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LeatherBentOne -> RE: from long distance to 24/7 .... problems adjusting (4/21/2007 4:36:50 AM)
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Try not to pressure him by demanding his attention right now. He probably needs to make a personal adjustment to the new status of your relationship and he also needs time to think of what direction the relationship needs to flow. Now is the time for you to be patient!
Ive been in his situation and it takes time to get one's bearings. By taking the reins and putting it on yourself just takes more power away from him, so try not to be pushy. Sure you have needs, but so does he. He has responsibilities also. I'm sure he's aware of them and they nag at him now that it'stime to put the rubber to the road. Try to remember that he controls the pace of the relationship and where it's headed. Let him do his share of the work by just being patient with him and realising that your relationship need not be based on a time schedule.
My suggestion is to sit back and wait, patiently. He doesn't need added pressure right now and when he is ready to move forward, he will. Submission cannot be forced upon you, no more than dominance can be forced on him. It only causes resentment in the end because the timing is off when both of you aren't ready. Don't worry, if their is a solid foundation there, time will play into your best interests. After all, it's not like either of you will run away tomorrow.
Be secure in your submission and realise that he has chosen you to be with him, and vice versa. Give the magic time to return by just being there and being content to allow him to set the pace as he needs to. Don't try to pressure him by being too needy but give him his space to make necessary mental adjustments. Be aware that there is more to his responsibilities than you might imagine and that instant gratification may not be all he has on his mind right now. He may be spending this time to think about and plan what is best for both of your futures.
Congrats and good luck,
LBO
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