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Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 10:57:11 AM   
Squeakers


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Status: offline 		     I know I am not the first to have this complaint but I merely wanted to vent.   I set up a profile when I joined CM, but my intent has never been to seek a partner.   I merely joined for the forums.     My profile is rather blank, I just filled out what I had to; even my actively seeking is blank.    I figured that would disway anyone from contacting me but of course I occasionally get an email.    Normally, I just click the involved auto reply.   I guess I was worried about, ignoring people and the auto response is polite and to the point.
   So, I get an email, it's fairly long and descriptive---I read through it and send the auto response saying I'm involved and he responds to it.    He first stated that he had never 'asked me out' and went on to suggested that I was nothing more than an online freak with a childish chat name.   Then asked why I have a profile if my relationship is so great.  
    Have I missed something----are profiles simply for those seeking?    If they are not, then why resort to name calling and put downs, when the person contacted states they are not seeking.    I could perhaps understand it, if I responded with a negative remark.   With this type of immaturity and negativity, it's amazing that anyone would want to stick around.
     Vent and rant over.   
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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:01:39 AM   
Devilslilsister


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Status: offline 		understandable.. i get a few like that.. just tell em to find the nearest bridge

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:02:28 AM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Don't feel badly, Squeakers, I get those on occasion too.  I figure it's someone who is consistently striking out and that one more reject set them over the edge.
 
I feel I'm pretty darn clear in mine but still.. people see what they want to see.  Ignore it.

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:03:57 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		As far as I'm aware, you don't have to have a profile on the other side in order to be in the forums...because you create a profile on this side. Of course, I haven't quite figured out how to see someone's profile on the forum's side...

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:03:59 AM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

understandable.. i get a few like that.. just tell em to find the nearest bridge


Hey!

It is already occupied damn it.

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:07:09 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		He's a self centered twit who's furious because you won't kneel over the net. I'm here for the fora solely. My profile says happily collared sub but I still got come on emails when new.

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:11:49 AM   
BBBTBW


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Status: offline 		Go to Edit Profile, Click the DEACTIVATE button and magically you will not get any more e-mails.  If there is no profile to write to then they can't write you.  This does not deactivate your account, just your profile.



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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:23:40 AM   
Devilslilsister


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quote:

Hey!

It is already occupied damn it.


LOL i didnt mean to live under it

but more like jump off of it!


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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:25:53 AM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

quote:

Hey!

It is already occupied damn it.


LOL i didnt mean to live under it

but more like jump off of it!




Oooh I luv floater by's. I poke sticks at'em.

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 3:05:57 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Definately not. I've got a rather involved one and I'm not seeking. Their fragile ego was probably just threatened.

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 3:51:20 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		I just went back to actively seek dominant men mode, and my profile has in bold, not interested in a long distance relationship, and one of the very first emails I received was from viking dude from somewhere in the great white north.  He was polite, but spoke of reading my profile, blah blah blah...... 

Normally I ignore those who don't read or respect my profile, but I was in a bit of a mood and sent back, "obviously you didn't read the part of my profile that said I'm not interested in a long distance relationship".  He was polite when he responded, but his response was that the distance wouldn't be for long as I would be moving to him.  What?    Rather presumptuous aren't you Mr. Viking to think I'm gonna fall madly in love with your horny helmet and pack up my life and move there a week after receiving your email?   Sheesh......

If that was the case, I'd go live under the bridge with cutie Troll!

You can't win for losing Squeakers! 

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:07:08 PM   
Termyn8or


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Status: offline 		You may have found an idiot, no big mystery here.

The one thing you might do is put seeking "friends only". That means that you did not overlook the question. If you put nothing, I could see how some could construe it to be an oversight.

So you may NOT have found an idiot here.

If you prefer to never recieve mail, say so, I won't violate that, but do you really want that ? Why ? Is it like the phone for you ? I mean there are times that I swear if that damn phone rings I will shoot it. Is it something like that ? Because I am kinda the same with IMs.

I am on the internet and on these boards to be immersed in society, in a contingent of society, actually, that is not available at my neighborhood pub. CM mails are fine when you are getting to know someone, or have something to say that might not be cool on the boards, just like chatrooms, I would rather stay in the room instead of an IM.

Sometimes IMs are fine, some people you connect with maybe you go a bit farther in an IM, perhaps to exchange true emails or something. Phone numbers perhaps. Other than that I would rather stay public.

Actually there is an even easier solution if you absolutely don't even want to meet nor correspond with anyone privately. Simply do not read your CM mail.

That is your choice.

T

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:23:15 PM   
TGM


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Status: offline 		Along with deactivating your profile to not receive any mails and not opening your mails comments, you can also filter your mail to not allow it from a certain segment of society. So for example you can block all mail from men, or whoever is bothering you.

Personally I'm convinced that one needs to take a  few days off from CM if it's starting to piss one off so badly. I know I get more and more irritated with my emails until I take a week off, I come back nice and fresh and not nearly so worried about them.

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/9/2007 11:26:45 PM   
sexypet


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Status: offline 		i get more submissives than Doms emailing me most days.

i don't have to drive far to get to the nearest bridge, lol.

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/10/2007 4:08:53 AM   
Squeakers


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Status: offline 		     I wasn't mad that I got an email.   That isn't the point at all.    It's expected that because my profile is blank, people are going to take a shot an approach me and based on responses to this thread and others like it, it probably wouldn't matter if I put that I was attached in my profile.   The point is, I sent a polite auto response and some person feels he needs to attack me.  
   

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/10/2007 9:31:39 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Squeakers

    I wasn't mad that I got an email.   That isn't the point at all.    It's expected that because my profile is blank, people are going to take a shot an approach me and based on responses to this thread and others like it, it probably wouldn't matter if I put that I was attached in my profile.   The point is, I sent a polite auto response and some person feels he needs to attack me.  
  


If you posted some info in your profile stating that you are here for the forums, that you are not seeking anyone for more than friendship, and that you will not respond to any emails from those seeking your email box would calm down some. Most honor this sort of profile, and those who do not honor it are not even worth an auto reply.



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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/10/2007 2:42:18 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		As of today. I've deactivated my profile. 

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/10/2007 2:47:46 PM   
Real0ne


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Status: offline 		OK ready for this?  LOL

i would bet you can inactivate your profile and still get on the forums using that name.  

If your profile is inactive i do not think it shows up to the anyone.

try it and let us know :)


BBBT and LS you beat me to the punch!  LOL  i guess i should have read your posts first :)


< Message edited by Real0ne -- 4/10/2007 2:52:44 PM >

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/10/2007 2:47:58 PM   
Crush


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Status: offline 		Heck,
I've been contacted (me of all people) from folks that don't even look at my profile.   After all, that's one of those nice features of Collarme..."Who's viewing me."

Sounds like the emailer was definitely out of line and probably desperate.    Just the kind of person you want in your life...not!

Good luck and better days

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RE: Profile=seeking? - 4/10/2007 4:30:00 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		<-------- yup.. proof positive

quote:

ORIGINAL: Real0ne

OK ready for this?  LOL

i would bet you can inactivate your profile and still get on the forums using that name.  

If your profile is inactive i do not think it shows up to the anyone.

try it and let us know :)


BBBT and LS you beat me to the punch!  LOL  i guess i should have read your posts first :)



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