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not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 4:55:07 PM

Disturbance

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this isnt the usual teen question about if the age is right.

I know several teens that are into bdsm. I looked all over the internet and searched forums but i cant find a website that is directly for teens or like 18- 25. All that pops up is porn and the question if its right or not.

I was just wondering if there is a site for that age range to talk to others. my slave gets 100 emails a day and majority are from guys that have nothing in common with a teen other then bdsm and with some teens it might work out but usually not.

I do apprecaite the advice from elders. but I think if theres not a site for teens directly there should be one setup.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 5:00:31 PM

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do a google search on bdsm tng (the next generation) and you will find lots of stuff...
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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 5:02:48 PM

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First I do hope someone not yet of majority age will not be in communication with someone older about BDSM. By definition a minor cannot make an informed decision and the elder will be considered to be taking advantage of them.

Forums or websites? Don't know of any. However google BDSM TNG and you can find meetings/munches for 18 - 35. Perhaps she should go and make some friends her own age.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 5:03:59 PM

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I think the general consensus here is that the illegals (teens) pretty much have to play with each other, because...

Anybody experienced playing with them is illegal.

As for an all teen BDSM website, I think there's too many weirdos who would prey on them for it to be a good idea. So just stick to spanking each other with badmiton rackets in gym.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 5:08:00 PM

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i can see people petafiles praying on the site. when i meant teens i meant legal teens that are either in college or were unlucky that there birthday fell late or failed a grade. 18+. But thanks for the TNG idea works alot better then bdsm teens in google.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 5:10:26 PM

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unfortunately, myspace allows many (poorly run) user groups on the subject. they are usually a clusterf*ck, and get overrun by 50 year olds who'd make your skin crawl.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 5:31:50 PM

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Oh, okay. That makes much more sense.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 5:42:13 PM

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When I was underage, I had people who took me in and were sounding board for me while I figured out what I was looking for in this whole BDSM thing. I am very grateful that those people took a risk and continued communication with me.

I have never really come across anything close to what you are looking for except TNG (the next generation) groups, which are still filled with people who are not really 'teens.' There are chatrooms for teens into BDSM, which can be nice, but not the greatest way to learn anything.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 5:49:39 PM

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I remember being 17-18 and finding a mentor Who taught me some stuff. He used to flog me and various things. I was never naked and in point of fact, he was gay. There was never any question of anything creepy. He took me to a local group that did education, discussions and demonstrations and I became involved with them. I wanted information and to be part of the community far more at that point than to find play partners. I think tng munches and discussion groups sound like a good safe way to meet folks.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 6:20:00 PM

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Just wanted to agree with others - try TNG munches and encourage your slave to be patient. The groups with the 21+ plus rule are only covering their butts legally. Also, try looking for clubs (particularly goth) that have bondage nights. It's not quite as effective, but you can meet some really awesome and educated people and there is a decent chance an 18 year old will be able to go.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 6:27:54 PM

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yeah, im in no worries and neither is my slave just started looking to see if there was groups apart of our age. thanks for the help

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 6:30:30 PM

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which would imply that 50 yo's are out of the game???

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 8:26:53 PM

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I had a group on yahoo set up, but things got complicated so I took it down, we had those who were 16 or younger trying to sneek in and I am NOT going to prison for ANYONE.

I'm 26, you can talk to me. I have been in this since I was 18, and on this site for about 4 years or so. I currently mentor a 19yr old {I checked her drivers licence when we met just to be safe}. I'm around a decent part of the time right now, just send me an email.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 8:59:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

which would imply that 50 yo's are out of the game???

..And that the BDSM scene considers me at 33, a Teen?

Oh well, time to cackle like a madman while claiming "..someone shall pay for this insult, bawahahaha"

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 9:04:42 PM

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I understand what the OP is saying, I looked for others my own age when I first got involved, I felt 'off' around others who had more experience, yet, since I get alogn with those who are more 'mature' than myself, I melted into the flock and learned from those who were more mature. That's why I try to mentor ladies who are 18 to 23 or 24, its still so new and its the best time to help them along as predators come out of the woodwork.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/5/2007 9:47:39 PM

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Just a warning...I hate the TNG groups. They are the definition of drama, even the real time ones. I'd rather the mature lifestylers anyday, not that they don't have their share of drama...but at least, I don't have to hear about every gory detail, well, most of the time.

