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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 8:17:55 AM   
colouredin


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ORIGINAL: shivvy

if i may please, Y/you have to remember that in some countries, the age of consent is lower than 18. i'm in the uk, and the age of consent here is 16. not that many P/people take notice of that anyway.

i got into D/s and bdsm when i woz 16. i'm now 21. my Master at the time woz a bit older than me and i am so grateful to Him for finding me and showing me how to fill that huge whole in my life wot i felt. W/we have gone O/our seperate ways now, and i am collared by a new Master and Mistress in a 24/7 TPE relationship. i am very happy and content, and owe it all to my 1st Master.

i agree with the OP and think that there should be something to help younger people who don't understand them feelings, and need help and pointing in the right direction, so T/they can begin T/their own journies in safety.

with respect,

shiv
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Sorry just to correct you, the legal age for sex is 16 not for fetish thats 18, however there is confusion because the law states that assault is assult whether you consent or not.

I do think its worthwhile for younger members to talk to older ones tho, i only really discovered this abotu 8 months ago, and initially i used a very nilla website with a D/s room which was a very nice way to learn about things, it had a wide range of members, only once i felt comfortable there did i seek out BDSM orienated sites. I now find it far easier to talk to members older than me than my age because they tend to be a lot more secure about who they are and what they want therefore i find i learn more from them. The site i initially used was on faceparty, if you stay out of the politics they are a nice group of people.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 10:34:55 AM   
Guilty1974


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ORIGINAL: Disturbance

I know several teens that are into bdsm. I looked all over the internet and searched forums but i cant find a website that is directly for teens or like 18- 25.


There's pretty good site/forum/chatbox for 16-35 year olds. Unfortunately it's Dutch, so I guess it won't be of much use to you. Fortunately the law here permits us a little more in providing information, as there's quite a group of young people interested.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 12:05:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: spanklette

Just a warning...I hate the TNG groups. They are the definition of drama, even the real time ones. I'd rather the mature lifestylers anyday, not that they don't have their share of drama...but at least, I don't have to hear about every gory detail, well, most of the time.
 
There are those few who will never grow out of the drama and gossip, but I just found it was more rampant in the TNG groups, ymmv.


Just have to point out...the TNG group I belong to is nothing like this.  It's a wonderful group of people who have not been into the lifestyle for 50 years and who do not claim to know everything and who are extraordinarily accepting.  I have heard a presenter or two from other groups/areas talk about some of the drama going on in their prospective groups that are 21+.  I haven't experienced in of these problems thus far.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 1:11:51 PM   
meticulousgirl


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Status: offline 		I have to admit that I'm really glad that I found this site.

I'm 22 and have been active in the lifestyle since the day I turned 18 ( I was a good girl and waited) but the thing is, I think I'm ready to settle down hopefully with someone closer to my own age.

I've just kind of given up on finding someone my age due to immaturity and the whole thought process of sex, sex, sex, it's so much more to ME than that, maybe i'll start again, maybe something will come out of it this time who knows....

Thanks for posting though, I never would have thought of that


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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 1:32:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty

I had a group on yahoo set up, but things got complicated so I took it down, we had those who were 16 or younger trying to sneek in and I am NOT going to prison for ANYONE.

I'm 26, you can talk to me. I have been in this since I was 18, and on this site for about 4 years or so. I currently mentor a 19yr old {I checked her drivers licence when we met just to be safe}. I'm around a decent part of the time right now, just send me an email.


I wouldn't think this is the best of ideas....You might want to check out the "Collar of protection thread" 

Just take your time at your own pace...Listen and learn and stay away from mentors and anyone who comes to you and offers guidance or to "help" you out....Their motives are unknown and probably not legit.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 3:26:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		i got started at 16 and I am still always the youngest. my master has friends that have younger subs, older college aged and a little older but it never seemed like there were many teens in it

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 3:48:30 PM   
amaidiamond


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Status: offline 		Ive been active sexually and *non officially* since 16 and scene wise (munches, gatherings etc) since 18 and I found it soooo hard to get information when i was younger, sad really as the only ones that would speak to me when I wished to learn were the sort of people it wasnt wise for me to be around... I am lucky i have a good head on my sholders however i agree with the OP

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 3:53:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Disturbance

this isnt the usual teen question about if the age is right.

I know several teens that are into bdsm. I looked all over the internet and searched forums but i cant find a website that is directly for teens or like 18- 25. All that pops up is porn and the question if its right or not.

I was just wondering if there is a site for that age range to talk to others. my slave gets 100 emails a day and majority are from guys that have nothing in common with a teen other then bdsm and with some teens it might work out but usually not.

I do apprecaite the advice from elders. but I think if theres not a site for teens directly there should be one setup.



Bud...your profile pegs you at 18.  You're barely of age to be asking these questions.

Call back when you're interested in 25 year old women...k?

