
< Message edited by LadyHugs -- 7/7/2007 8:00:50 PM >
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RE: Life Happens... - 
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But even not taking that into consideration, I cant imagine him ever intentionally adding to the burden when I'm overwhelmed...as he stated, he either helps or gets out of the way, and is ALWAYS there for me if I need him regardless. In fact one of his prime goals is to help free up more of my time, energy and focus so that they can be directed toward him. Just makes sense if ya ask me...
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