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First Block. - 4/15/2007 6:54:40 AM

Soulmusic

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Wow, got my first blocked e-mail / profile today. How impressive is that ... been in and around sites like this for more than a few years.

I e-mailed someone, she said in reply that I was ugly (no pics exchanged, so 'hopefully' a poor guess) as well as calling me a moron due to a typo and then she eventually blocked me.

I sometimes feel I will never understand those who call them self subs. Not that I am saying I deserve respect and worship etc. from any and all. Surely the simplest thing would have been just not to reply or say thanks but no thanks to chatting?

Anyway, just had to share with any/someone.

Thanks.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 6:59:12 AM

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I was primed for a thread about soul music, gospel in churches, Marvin Gaye etc.....

Never mind someone calling you ugly, what about soul music?

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:00:37 AM

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Well, I wouldn't judge all subs by one. Besides it's prolly a good thing she blocked you, right? You don't want to talk with her anyway.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:05:42 AM

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I only thought of that aspect of my name after someone else pointed it out to me. My name is derived from Terry Pratchett and the Discworld novels.

If you know anything about the music though, sure an audience will be around to listen.

Cheers.

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I was primed for a thread about soul music, gospel in churches, Marvin Gaye etc.....

Never mind someone calling you ugly, what about soul music?

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:07:26 AM

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Oh, no worries, I don't and shall not.
You are prob. correct now that her personality type is clear! lol.

Thanks.

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Well, I wouldn't judge all subs by one. Besides it's prolly a good thing she blocked you, right? You don't want to talk with her anyway.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:10:45 AM

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There are a few people on here who lack manners, Soulmusic. The people who advertise themselves as 'submissive' and then either respond as the one you experienced, or just plain refuse to answer a polite introduction - or worse yet - shred it unread really don't strike me as being on the right site. A subbie is polite to a Master and responds whether she is interested or not (in which case a polite thanks but no thanks suffices) unless she is already under a Master, who has told her not to respond - in which case, her profile should state that she is already taken and under instructions not to answer.

Sigh - in most kink places I've ever been to, a subbie who responds improperly is asked to leave and never return.

Yhere are just too many wannabes in here who haven't a clue.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:13:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Soulmusic

I only thought of that aspect of my name after someone else pointed it out to me. My name is derived from Terry Pratchett and the Discworld novels.

personally I like music with rocks in it <lol>

Good author one of my favourites

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:15:09 AM

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Yeah, cheers, well said, that is what I was aiming for but you stated it better.

Thanks.

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ORIGINAL: MasterofDiscipli

There are a few people on here who lack manners, Soulmusic. The people who advertise themselves as 'submissive' and then either respond as the one you experienced, or just plain refuse to answer a polite introduction - or worse yet - shred it unread really don't strike me as being on the right site. A subbie is polite to a Master and responds whether she is interested or not (in which case a polite thanks but no thanks suffices) unless she is already under a Master, who has told her not to respond - in which case, her profile should state that she is already taken and under instructions not to answer.

Sigh - in most kink places I've ever been to, a subbie who responds improperly is asked to leave and never return.

Yhere are just too many wannabes in here who haven't a clue.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:16:39 AM

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I suppose that's true, but there are also a lot of men who call themselves masters or doms who simply aren't worth replying to. Seriously. I don't want to go off on a rant here and I'm speaking in generalities, but very often subs (and I am sure doms also) get rude or offensive emails or emails from people they quite clearly are incompatible with. Perhaps, you are correct and one should reply, but I've found that once you reply, especially to a rude email, the sender simply keeps sending more and more offensive emails. Better to simply not respond...he will get tired of his little game and try it on someone else. I am not saying that is the case here, but it does happen.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:21:24 AM

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The one that nevers fails to make me laugh out loud is Pyramids. Not sure why though!

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ORIGINAL: MasterofDiscipli

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ORIGINAL: Soulmusic

I only thought of that aspect of my name after someone else pointed it out to me. My name is derived from Terry Pratchett and the Discworld novels.

personally I like music with rocks in it <lol>

Good author one of my favourites

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:25:10 AM

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Nope, never recd or sent a rude email. I tend to say hello, ask something about a profile that caught my interest (hence why I am emailing them).

That is about how rude my emails are. Nothing offensive in that. I was going to post it (with names deleted) but I have already deleted the emails.

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

I suppose that's true, but there are also a lot of men who call themselves masters or doms who simply aren't worth replying to. Seriously. I don't want to go off on a rant here and I'm speaking in generalities, but very often subs (and I am sure doms also) get rude or offensive emails or emails from people they quite clearly are imcompatible with. Perhaps, you are correct and one should reply, but I've found that once you reply, especially to a rude email, the sender simply keeps sending more and more offensive emails. Better to simply not respond...he will get tired of his little game and try it on someone else. I am not saying that is the case here, but it does happen.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 7:56:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterofDiscipli

Sigh - in most kink places I've ever been to, a subbie who responds improperly is asked to leave and never return.

Yhere are just too many wannabes in here who haven't a clue.

