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RE: do you get aroused by danger?? - 6/25/2007 9:04:40 AM

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Many things we do in the Lifestyle is dangerous. I think you mind fucked yourself. your imagination ran away with you and it sounds like it was a fantastic ride. Sometimes the illusion of danger.. is just enough to push someone to that "edge". We desire to ride that edge or we would not do what we do. If it was normal would it be fun.

You can find that thrill safely in parking lots etc... the mind will play fantastic tricks on you... sometimes whether you want it to or not. It is that desire to live outside the box.

I am glad something that was so normal for you got you hot and bothered... that your mind was able to go there and you still felt safe and aroused.

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RE: do you get aroused by danger?? - 6/25/2007 12:16:07 PM

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I am glad something that was so normal for you got you hot and bothered... that your mind was able to go there and you still felt safe and aroused.

MadameB, this is the most outrageous, irresponsible comment I have read on these boards in quite a while. She should take a situation that is potentially a really dangerous one, and you suggest she should just go inside and pretend it is safe? Yes, the lifestyle can be dangerous, and yes a lot of us get off on the "illusion" of danger. But to take a potentially real dangerous situation and pretend it is illusion is absurd.

We all can enjoy the lifestyle, which can get pretty damn hot and heavy, but we know inside that the intent of the experience is to have a safe experience. No one in their right mind should EVER mix up that and a completely unknown situation where you have no idea what might really happen to you. Unless you just don't care about your personal wellbeing and safety.

Hate to come down like a ton of bricks, but SHEESH.

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RE: do you get aroused by danger?? - 6/25/2007 12:31:34 PM

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elusive, I would bet dollars to donuts that you have never actually had a really bad experience. Your feeling aroused at that situation was, to my way of thinking, a self-defense mechanism. By putting this real danger into a fantasy fetish setting, you were better able to cope with your fear. If the worst had happened, and they had grabbed you and raped you, believe me, arousal would be the last thing you would be thinking about.

I have spoken with many submissives on this issue. Only the ones who have never had the worst happen react the way you did. The ones who weren't so lucky realize how unsafe life can be sometimes. In that sort of situation, they feel fear, and not the fun pretend kind.

Moral of the story is learn to recognize real danger, even if it is only a perceived danger, and react accordingly to save yourself. Maybe you end up being wrong and feel silly for over reacting. Far better that than doing otherwise and becoming a real victim.

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Sir Dominic;
I certainly didn't mean to seem insensitive to the Submissives out there that have had bad experiences...and I want to be clear...this had never been an 'unsafe situation' before...I have walked that trail 3 or more days a week for at least the past 5 years...no I have never been raped, or abused...and really don't even like the 'play rape' so many do in this lifestyle, as I always considered an act of violence, not a sexual act...so now when I walk I take my little canister of pepper spray...but will be very selective about even taking it from my pocket...and when that uneasy feeling starts in my gut, I will high-tail it out of there...

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RE: do you get aroused by danger?? - 6/25/2007 12:55:48 PM

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While a single instance of a dangerous situation does have a tendency to shut off blood flow to the genitalia, higher brain functions, etc., I would wonder if the sex drive kicks into high gear when the dangerous situation is removed. It has been termed by many of the scholars I studied on this topic in college, that war is one of the biggest aphrodisiacs in existence. The constant threat of death ends up messing with the biological imperative to procreate as much and as quickly as possible, and most people in those situations go with it.

Good thing that what happens in warfare stays in warfare...

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RE: do you get aroused by danger?? - 6/25/2007 3:31:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

While a single instance of a dangerous situation does have a tendency to shut off blood flow to the genitalia, higher brain functions, etc., I would wonder if the sex drive kicks into high gear when the dangerous situation is removed. It has been termed by many of the scholars I studied on this topic in college, that war is one of the biggest aphrodisiacs in existence. The constant threat of death ends up messing with the biological imperative to procreate as much and as quickly as possible, and most people in those situations go with it.

Good thing that what happens in warfare stays in warfare...

Sinergy

interesting...and yes I only noticed how completely aroused I was when I was driving 5minutes to home...

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RE: do you get aroused by danger?? - 6/25/2007 3:54:35 PM

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I have found that any high or extreme emotion can result in arousal. Like that fight you just had before that make up sex. Most of the time if I remember correctly it is after the main event.

But I don't know as though I was ever aroused after a dangerous situation. Maybe that is because I have been in them too many times. When walking I walk like I will mess somebody up if they come near me. Parks are one of the worst places for a woman to be. Too many isolated spots. And pepper spray and mace... no good. I have seen a man take full blast from three and still take eight officers to get him down. All the rest of us almost went out.. but that rape from anger or violence is typically a monster like that man. I wouldn't chance it and I don't live in fear.

Thank you SirDominic... very well stated.

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RE: do you get aroused by danger?? - 6/25/2007 3:59:57 PM

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Elusive, you describe a situation that is potentially dangerous. You describe your fear. and mention your arousal after the fact. You also mention, that you find it hot, when you and your trusted partner, role play rape scenes. I assume there has been some conditioning of your head space, if youve experienced the delight of this situation being a sexual with your partner, and therefor more likely to get off on it, in its replaying whilst you crack one off.
What's wrong with that?
I adore 'fear' in my play. It is a role play, im not truly going to get hurt. But in my head, i 'could'. In reality, if i did struggle at the wrong moment, i could be cut by the sharp knife. But so far, i havent been. I like the illusion of fear. And lots of us do.
Playing on a edge, is fun. Some like our fun intense.
I agree that playing on that edge, should be left for people who know you well, visa versa, and where a period of evidenced trust has built up. Then it can get as scary as ya like! Lush.
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