There are those few who will never grow out of the drama and gossip, but I just found it was more rampant in the TNG groups, ymmv.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 12:02:14 AM

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if i may please, Y/you have to remember that in some countries, the age of consent is lower than 18. i'm in the uk, and the age of consent here is 16. not that many P/people take notice of that anyway.

i got into D/s and bdsm when i woz 16. i'm now 21. my Master at the time woz a bit older than me and i am so grateful to Him for finding me and showing me how to fill that huge whole in my life wot i felt. W/we have gone O/our seperate ways now, and i am collared by a new Master and Mistress in a 24/7 TPE relationship. i am very happy and content, and owe it all to my 1st Master.

i agree with the OP and think that there should be something to help younger people who don't understand them feelings, and need help and pointing in the right direction, so T/they can begin T/their own journies in safety.

with respect,

shiv
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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 5:27:01 AM

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I don’t really care where you go on the internet, you are always going to have some wacko or pervert preying on younger, inexperienced members. I would have to say that these local real time groups would be more efficient way of getting to know people you own age and getting good training and experience also.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 6:46:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

Just a warning...I hate the TNG groups. They are the definition of drama, even the real time ones. I'd rather the mature lifestylers anyday, not that they don't have their share of drama...but at least, I don't have to hear about every gory detail, well, most of the time.

There are those few who will never grow out of the drama and gossip, but I just found it was more rampant in the TNG groups, ymmv.

I think this depends on which TNG group you're involved with. I'm currently involved in two different TNG groups which are both less drama filled than the BDSM groups they're attatched too...

To the OP, I totally understand what you mean. I became involved in the scene when i was 19 and was nervous about going to things where most people were a lot older than me. I found TNG munches to be the most welcoming place. If you know the BDSM group in your area, check and see if they have a TNG group attatched to them.

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RE: not the usual teen question - 6/6/2007 7:23:06 AM

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Quite frankly... as a 19 year old, I've found that most people my *age* just don't get it. Then again, youre talking to someone who's been involved fairly deeply in one way or another since the age of 13. Personally, I feel as if i was raised in the Lifestyle. It disheartens and saddens me to see a lot of teens that consider themselves "involved" in the lifestyle. Why? Because quite frankly... the *adults* are right. MOST of them DONT get it! A lot of teens my age see the lifestyle as .. a kinky way to have sex. A way to rebel against their parents and shock people. An excuse to revel in teenage angst. "Oh wahh, My Master broke up with me~! I therefore am now incapable of functioning, so I have to slit my wrists for attention." I do not say that statement lightly. As someone who has experienced the pains and problems with Cutting... I have a SERIOUS problem with whiny brats who take a protractor to their skin and graze it across just enough to raise a red welt and then scream, cry, and faint.. because " woe is me, the world is against me" You think THATS cutting? You remove half the skin on your breast... with a pair of scissors, nearly bleed out several times..and THEN tell me how serious of a cutter you really are. To those who seriously are afflicted from the issue, and not just doing it for negative attention, I feel for you, been there, done that, and am currently writing.. the book! My advice to you.. is get out of the Lifestyle and get help. You wont find the answers here, until you can heal from within... Ive found that a lot of teens my age in the lifestyle tend to follow the *high drama* trend. That.. is why we arent respected. That is why, we arent taken seriously. Im probably.. one of the most involved Lifestyle teens I know. How many 19 year olds do YOU know that have a functioning play space complete with bdsm hardware, dungeon furniture including a bondage table, a 6 ft rack, and a bondage chair, completely done in black light and UV paint...along with a wardrobe that include over 9 REAL corsets, and plenty of restraints, crops, paddles, and various items do YOU know?? Honestly? How many of them do you know that have invested the time and MONEY into a website...? I dont play with people my age. Rarely do I find someone who actually GETS it. That its NOT a game. People can get hurt. I would be hard pressed to find a teenager, including myself.. who hasnt had SOME form of emotional scarring during their trek in the Lifestyle
Why? Because when we, like Everyone.. first start out.. we are inexperienced. The difference? When teens start? We are Minors...
Easily susceptible to abuse, and easily influenced .. quite often by the first Dom/me with a complete profile that says "Kneel bitch, Im ur master now 4 sure".. Its sad.. but true. I attempt, in my age... to lead by example. For instance, I found out that I have an interest in blood play. Needle play. So.. did I go out an cut up the first horny male volunteer? stick needles in his penis, and nipples because I wanted to see just what I could do? How far I could take it? NO. Im taking a Phlebotomy class. Taking the time to actually LEARN about skin, blood, needles...how to PROPERLY do that kind of thing.
I dont take my Lifestyle lightly... I do realize there are teens out there who are just as serious and as motivated as I am.. to you, I tip My hat. But to the rest of the whiny lil wanna be brats who think that they can gain attention simply by participating in an alternative lifestyle.... I feel sorry for you. My advice is to take a step back, and learn from your Elders.
Oh.. and as far as TNG goes.. I had the pleasure* of meeting a local TNG group... at a play party.. I found them to be a bit full of drama, highly into themselves.. and rather... standoffish. None of them played with the equipment.. and I got the general feeling that none of them would have been there had the theme not been "Kinky Prom" ..an excuse to wear both *OMG BECKY!! we can wear like prom dresses.. AND we can wear our collars and leashes too!! OMG OMG!!!* .. yeah.. you get the point. After speaking with quite a few people from the party after the fact... I wasnt the only one who got that vibe from the group.
Meh.. I should start my own local bdsm group. really. Host munches, have play parties.... who knows... Just My 2 cents...

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