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mp072004 -> RE: Resistance play for the willing (4/24/2007 6:03:52 PM)
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As you've discovered, resistance play doesn't work without resistance.
Perhaps you could threaten something your partner genuinely doesn't want, but something you can reasonably believe he has consented to.
If you hurt him emotionally, would he respond with violence? This is an option to try with warning, but it might work well.
You might couch resistance in a grander roleplay--a carjacking, a break-in, a general revenge scenario--that seems appealing and that you can both do convincingly enough to have fun.
If you want to induce him to stop giving in so soon, when he gives in, you could stop doing fun stuff with him. In other words, if he's getting all hot and bothered from the resistance play and he gives in to encourage you, you stop. This will discourage giving in. You may need to use words to tell him that if he wants more fun, he needs to struggle better, because it's not fun for you to manhandle someone who isn't resisting.
If you are smaller than your partner, you might find it difficult to exert enough physical force--and more to the point, here, he might feel the need to not fight much to make it easier for you to effect a takedown. It's my experience that men underestimate the physical strength of their female sex partners. [But I realized that you and your partner take transgendered roles in your relationship, so perhaps this isn't as significant for you and your partner as it is for me.] Anyhow, demonstrating to him that you can fight effectively is helpful. If you can't fight effectively, you can improve. Whether this takes the form of learning sport fighting skills, increasing your strength, or learning to fight unconventionally (read: dirtily) is up to you.
Monica
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