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need a new relationship - 2/12/2004 5:37:47 AM

sensualwordz

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How does one "lose" the memory of her old master so that she can at least be open to a new relationship
It is going on too long with me i think i can meet or talk but as soon as there is some reality to b faced such as intimacy or physical i want to run away
Any suggestions???

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RE: need a new relationship - 2/12/2004 11:11:56 PM

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You will never lose your memory of an old Master. Maybe amnesia would do it, but otherwise, you will always have your memory of the relationship.
It's possible that you are using the memory as an excuse to keep from getting intimate with someone new, or you may still not be ready to move on. How long has it been? For some reason I am thinking that it actually hasn't been that long. Good luck.

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RE: need a new relationship - 2/13/2004 2:13:05 PM

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Depends on how long you was with this Master. The only way your going to be able to forget him is to give another Master a chance. Let the past go and move on who knows you might find someone that is truly worth your time and love. You never can forget someone that you care alot for there will always be part of him in your heart.

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RE: need a new relationship - 2/13/2004 5:05:25 PM

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Actually, on another note, if it was a good relationship, why would want to forget it. And if it was a bad one, as the old saying goes *those that don't learn from their mistakes are bound to repeat them.*

Just a couple of thoughts :)

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RE: need a new relationship - 2/14/2004 1:16:28 PM

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Sandy is dead on.

The issue isn't forgetting the old Master, the issue is facing fears of committment. An old saying "when the student is ready for the lesson, the teacher will appear" holds true here. Instead of focusing on forcing new relationships to work, focus on developing new friendships. Some of my best dates have been with women I've known for years.

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RE: need a new relationship - 2/17/2004 7:31:50 PM

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thank you
Actually i was with him off and on for 2 years
and i am learning that I must move on
sometimes i think talking about your fears makes them get smaller
no, i wont forget i will remember a lot but i will make sure that i also remember the bad things the things that made me leave to begin with
I am beginning not to miss "him" as much as i miss the "me" that was "me" when i was with "him"
if that makes sense and i must also remember that what i was once i can be again
the passion is something that is inside me not him

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RE: need a new relationship - 2/19/2004 5:09:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: sensualwordz

thank you
Actually i was with him off and on for 2 years
and i am learning that I must move on
sometimes i think talking about your fears makes them get smaller
no, i wont forget i will remember a lot but i will make sure that i also remember the bad things the things that made me leave to begin with
I am beginning not to miss "him" as much as i miss the "me" that was "me" when i was with "him"
if that makes sense and i must also remember that what i was once i can be again
the passion is something that is inside me not him

If your getting to the point that you miss the YOU that you were with him, then it sounds to me like you are making progress. I second what the others have said - you will not forget - but the emotional pain will fade bit by bit over time. But remember the lessons - if you don't then you are doomed to repeat them.

We all have fears, some hide them away, others pull them out into the sunshine to see what they really look like.... and in the clear light of day - they really are very small.

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RE: need a new relationship - 2/22/2004 9:18:57 PM

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thank you shadow what you said was very true and silly as it is we all know the answers to most of our own questions but sometimes we need others to validate our thoughts and decisions
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