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ORIGINAL: daniL

Pictures aren't necessarily proof of seriousness in regards to bdsm, though. Sometimes someone is still a little sh*t even if they have a picture up [some people post pictures because then they know people think that their profile is 'realer' than non-photo profiles]. For me, since I'm not interested in dating anyone but my girl, I don't have a picture on my profile. Sometimes, this means when I message someone to just say 'oh, hey, your profile looked cool, not interested in dating, just wanted to say so', they don't necessarily believe I'm not a pervy male masquerading as a young woman, but you know what? If I had a picture, people would be messaging me because they saw the picture [not that I'm that hot, but having a picture increases the number of messages you would get because then people can choose whether or not they find you physically attractive]. And employers do google searches and other things now a days-- you can hire people to do that sort of search. For some people, they have no problem having a picture up, but for others the risk [and sometimes annoyance :) ] is too great to bother with a picture.