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FBandme -> Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 6:16:30 PM)

Hello everyone!

We have had a profile on here for a couple weeks (and an introduction on message board) but have had no one contact us.  We are hoping to find some good folks that wouldn't mind advising and helping us on our journey of exploration. 

We are FBandme and have just joined the site.  Two years ago, we met and stepped  naturally into a D/s relationship.  FB is a natural dominant and has truly tapped into a submissive side of me that (before him) I was nervous to explore..  We are both excited to discover this side of ourselves and wish to learn and experience more.

We are looking for advice, friendship and fun.  Please feel free to contact us.  




michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 6:17:54 PM)

welcome to CM, hope you find what you're looking for.




MamaDomme -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 6:19:39 PM)

Welcome to CM!  I do hope you find what you are looking for here.  There are some really great people around--- just read all the different forums and I'm sure you can find lots of answers to questions you never knew you had!




MHOO314 -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 6:20:42 PM)

All good things take time, patience--and don't be afraid to contact others--




MsPleasure -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 6:26:31 PM)

Welcome..  Put a picture on  your profile....it works for me.




xolarkinxo -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 6:36:38 PM)

Welcome.  I agree with, MHOO314, contact others.  And start participating in threads on the boards; people get curious about who is posting and more will view your profile.  Good luck.




TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 6:48:29 PM)

Welcome, I have to agree with all here. But you might want to consider exploring the real life aspect as well in your own home town. Nothing is more satisfying than face to face interactions.And a much easier way to learn and grow as well, by observation of others dynamics and practices..Tempting




CelticPrince -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 8:42:14 PM)

FB and thee,

Hell yes there are people out here and the initial replies that you have received are good one.
Here is another. Reply to replies so that thew thread keeps coming up in the que. More exposure that way.

Good Fortune,

CP




slaverosebeauty -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 8:52:14 PM)

Welcome to the boards. [:)] Patience is definatly a virtue. Just relax, put up a picture, and relax. Make first contact, if you wait for people to come to you, you may be waiting a long time. Posting on the boards is a great first step, people are always looking at other people's profiles after they see posts.




MaamJay -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 8:59:53 PM)

Welcome to CM. Don't feel obligated to post a pic if you are not comfortable doing that, depends on your situation re work, small town etc. But I agree that joining in on various threads is a great way to get known as is posting your own question. Just be prepared for the variety of viewpoints though, we don't all agree here! And the more you post, you'll eventually get rid of that awful vanilla cone ;-) On the "other side" where your profile is, you can search and see if there are people in your own area whom you might be able to meet in real or who could put you in touch with the scene. Truly, you learn so much more that way, especially in terms of types of play that you might both be interested in but be reluctant to have a go in case you don't do it right or cause undue harm. Generally bdsmers are willing to share knowledge and hints, tips and warnings ... so remember, the only dumb question is one that's not asked! There is also a search function here for the forums, but if you can't make that work for you, post the question and the wondrous Lucky Albatross will come up with the links!

Good luck!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]




robertolapiedra -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 9:30:33 PM)

Hello FBandme. Welcome. Have you tried to contact people yourselves? If everybody wanting contacts "wait" to be "contacted," it could be a long wait. Sometimes the proactive approach works better (even if you just started your profile recently). Anyway, good luck. RL.

Edit: typo




EvilGeoff -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 9:31:31 PM)

To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.


Hope that helps!
- Geoff




slaverosebeauty -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 9:35:18 PM)

We don't all agree? You mean we aren't just one BIG extended happy family? I missed that memo. [:D]

The the OP, as much as we 'debate' on the boards, its amazing at how much experience is around here and how many people 'care' about the same things and supportive people are; as big as cm can be, its nice to have that 'small site' feel. People on these boards are passionate; thats for sure.




WhiplashSmile -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 11:09:20 PM)

Simply relax and be patient.  What you are seeking just might come to you.  Take it day by day online here.   You'll never know when the right one will create an account and pop online.  Even if somebody contacts you, they may or may not be THE ONE.   Don't give up hope, and don't place too high of expections in finding quick results.  You might find yourself becoming disappointed. 

Hell, you have yet to be proper broken in by the fakes, game players and phoneys, and the crazy ones!  This Joint can be pure HELL at times!  You're newbies here still!  Not that that is a bad thing.  If you ever find yourself going through HELL keep on going!  Sooner or later you will find a match.

So kick back and enjoy, it can be a bit of an adventure! think of it like a rollercoaster ride.  In the mean time enjoy the message boards.   It might help you expand your BDSM views, and you might even learn a thing or two new.

Welcome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!





DinaLynn -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/13/2007 11:36:04 PM)

I've had my profile up for a couple of weeks and I emailed everyone who seemed to fit my profile and said something simple like, 'I saw your profile and liked it.  Please look at mine and see if you'd like to email.'
 
Of course, only about 5 people out of the 25 or 30 I emailed even bothered to reply .... even though you can see when they read your email!
 
Dina




LadyHeart -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/14/2007 12:48:48 AM)

Welcome! This site has some wonderful resources as you will find as you go through the message boards. The Search option is great! If it's of any help, I post quite a few articles on the Journal section of my Profile. Some of them are notes from workshops we taught in our Perth Dungeon, some are observations and personal opinions. Feel free to browse and ask any questions you might have.
:))
LH




MasterFireMaam -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/14/2007 7:58:27 AM)

I suggest fleshing out your profile. Add and picture and define "fun". What limits do you have and what are you expecting out of a play partner. Also, tap into your local BDSM community. You can go to google and search using BDSM and the name of the nearest large city.

Welcome to the WWW of WIITWD.
(wide, wide world of what it is that we do)

Master Fire




akisha -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/14/2007 8:25:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FBandme

Hello everyone!

We have had a profile on here for a couple weeks (and an introduction on message board) but have had no one contact us.  We are hoping to find some good folks that wouldn't mind advising and helping us on our journey of exploration. 

We are FBandme and have just joined the site.  Two years ago, we met and stepped  naturally into a D/s relationship.  FB is a natural dominant and has truly tapped into a submissive side of me that (before him) I was nervous to explore..  We are both excited to discover this side of ourselves and wish to learn and experience more.

We are looking for advice, friendship and fun.  Please feel free to contact us.  


2 weeks??  I'd not get worried yet lol. Some of us have been here for years and still looking




Dnomyar -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/14/2007 11:18:01 AM)

First of all you dont need to post your pic on your profile. If people want to see what you look like let them contact you first. That way you can decide if they are worth your time to send them a picture. If you find any of these posters interesting then contact them. Be a little aggressive.




aparootsa -> RE: Is anyone out there? (6/14/2007 3:47:04 PM)

I see this as more of an adjunct to the life than a part of it. It's a way to connect with a larger-than-local group of kinkies, and kick ideas around with more viewpoints involved. But having a profile, being active on the forums and IRCing are three very different areas of engagement, and every one that you're active on will feed into being contacted. Be visible and people will notice you (whether in a positive or negative light depends, of course); sit back and they're likely to just float by. I recomment sitting back awhile and learning some of who's who and what's what, and contact people that strike your fancy. And have fun.




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