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Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:24:35 PM

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Are you strictly into Masichism or Sadism, but don't include intercourse when you play?

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:28:10 PM

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i had met a Dom who was only interested in that. i want more than that.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:28:56 PM

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BDSM play is highly sexual to me...if sex of some form isn't included (either giving/recieving oral, handjobs, anal intercourse, vaginal intercourse, etc) then I'm not interested. I also have almost zero pain tolerance when I'm not being genitally manipulated. Put a penis in me and you can do almost anything you want...try to touch me when I'm not being aroused on a fairly continual basis and I'm the world's biggest wuss!

I would never have a play partner who wasn't also a sex partner.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:34:11 PM

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Yeah, it is very sexual to me, but I encounter people on here that don't seem to be in the sex as much.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:34:53 PM

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If I get pain administered in a BDSM scenario, I'm going to get excited. It doesn't mean I have to have intercourse, but it is going to be sexual. And as GeekyGirl said, the more stimulation I get the more pain I can enjoy.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:34:59 PM

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I want both
I want play with sex and then I want it without it
it just depends on my mood.....
The pain can arouse me and all I want to do is cum or it has a cleaning effect on me; on my emotitions and soul.......
I don't know if that makes any sense to you all .....

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:39:14 PM

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greetings iwannapullurhair,

intercourse is not usually part of our play, but mutual masturbation, oral sex, anal stimulus, etc. is almost always present to some degree. our play always has some sort of sexual undertone. i don't particularly care for sadomasochistic activity without some sort of sexual something involved, and i don't believe He does either.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:39:48 PM

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They go hand in hand for me, the pain just makes me need the sex.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:42:35 PM

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Good rough sex is always a part of my sm play and I agree it does have a soothing ,healing effect after a tough sm scene....bh

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:42:39 PM

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Good topic.

I'll offer someone non-sexual play, if the situation is right. I don't look for it for myself.

I'll add this. Sex without bdsm holds no interest for me, in a prolonged relationship. There is always the occasional "fall into bed", but on an ongoing basis, if we don't connect d/s, we don't connect, period.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 6:59:23 PM

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Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. It depends on the person and the situation.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 7:02:29 PM

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I have been with my Sir almost three months now and he has not touched my in a sexual nature once. I submission and service to him have nothing to do with sex. Yes S&M play reves me up and there are times I very much wish for it to be sexual in nature. But I am his to use or not use as he sees fit. I also love just pure S&M play I love the pain, to suffer to ,endure and sexual stimulation really does not effect the amount of pain I can endure, if anything it decreases it just a little.

Even before I joined my Sirs house BDSM play rarely involved sexually contact as I has several play partners and I am very picky about who I will allow things to go to a sexual level with. That and I tended to play mostly in public at play parties and events where sexual contact was not allowed.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 7:14:44 PM

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Most of my play is s/m. While it can be sensual and arousing, I do not have sex or sexual touching with it unless it is with someone I'm in a relationship with, submitting to and playing in private. S/m fulfills needs other than sexual for me. Just having an extended session of it is so fulfilling, brings me so much pleasure, gives me an emotional release so powerful, even a spiritual release, empowers me and lasts for days and even weeks at times. Sometimes the feelings last longer than the marks do. The pain processes as pleasure to me and I glory in it, revel in it.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 7:26:32 PM

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I do pure SM scenes without inequal power, yes. I might do pure SM scenes without either inequal power or sex. That depends on what your definition of "sex" is. To be precise, my scenes extremely rarely involve my genitals or breasts being stimulated. They occasionally involve me stimulating male genitals, generally by applying pain to them, rarely by traditional pleasurable stimulation like a handjob or fellatio. I enjoy painfully and pleasurably stimulating female genitals, including penetrating women vaginally, but it's absolutely not essential to my play. If what I've written that I do is sex, then yes, sometimes I do SM scenes that involve sex, and sometimes I do SM scenes that don't involve sex.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 7:29:41 PM

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Nope, not at all actually. Never has been aside from the occasional threat to tie him down and use him when I felt like it. He has never been touched and I have no immediate plans to do so. It just doesnt fit with where we are going with his training.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 7:49:28 PM

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While there are sexual overtones and tension, I "grew up" with SM being seperate from sex due to an agreement I had with my then husband. Now that I'm single, I'm starting to incorporate it a bit more, but there's still a fairly decent distinction for me.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 7:54:51 PM

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Depends on the person. With my husband, SM is foreplay (and duringplay), always leading up to some form of sex. But I do occasionally play with other subs where sex is not a part of it because my husband and I are sexually monogamous.

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 7:55:59 PM

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Of COURSE it does... If you're gonna top somebody, then what else is the most intimate way of topping somebody besides using their private spots, or their secret spots to pleasure yourself with?

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 8:01:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iwannapullurhair

Are you strictly into Masichism or Sadism, but don't include intercourse when you play?

Greetings iwannapullurhair.

I truly am one of the people that vote for sex and play ..but I have had one long-term relationship that was purely S&M.

The relationship was one of the most phenomenal adventures to explore the mind and body...It really was an unbelievable experience.

I don't think I would ever go that road again, but I am so glad it was in my travels on my journey.

It was undoubtedly the most addicting relationship I've ever had.

Always,
~curious~

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RE: Is Sex part of your play? - 4/19/2007 8:16:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iwannapullurhair

Are you strictly into Masichism or Sadism, but don't include intercourse when you play?

For U/us, sex is much more than "intercourse" per say. When W/we play it may or may not include oral, anal, vaginal sex, nipple torture or mutual masturbation along with bondage, flogging, spanking, whipping etc.

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