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 5:26:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MadameMajidah

Quite frankly... as a 19 year old, I've found that most people my *age* just don't get it.


I really am sorry you've had such a bad time with people your age.  If it makes you feel any better, both TNG groups that I'm currently involved with as well as the one I was casually involved with in college all had some sort of educational part.  I agree that learning is hard when you're young.  You don't have the dispossable income that is sometimes nessicary to invest in the lifestlye (I'm quite jealous of you having so many real corsets, feel free to message me with where you got them).



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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 6:30:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: junecleaver

quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

Just a warning...I hate the TNG groups. They are the definition of drama, even the real time ones. I'd rather the mature lifestylers anyday, not that they don't have their share of drama...but at least, I don't have to hear about every gory detail, well, most of the time.
 
There are those few who will never grow out of the drama and gossip, but I just found it was more rampant in the TNG groups, ymmv.


Just have to point out...the TNG group I belong to is nothing like this.  It's a wonderful group of people who have not been into the lifestyle for 50 years and who do not claim to know everything and who are extraordinarily accepting.  I have heard a presenter or two from other groups/areas talk about some of the drama going on in their prospective groups that are 21+.  I haven't experienced in of these problems thus far.

I'm glad that you found a TNG group that suits you. I just have not had the same experience. Fortunately for me, the regular groupies suit me just fine and my favorite is in her 50's...so, I guess I'm not one for the age barriers. But, in retrosepect, there are really very few people my age that I really get along with. So, maybe it's just me...but I also think it's the particular TNG groups.
 
Maybe it's just that I prefer to be more inclusive when attending lifestyle events...but, like I said earlier, ymmv.

 

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 6:53:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Smiles* .... as far as being able to purchase furniture and corsets and the like..it's taken years of planning.
But that's just because Ive known exactly what I wanted for about 7 years now..planning ahead works wonders.
As far as TNG groups go... I may look into starting one around these parts..based on educating my peers About the Lifestyle... instead of providing them excuses to participate in drama filled, angst ridden *love* fests.. Who knows, but.. Ill do some studying on it!~!

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 6:58:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Griswold

Bud...your profile pegs you at 18.  You're barely of age to be asking these questions.

Call back when you're interested in 25 year old women...k?


And the really funny part is that he joined in 2005, so either he was 16 then, or he's 20 now. I'm gonna bet it's that he was 16.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 7:03:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Griswold

quote:

ORIGINAL: Disturbance

this isnt the usual teen question about if the age is right.

I know several teens that are into bdsm. I looked all over the internet and searched forums but i cant find a website that is directly for teens or like 18- 25. All that pops up is porn and the question if its right or not.

I was just wondering if there is a site for that age range to talk to others. my slave gets 100 emails a day and majority are from guys that have nothing in common with a teen other then bdsm and with some teens it might work out but usually not.

I do apprecaite the advice from elders. but I think if theres not a site for teens directly there should be one setup.



Bud...your profile pegs you at 18.  You're barely of age to be asking these questions.

Call back when you're interested in 25 year old women...k?



Im intereest in talking to 25yr old women, this wasnt meant to be a bashing on older people because i have learned alot about the lifestyle from my elders.

what i have learned well havent learned but realized after i started this post there is going to be older people always joining the young groups no matter what..

TNG was a great find thanks for the information.... A group might have drama but you dont have to involve yourself in the drama.

We all know that some and i say some younger dom's and sub's join the lifestyle or atleast say they are apart of it and live it but they actaully no nothing about the lifestyle and think its one kinky way of sex...
I'm not one of these people and i know many people that arent. Age does have some effect on maturity but doesnt count for all of it.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 7:15:12 PM   
Disturbance


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Status: offline 		i was signed into the military at 16 also.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 7:18:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Disturbance

i was signed into the military at 16 also.


I wasn't saying 16 year olds are too immature, just that they have to be super super careful with this lifestyle. There's a bunch of real psychos out there.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 7:28:03 PM   
Disturbance


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Status: offline 		well im not a sub or slave. I'm a male dom so at 16 we do think were invinceable but yeah i do agree younger teens should be very careful. when i joined i kept a low profile and read the boards and looked at profiles. mostly because a true 18 yr old sub usually dont go for a 16yr old male dom. and for the 25yr old women i would love to dom one, they are more mature and know exactly what they want. unlike alot of younger submissives i talk to, but 18yr old scoring a 25yr old in this lifestyle has the same chances of getting with a 25yr old in vanilla slim to none

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/7/2007 12:28:05 AM   
MadameMajidah


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ORIGINAL: Disturbance

well im not a sub or slave. I'm a male dom so at 16 we do think were invinceable but yeah i do agree younger teens should be very careful. when i joined i kept a low profile and read the boards and looked at profiles. mostly because a true 18 yr old sub usually dont go for a 16yr old male dom. and for the 25yr old women i would love to dom one, they are more mature and know exactly what they want. unlike alot of younger submissives i talk to, but 18yr old scoring a 25yr old in this lifestyle has the same chances of getting with a 25yr old in vanilla slim to none



Personally.... I'm a big fan of the "girls mature 2 years faster than boys" issue... your profile reads
"Dont know how to tell you about me so message me and figure me out

Cant Stand being judged because of my age....

not saying im a Master saying im a Domaint male that will put a submissive female in her place."
 
