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Asraii -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 1:10:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I consider the lifestyle as a form of roleplaying. Some consider it as serious as vanilla lifestyle. How do you view it?

I am on the more serious side.



WilliamWizer -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 1:10:19 PM)

its called a lifestyle for something. I'm fine with people that see the lifestyle as a simply role for being kinky during weekends but for me it's something serious. It's who and what I am.
for me acting vanilla when I'm at work or at some public place is when I'm roleplaying.



sunfleur -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 1:10:53 PM)

for me it's like a drug that i simply have to have.  while i enjoy playing (scening) being a submissive is not a role that i'm playing on a stage for the benefit of the audience.

sunfleur



Unrepentant1 -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 1:17:57 PM)

It has taken me a long time to find what makes me happy, so to imagine my life without this lifestyle a part of it, would be unthinkable, so yes, I take it very seriously indeed.



velvetears -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 6:20:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I consider the lifestyle as a form of roleplaying. Some consider it as serious as vanilla lifestyle. How do you view it?


Your answer begs the question - if it's a lifestyle, how can it be roleplay?  Those who enjoy the role play aspect would not consider it a lifestyle. Those who consider it a lifestyle would not think what they do as role play. 



Kitte9 -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 6:47:39 PM)

I can't imagine it would be considered role-playing. I never searched a role-play anything to understand myself. But I am searching here, trying to make sense of who I am and what I feel. Of the need I was made aware of by a very simple bit of contact. I've never had the need to know more about role-playing. So I guess for me, I am searching my life and they way I live it and want to live it.



szobras -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 7:07:49 PM)

Just like every part of my life.
I may take it serious as I am laughing about it, or crying while find humor in it.



Elorin -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 7:17:35 PM)

There are roles that we play, and personalities that we are.
When I am with him, sometimes we slip into the role of submissive and dominant, and sometimes we are just Elorin and M, people. But always within me there is the desire to serve him, make him happy, do things to make his life easier. Always within me is the simple delight at hurting someone who will let me, of watching someone grow.

I consider BDSM a lifestyle because there are values that are intrinsic to BDSM that are part of my everyday philosophy and way of living life. Skin is just skin, nudity does not mean an invitation to sex. Accepting that just because I don't share a kink (or point of view) does not make that kink (or POV) wrong. Direct, honest communication is prime. Consent is vital.

BDSM is very serious to me, it is a passion for me. While I don't wear leather and thigh high boots to work or attempt to mold my coworkers into obedient submissives, I carry the values that I find important for successful BDSM into my workplace.

It is far more than a role that I play.
~E



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 7:44:08 PM)

To the OP ....I just live as who I am .....whatever you wish to call it..serious, not serious,role play or life....I will leave the definitions to those who need it...Tempting



MsParados -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 8:19:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Vanilla is roleplay for me. Regardless of wether I am in a relationship or not, this is what I am.


LT sums it up pretty good. (whats new) My vanilla interactions feel more staged then my alt ones.



MaamJay -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 8:21:33 PM)

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Do CDs make good 24/7 subs? (corrected)
Not in My experience!
Maam Jay
Edited to add the quotes I missed!



arayofsunshine55 -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 8:26:58 PM)

My relationships are how I relate to others.   So that makes them not role"play".  But I also take all of just so seriously.  None of my relationships are for me my lifestyle.  My lifestyle encompasses many things including international travel, spas, music, nature, work, my spiritual practice etc.  I'm not particular box or label oriented.  And I don't know anyone who would self-proclaim to have a vanilla lifestyle.  



MaamJay -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 8:27:38 PM)

For Me it's more of a revelation than a role-play ... ah THIS is who I am! I am much more Jay the Domme and violet the slave than I am Jenny in my work life. So much so that I am taking the opportunity of moving across the country to generally abandon the name Jenny and become better known even in vanilla circles as Violet!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]



AquaticSub -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 9:42:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I consider the lifestyle as a form of roleplaying. Some consider it as serious as vanilla lifestyle. How do you view it?


I think vanilla lifestylers and BDSM lifestylers take themselves too seriously with a fair degree of frequencey. Don't know who is worse though. [:)]



spanklette -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/26/2007 9:54:55 PM)

I was actually thinking about this question quite seriously the other day.
 
We were in the somewhere (I don't remember) and He took my hand. We looked like any other couple there. I began wondering if we had turned into every other couple there. It was a disappointing moment and short-lived, as well...when we got home the dynamic was just as whole as when we had left.
 
I suppose it's the circumstances that dictate the behavior, but that doesn't change the nature of the dynamic. We are who we are.



MariaB -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/27/2007 1:22:17 AM)

I wouldn’t really say that its lifestyle for me because there are so many other parts of my life that do not include any of this
My children, my family and my horse eventing plays a huge part in my life that has absolutely no thought towards ttwd.
I work in the BDSM industry. We build dungeon furniture and run a large club and although I thoroughly enjoy all that, its like any other job. At the end of the day you don’t always want to take your work home with you!
I can understand what people are saying regarding ‘constantly in the mind of being sub or dominant’. I have been there and so can appreciate the dynamics of how very real and 24/7 that is but I have perhaps reached a stage where I no longer want to be consumed in that.



jauntyone -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/27/2007 2:19:23 AM)

Greetings
 
We just are. I do not try to define our relationship as anything other that what it is. Some may call it Master/slave; some may call it Dominant/submissive; some may call it something else.
 
We just live as we have always lived; and take each and every day as serious as they need to be taken.
 
I wish you well
 
melissa



CuriousLord -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/27/2007 4:28:28 AM)

It can be a continual roleplay.  It depends on your nature.

Personally, before I ever even heard of BDSM, I ordered people to do this and that, and expected respect.  When I was sixteen, I had what people here would qualify as a "slave" though neither her nor I had heard of such a thing before.  We thought we were pretty much unique.  The title "Master" is one I use here.  I would call myself a "Lord" before a "Master" for sake of conotation.  I have more strength in communal respect and following than I do in any particular individual's loyality.  I lead those around me.  Having a female slave is a detail.

For me, it's entirely serious.



MariaB -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/27/2007 5:19:16 AM)

So in your opinion what is the difference between a Lord and a Master? And are you saying that you are a Lord in day to day life?



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: lifestyle how serious (4/27/2007 5:38:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I use the term lifestyle because that is the most easily understood terminology we have. I am not playing a role, I am who I am....every minute of every day.


I agree and apply this to my own defintion as well.



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