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RE: How you doin'? - 5/11/2007 10:16:33 PM   
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How you doin?
I usually say; You don't want to know!"
or; "Do you have about two hours?"
But, I'm retired so when I ask someone else I don't mind listening.
Especially to older people, I like the old storys.


lol popeye that is sweet  - my heart is fine but i have had cartilege problems in my chest and it hurts like hell lol'

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 7:32:20 AM   
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I've been totally stumped by the question, "how you doing?"  I mean, seriously, I'm always ok but never in the way most people assume.  And, I really don't like telling people I'm fine because I'm usually not but I also don't particularly want to get into it with someone either. 

I never ask people how they're doing.  I usually say "how's things?"   Or, I mumble something like "howzitgoin" and nod my head.  But, I almost never ask a direct question. 

If someone does ask me how I am, and I don't know them, I usually say "pretty ok."  If I know them, I give a dramatic sigh, chuckle, and say something like, "eh, ya know, hanging in there" or "I'm still chugging along" or "same as always."  The dramatic sigh and chuckle is the most important part of the communication. 

And, yes, I've spent an inordinate amount of time thinking about this sort of thing. :)


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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 9:11:16 AM   
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A friend asks how you are because they care, a service provider asks what they can do for you because it's their job.


Completely agree.

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They usually mumble something about it's what they are told to say.  I either leave it there or tell them they are allowed to pass on customer advice to their employer, and that genuine customer service is much more valuable to their employer than reading a standard greeting off a card with absolutely no thought for the customers needs. It's not really fair though, most are not capable of following the concept of customer service or thinking for themselves. The ones who are capable, they throw away the company spiel and usually end up valued employees.
In the low skill jobs I've had (servo's, barstaff, telemarketing) ignoring the spiel in favour of interest in the customer worked very well and pleased my employers (and customers) more than following the spiel ever could.


So it seems, some are to busy trying to appear friendly that they forget, or don’t even think to be helpful. Maybe the phrase “customer service” is too formal, and it should be something more like “customer helpers” then maybe…… especially if they had to do a little song at the beginning of their shift, that repeated the words “customer helper”. I hear Wal-Mart does something like that. It’s supposed to be top secret, but I think it’s just to embarrassing to repeat. All I can picture is a bunch of Wal-Mart employees doing that chicken line dance. *shrugs*

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We have to make assumptions, we can't have all the variables and knowledge for everything we do. But we must base our assumptions on knowledge, not fear or ignorance, and be willing to adjust them when more information becomes available or the assumptions clearly don't match the situation.
If I see a snakelike stick in the bush, it is safer to assume it is a snake. However, once I see it is a stick, then the assumption must be abandoned as it doesn't fit the situation.


Great explanation! Thank you. I wonder, do the rules ever change at all, like if you’re going from dogs, to say, two legged creatures?

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F.I.N.E.....Fuckedup, Insecure, Neurotic, and Emotional.  ;)

me, i stick to "still breathing, dammit" some days...."woke up still breathing" other days.  "good" days are rare, but i do water down the other responses by smiling as i deliver them. 

I would agree; the smile does make a difference. :)

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kitten who is silly like that, and only answers "how are you doing" honestly to about 3 people.


Not quite ready for the “big screen”, huh? ;)

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But, I'm retired so when I ask someone else I don't mind listening. Especially to older people, I like the old storys.


Me too, and old pictures, better yet, old stories with old pictures. :D

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So few people even actually acknowledge what youve said, even if you do say "How are you doing" most people dont pay enough attention to know what was asked. I had mentioned this in anotehr thread, you might even get completely nonsequitor answers.


Are you from a city?

I try to at least smile when passing someone, unless I’m on a mission, then I’m not really thinking about those around me, other then to make sure I don’t run into them. It’s something I do to practice making eye contact, (long story), but I live in a fairly rural area, so it’s not like I walk around with perma-smile all day. It’s also nice when the person I smiled at smiles back; especially, if they were frowning before I smiled.

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i always say "im alive" answer enough and yes when i ask it i do hope to have a bit of a conversation


I think I will pay more attention to how I greet/respond to a greeting more now. I know I’ve tried to stop when I’ve asked that question but, I do remember feeling bad that I couldn’t stay to hear the answer. I had to work. I’m not sure how much has been my saying it first, most likely out of habit, or just repeating what they said. Probably more often due to repeating. Gawd, I feel like such a mocking bird!

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If it's something like my boss asking when I come in to work, I poke myself to check my own existance and reply "I am."


One of my bosses likes to ask “How’s it going?” I say “round and round; which is good, because if it stopped, we’d all be in trouble, wouldn’t we?”

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$0.02,


Just $0.02? Has no one heard of inflation? Even minimum wage is supposed to be going up for Pete sake. :)

Can you imagine being named No-one? People would be asking “Has anyone seen No-one?”

I used to hang out (huh, hang out) with a guy whose name is Harry ball. Has to suck to be him.

Sincerely,

< Message edited by KeirasSecret -- 5/12/2007 9:28:15 AM >


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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 9:46:56 AM   
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Every time I look at the title of this thread, I hear Joey from Friends saying it.
 
I'm as guilty as anyone of saying things in an automatic, mindless way, but I try, and generally succeed, in making my greetings heartfelt.

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 9:49:09 AM   
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And, I really don't like telling people I'm fine because I'm usually not but I also don't particularly want to get into it with someone either.
 

Kind of makes me feel like I’m being forced to lie, well, before I started using “freakin’ awesome”, that is.