My question to you is.... What Female...is going to take you serious? Honestly???
I laughed, after reading that. Can't stand being judged? Well, dear..you are doing several things..in this very profile, that people are going to automatically JUDGE you for.
1. Your profile lacks any substance. That is reason number One why females will not take you seriously.
2. Your profile is bare, a bit whiny..and a wee bit clueless... I am reminded of a profile of yet another "teen male dominant" in my area that reads something to the effect of  "I'M LOOKING FOR A 24/7 LIVE IN SLAVE MUST WORK AND WANT KIDS I WILL TAKE 65% OF YOUR CHECK  need to no more ask guys must gave gifts"
I take a look at these profiles...and I think WHAT the F*#$% is going on????
Riddle Me this, Tom Riddle... do you live with your parents? How do you expect to put a "female submissive" in her place..when you have no place of your own? College dorms dont count, poppet.
I'm stepping off the soapbox in about 2 seconds...but My last issue...and this is an issue that I'm sure ticks both Female subs and Dommes alike OFF, and deters them from contacting you at all...
USE the SPELL CHECK!!! How many times... do I have to say it...????? SPELL CHECK. S_P_E_L_L C_H_E_C_K!!!!!Lemme break it down into your highschool language for you. "Rah Rah, Sis Boom Bah, SPELL CHECK SPELL CHECK Hah Hah Hah!!! GOOOOO SPELLCHECK!!!" Get it?? Got it?!! GOOD.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/7/2007 1:19:08 AM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		With all due respect to the very together teens we have met, we have had to place an age limit of 21 on those attending our Play Parties, despite the fact that legal majority is 18 in Western Australia. The reason is this. Teens tend to have closer relationships with family than older people. They are often living at home still. If a third party finds out about what their precious child is up to, they look for someone to blame for "corrupting" their innocent offspring. So it looks bad to have older people mixing with younger ones. We had a couple of close calls with outraged parents, before we upped our age limit.

Again, with all due respect to the together ones, there is an element amongst the goths and emos who are seeking to shock, and BDSM is a great way to shock people. These guys are also Trouble, as they getting into stuff they don't really understand for all the wrong reasons. We treat teens as off limits- it's a shame, as many of them really need guidance and protection, but experience has forced us into it.
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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/7/2007 1:36:32 AM   
MadameMajidah


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ORIGINAL: LadyHeart


Again, with all due respect to the together ones, there is an element amongst the goths and emos who are seeking to shock, and BDSM is a great way to shock people. These guys are also Trouble, as they getting into stuff they don't really understand for all the wrong reasons. We treat teens as off limits- it's a shame, as many of them really need guidance and protection, but experience has forced us into it.
:))
LH



Lady Heart,
You put into words, exactly what I wanted to say, but avoided saying.... THANK YOU!! Teenaged Gothy Whiny Emo brats...... are ALL about shock value. If not, we wouldnt have Hot Topic Stores encouraging youth to wear "bondage pants" and cloth corsets. Striped armwarmers and long bangs for boys... I am SICK of it. Utterly Disgusted. For these reasons and many others, I do not claim to be "gothic" I have an intense appreciation for the darker side of life... Goth..has become a fashion trend. It is no longer .. about what one feels ... what one cares about... it has been taken by teenage society and warped into basically.. a preppy way to be alternative and get away with it. A way to worry parents and piss off police.. It has become exactly what you have stated so eloquently! about SHOCK value. What can I do to piss my parents off, and gain attention...
Most of these "goths" live with their parents. Their "lairs" being decorated in black, with antidisestablishmentarianism posters strewn about and anarchy symbols galore.... How anarchistic can you truly be... if you live with your parents?!!! Its enough to make me want to vomit, and I do believe I need to go have My morning coffee at IHOP before I have a double conniption fit....... buh bye dears...


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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/7/2007 1:45:49 AM   
mons


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i think someone who is this young goes not know what they want in life yet/. i remember i thought i was a submissive at 18 and always kept in my mind as i grown older i know this was not something i wanted. i was looking for a father. the one i had was abuseive and distance so what i wanted was somone who care for me in a fatherly way. so the teens are walking on dangerous ground when they think they will find a male who will teach and help them. they need to be told the time is not right and no matter what many may say it is just not the right time, i am a dominant woman now and love it and treasure my slave. if your a teen please take it so slow and do not jump with someone fast many are out to hurt and then there are many who care but more who want to hurt. i will get maybe some lfiend bad that is not good but trust me on this i was there and i am here not happy and know just what i want

warm wishes
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