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darchChylde -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/10/2007 11:05:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Sounds wonderful, you have found joy in submission without a sexual relationship.
very, very, very few males Dominant or submissive can say that.
Good for you![;)]


if this is to me, i thank you

my submission is not about sex... but i am of course very sexually attracted to Ma'am; and after She considers my training complete, the aphysical nature of our relationship cannot go on indefinitely

but i love Ma'am and will continue as She wills as long as i am able, if it becomes more of an issue then we will talk of it and go from there... but i am fairly confident that i can retain as much self-control as is needed for a much longer period if necessary

i don't crave sex specifically, or even play; but a physical intimacy that we are not currently sharing



Alloces -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/10/2007 11:43:27 PM)

as I stated on another thread earlier it has been 2+ years for Me ..
I dismissed Mine that long ago and have really desired no sexual contact...I am enjoying the "Me" time I have been having..besides it tends to free up My mental process so that My creativity flows much better......just relax and enjoy life .....it is after all the only thing  we truely can lay claim to..



SusanofO -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 12:57:57 AM)

I've gone years, but mine was kind of a weird situation. I found a way to adjust, and actually in some ways enjoyed the freedom it gave me to do what I wanted otherwise, when I wanted to do it, so it wasn't all bad. But in a relationship, yes, I prefer a lot more closeness than that, generally.

My advice is to go out with friends, or spend a lot of time developing a new hobby - or seriously look for someone to hook up with, even if it's for a little while, if you are seriously loney.

I love other people, but I've never had that much of a problem with solitude, and sometimes even impose it on myself, just for some peace of mind. Plus, I love to read, and that's a fairly solitary activity (but I have other hobbies, and do volunteer stuff, that requires being around people,  too).

I once had a past-life regressionist tell me that in 11 of my 13 supposed "past lives", I'd been either a nun, or a monk, so maybe that is the reason I don't mind so much, sometimes?...Good luck with your situation.

- Susan



ownedkitten -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 1:00:52 AM)

My longest "dry spell" was two years - after being raped, I could not begin to think about being close to another man on any level.  



Quivver -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 2:34:15 AM)

Longest dry run?  4 years.
Latest dry run?  almost a year. 
Offers come and offers go but sex for the sake of sex is empty.
I know it's such a girly thing to say, but I have to have that mental click.
It's almost like the on off switch to the positioning of my legs... he hee



Lashra -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 4:57:49 AM)

Yes I did 4 years and it was my own choice as I wanted to work on getting myself together before bringing another person into my life. I was not embarrassed in the least as I feel its better to take your time rather to rush into something that could be a whole lot more embarrassing.

~Lashra



stockingluvr54 -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 9:19:34 AM)

sneaking up on 5yrs since ex left. Visited a pro Domme about a year ago but that was a no sex type thing. The Pro was the only woman I'ved touched in about 4+ years and what little I touched was fantastic(great feeties and legs..yes)! I work from the home 24/7 and have become somewhat of a recluse and as time goes on it seems to get worse...the recluse thing? I'm definately ready for some company but probably wouldn't know what to do with it if I found it?...lmao



Siona -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 1:57:09 PM)

Longest for me has been 21/2 yrs, it was my choice.
There's no shame in admitting it either.



Spar -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 2:10:05 PM)

5 years.  Just didn't find time for it between work, school, hobbies, friends, etc.  And it's so difficult finding a real match that you'd like to spend time with.



LaTigresse -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 2:11:13 PM)

Good grief yes, years even, though I don't really keep track of the exact length of time. It's not that important to me. I couldn't tell you when the last time was to be honest.

Nothing to be embarassed about. I am a relationship person and I have not been focused on that part of my life for quite awhile. The last few years have been more about taking care of me and my stuff. And casual sex isn't my style, just not the way I am made.



missturbation -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 3:26:27 PM)

Erm the longest i have gone between relationships is probably around 3 months. The longest without sex is 4 weeks and its killing me i can tell ya.



thornhappy -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 3:33:21 PM)

let's see:

5 years, followed by a short rainy season of 2 years, followed by another drought of 4.5 years.  around 4 years, i start looking lustfully at married men (a personal limit) and find it difficult to stand very very close to men. *rrrrrrrow!*  no wonder i'm still learning the fine points of relationships!

thornhappy



kiyari -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 4:06:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: thornhappy

... i start looking lustfully at married men (a personal limit) ...


Oh yes, and so damned many of those throwing themselves about *gah*

For yuks: http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com/about%5Fus



soultoshare -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 4:29:56 PM)

i was celibate for about 6 years, not necessarily by choice, i just wasn't interested in the hassles of a relationship, and i don't dip my pen in the company inkwell, and since that was the extent of men i had contact with, there was no sex.  I was content, no problems, i like my own company, so it wasn't a big deal.  There's more to life than sex!  (Even tho I had one heck of a time convincing my friends that i was content w/my situation!)



iwannapullurhair -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 4:53:59 PM)

I think if you wait too long, you'll have a constant case of the Beer Goggles. Everybody's number(1 to 10) will have a couple notches added. So a woman that is a 3 will look average and an average woman will look hot! Whenever I see a woman now, they look great!



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 5:03:06 PM)

in a dry spell by my choice because i'm not interested in having one night stands, booty calls or sloppy seconds . i would rather a monogamous long term relationship than a sexual romps with men who really don't love me. catching a disease isn't my bag either.



stockingluvr54 -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 6:27:03 PM)

Got to agree with a few on here. The relationship is the goal and much more important than a piece of tail.....



Griswold -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 6:27:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: iwannapullurhair

Have you ever had a really long dry spell where you were just not seeing anyone? Not even a booty call or one night stand. How long was it, if you aren't embarrassed to say?

Are you a real smoothie that always has companionship with hardly anytime alone at all or a recluse?


I'm trying to remember what year Watergate was....don't tell me...hey...where the fuck are my Ginko Biloba pills...

(It's coming back to me....)



thornhappy -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 6:50:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: soultoshare

i was celibate for about 6 years, not necessarily by choice, i just wasn't interested in the hassles of a relationship, and i don't dip my pen in the company inkwell, and since that was the extent of men i had contact with, there was no sex.  I was content, no problems, i like my own company, so it wasn't a big deal.  There's more to life than sex!  (Even tho I had one heck of a time convincing my friends that i was content w/my situation!)


at 5 years, I started looking lustfully at married coworkers.  that's when I knew I had it bad.



minnetar -> RE: Have you ever gone a really longtime between Boyfriends/Girlfriends? (4/11/2007 8:59:27 PM)

lol you can always find a bootie call but in regards to a ltr hmmm does this girl have to answer

minnetar



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