Improperly huh? You're going to be very popular around here. You got the second part right though.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 8:56:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bandit25

I suppose that's true, but there are also a lot of men who call themselves masters or doms who simply aren't worth replying to. Seriously. I don't want to go off on a rant here and I'm speaking in generalities, but very often subs (and I am sure doms also) get rude or offensive emails or emails from people they quite clearly are incompatible with. Perhaps, you are correct and one should reply, but I've found that once you reply, especially to a rude email, the sender simply keeps sending more and more offensive emails. Better to simply not respond...he will get tired of his little game and try it on someone else. I am not saying that is the case here, but it does happen.

I'm not saying reply to a rude person - I'm saying a polite request for further contact should always be replied to. You are always within your rights to bitch-slap someone rude, though.

And yes - the wannabes are on both sides of the D/s divide

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 8:57:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheHeretic

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ORIGINAL: MasterofDiscipli

Sigh - in most kink places I've ever been to, a subbie who responds improperly is asked to leave and never return.

Yhere are just too many wannabes in here who haven't a clue.

Improperly huh? You're going to be very popular around here. You got the second part right though.

By improperly - I mean impolitely - (improperly was a typo of a particularly silly sort)

< Message edited by MasterofDiscipli -- 4/15/2007 9:00:32 AM >

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 8:58:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Soulmusic

The one that nevers fails to make me laugh out loud is Pyramids. Not sure why though!

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ORIGINAL: MasterofDiscipli

quote:

ORIGINAL: Soulmusic

I only thought of that aspect of my name after someone else pointed it out to me. My name is derived from Terry Pratchett and the Discworld novels.

personally I like music with rocks in it <lol>

Good author one of my favourites

yes - and I loved the first in the series too - I miss 'the luggage' <lol>

I also enjoyed the Wee Free Folk and Carpet People

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 8:59:40 AM

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I understood you, but I always like to have the other side represented. Even with that said, tho, I know that many subs get emails even when they say on their profiles that they are not looking.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 9:10:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bandit25

I understood you, but I always like to have the other side represented. Even with that said, tho, I know that many subs get emails even when they say on their profiles that they are not looking.

and some people just can't read - hehehe - yes - it is fair to ignore those messages as well - if the person is coming on - but having said that - I've sent messages to people who aren't looking - making a comment on something in her profile that is intriguing - not a come-on, but a valid attempt at a brief chat about something interesting - and received no reply as well.

Best real-time example of a suitable response I can think of was at a kink evening - young lady was wearing a thong, collar and cuffs - her Master was holding the leash. I thought she was wearing a lace dress - until I got close enough to see properly - it was quite dimly lit - and they were by the bar - so I went over, introduced myself to her Master, and said I'd like a few words with his sub - I then had a most enjoyable conversation with her about the tattoo that covered her back and upper thighs - it was spectacular - an 'oriental' type landscape - I could have spent hours looking at the details in the tat.

She obviouslt wasn't looking - I wsn't coming on to her - but there were valid grounds for communication - my appreciation of her tat - her willingness and desire to talk about it.

Similar things can happen here - and it is only polite to respond in kind when someone contacts you about something you have posted. Rudness should be ignored - or blocked. And inappropriate responses (such as an unwelcome or inappropriate come-on can be ignored - but all else should be responded to.

Heck, I respond to subs who contact me and with whom I have o interest in forming a relationship - it's just being polite...and manners are always appropriate

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 9:13:40 AM

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I agree 100% with you.

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RE: First Block. - 4/15/2007 9:33:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterofDiscipli

There are a few people on here who lack manners, Soulmusic. The people who advertise themselves as 'submissive' and then either respond as the one you experienced, or just plain refuse to answer a polite introduction - or worse yet - shred it unread really don't strike me as being on the right site. A subbie is polite to a Master and responds whether she is interested or not (in which case a polite thanks but no thanks suffices) unless she is already under a Master, who has told her not to respond - in which case, her profile should state that she is already taken and under instructions not to answer.

Sigh - in most kink places I've ever been to, a subbie who responds improperly is asked to leave and never return.

Yhere are just too many wannabes in here who haven't a clue.

i agree that it is preferred when there is some sort of reply to a message in the inbox, it may even be the polite thing to do...

i'm not talking about someone popping off a rude response, as that is usually uncalled for; but about those who don't respond at all

i get alot of mail, and i don't respond to all of it; some people obviously haven't read even the beginning of my profile, some people apparently didn't even care to see that i am submissive... but sometimes they simply don't appeal to me, for no other reason than "i don't want to converse with that person"

if i were to respond to every message in my inbox, i wouldn't have time to peruse the forums; and i doubt that what i get in collarme mail is a drop in the bucket to what some of the more attractive ladies get...

i just want to say that it's wrong to assume someone is less than submissive because they don't reply to you... guess what, similar arguments are often made that a subissive (A) is a wannabe because they said no to the idea of fucking Dominant (B)... just because someone is submissive, doesn't require them to submit to YOU; you may be something important in your community or around your friends and family, but get off your high-horse... to most of us, you're just another anonymous name

try to accept that everybody is different, and just because someone you've never met and likely never will does not fill your expectations of a how submissive should react to an anonymous stranger a couple thousand miles a day, does not make them any less of a submissive... their walk is not your walk, if you limit yourself to people who follow your unwritten rules when they've never met you; you'll likely have a hard time finding someone here

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