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If someone does ask me how I am, and I don't know them, I usually say "pretty ok."  If I know them, I give a dramatic sigh, chuckle, and say something like, "eh, ya know, hanging in there" or "I'm still chugging along" or "same as always."  The dramatic sigh and chuckle is the most important part of the communication.


I’m sure. The same as the volume and tone of my voice when I say “Freakin’ awesome!!!” :D

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And, yes, I've spent an inordinate amount of time thinking about this sort of thing. :)


:) It's good to know your not alone sometimes.

You weren’t, by chance, pretending to be an alien rabbit from outer space sometime around the 4th grade, were you?

sincerely,

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Bitching; whining in a louder voice.

If the truth hurts, change it!

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:02:08 AM   
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You weren’t, by chance, pretending to be an alien rabbit from outer space sometime around the 4th grade, were you?


No, I can't say that that particular thought ever crossed my mind.  But, some time around 11 or 12, I decided my life seemed much better if I just pretended it was a movie.  And, when I was five, I freaked myself out with the thought that "I" was somebody elses dream and all they had to do was wake up and I'd be gone.  Scared the crap out of me. :)


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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:07:08 AM   
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Every time I look at the title of this thread, I hear Joey from Friends saying it.

 
LOL… sorry? Bright side; I will be remembered, or at least this thread will be; maybe. :)

I know what you’re saying. Every time I hear someone say that, I want to respond the same way Joey does.

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:28:41 AM   
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But, some time around 11 or 12, I decided my life seemed much better if I just pretended it was a movie.


Nice, wish I had thought of that. I did manage something like "Egyptian princess" sometime in my teens, but I was up for sacrifice so.....

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And, when I was five, I freaked myself out with the thought that "I" was somebody elses dream and all they had to do was wake up and I'd be gone.  Scared the crap out of me. :)


That’s right around the age I was dreaming Indians were coming to get me. :) Oh, and fellow school mates were turning into vampires; also trying to get me. I was very popular back then. ;)

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:30:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KeirasSecret

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Every time I look at the title of this thread, I hear Joey from Friends saying it.

 
LOL… sorry? Bright side; I will be remembered, or at least this thread will be; maybe. :)

I know what you’re saying. Every time I hear someone say that, I want to respond the same way Joey does.

k


LOL k, I am sure you'll be remembered for many wonderful things. And me too, on doing like Joey ..... "no, how you doin'.....

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:32:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: minnetar

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

How you doin?
I usually say; You don't want to know!"
or; "Do you have about two hours?"
But, I'm retired so when I ask someone else I don't mind listening.
Especially to older people, I like the old storys.


lol popeye that is sweet  - my heart is fine but i have had cartilege problems in my chest and it hurts like hell lol'

minnetar



Well, there's one kind of "How ya doin" that you don't want and it usually happens in big cities.
Bums!
"Hey Cap'n, how ya doin!" "Got any spare change?"
I usually put my hand in my pocket then say; "No, do you?"
Or, I might say, "I had a whole pocketfull but I just gave it to the guy 2 blocks down the street, you should go and ask him!"
"It must have been $20 worth!"
In those areas you usually see smashed bottles of "fortified" wine smashed in the gutters. "Thunderbird" evidently is a very popular drink among those "antrepreneurs."

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:37:01 AM   
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Yeah, but do you add the look?  I know a guy who does...v cool. 

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:39:41 AM   
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I am sure you'll be remembered for many wonderful things.
 
 
Thank you. :)
 
 
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And me too, on doing like Joey ..... "no, how you doin'.....
 
 
*stares at Level in awe* :O You sound just like him! ;)
 
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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:42:45 AM   
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Yeah, but do you add the look?  I know a guy who does...v cool. 


Oh sure, I usually give 'em this one:

http://www.humoronline.com/funny-baby-pictures-13.jpg

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 10:51:13 AM   
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I am sure you'll be remembered for many wonderful things.
 
 
Thank you. :)
 
 
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And me too, on doing like Joey ..... "no, how you doin'.....
 
 
*stares at Level in awe* :O You sound just like him! ;)
 
k


 *uses Elvis voice*.......Why thankyew, thankyew vurry much.........

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 11:43:23 AM   
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The myth is true!!! Elvis lives!!! Oh Level.... was that you?

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 11:46:42 AM   
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Level...you are an absolutely delightful man.

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 11:55:16 AM   
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Level, that is a great quote for your taglines!  

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 2:31:07 PM   
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bandit25
Level...you are an absolutely delightful man.


I agree

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 3:18:00 PM   
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"Great explanation! Thank you. I wonder, do the rules ever change at all, like if you’re going from dogs, to say, two legged creatures?"

Same rules. If most people you've met have tried to screw you over, then it would be safer to assume the next people will. Afterall, they can always pleasently surprise you. And if/once they do, the assumption of them acting poorly is dropped in favour of the reality.
Or if most people have been nothing but good to you, then assume most you meet will do the same. In terms of society it will depend on which one you live in as to what assumptions you will have about people.
As with many other people I have encountered some of the less desirable types, but they have not been even close to the majority, so it would be wrong to assume everyone was that bad.
I have assumptions about motorbike riders, especially the uniform wearing non conformists, but it is based on the majority. I'm always pleasently surprised to find such a person who doesn't meet my assumptions, but it's only happened a couple of times, so I'll stick with the assumption until I know better in individual cases.

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RE: How you doin'? - 5/12/2007 4:44:28 PM   
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bandit25
Level...you are an absolutely delightful man.


I agree


Thank you both; from the bottom of my heart .

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