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CitizenCane -> RE: submissive traing "academy" (5/23/2007 6:52:44 AM)
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ORIGINAL: stella40
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ORIGINAL: minnetar
dave,
i have found every Dom to be different. Have the person who you want to serve and be owned by train you. you can read all kinds of threads on here to learn things in general. If you have questions, then start a thread or research to find other threads.
minnetar
I agree with this 100%. Just because you've got a driving licence doesn't mean to say you're a good driver. What makes you a good driver is the amount of experience you've got behind the wheel, actually driving.
Same too with BDSM, even more so in fact. I've served several Dommes over a number of years and the only thing they had in common was that they were all women. Each one was different. Each one expected different things, each one had a different definition of what submission was.
I'm submissive, I have a Domme, but I serve her as the person she is, the individual she is, not because she's a Domme.
I'm puzzled as to why so many object to the idea of training as a thing in itself. You make a comparison to getting a driver's license- indeed getting a license doesn't make you a good driver. It's an indication, however, that you have some basic skills in driving. If you extend your comparison in reverse, you seem to suggest that going to Driver's Ed and getting a license is a waste of time.
It seems to me that a large part of the problem is the variety of interpretations of the term 'training' that people have. If you see 'training' as meaning learning a very specific set of behaviors, then indeed, these may well fail to fit a future Dom or Domme. By this standard, though, military boot camp is largely a waste of time. Most of the specific skills a soldier needs for their actual military function are learned later, in specific schools for specific jobs. However, boot camp does serve to instill some basic habits and attitudes in recruits that are useful (at least the military believes they are) in all their possible future roles. Training a submissive can be such an undertaking- helping to build and reinforce attitudes and perceptions that will be generally useful, helping the sub to get a hands-on experience of submission, get over the jitters, and build some self-confidence without the added complexities of a brand new affective relationship to confuse things. Not everybody's cup of tea, but hardly something to be disparaged across the board.
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