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ORIGINAL: StellaByStarlite
Yes, the yucky process. Good ol' Kubler-Ross doesn't prepare one for the reality of it all, either. You can go through all 5 stages in the course of an hour. You can be stuck at one stage for a while, skip another, then find yourself back at square one.

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

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ORIGINAL: StellaByStarlite
Yes, the yucky process. Good ol' Kubler-Ross doesn't prepare one for the reality of it all, either. You can go through all 5 stages in the course of an hour. You can be stuck at one stage for a while, skip another, then find yourself back at square one.

That's really it, too.  In the midst of a very decent day you might break out into sobs for about 30 seconds and then be fine again.  Some days it's 30 minutes.  Some days you wonder if it will stop.  But it does.

If you don't mind, I want to share something that happened to me 2 weeks ago.  See, my Dad was a Naval Officer who grew up in San Francisco.  His two favorite places in the world were SF and the Pacific (well, Seville was a 3rd but it doesn't come into play here, heh).  When he died, I had his ashes dropped by plane outside the Golden Gate.  My family & I stood on the ledge of a cliff in the Marin Headlands, and watched him go.  Just a couple weeks ago I went back there to visit.  It's such a beautiful place.  It was a gorgeous sunny day - blue skies and barely a breeze in the air.  I drove up the hill, got out of my car, and walked to the edge of that cliff (there is a guard rail, lol).   I smiled and said "Hi Dad!" and out of nowhere a gust of wind blew so hard it knocked me backwards, and continued blowing for nearly a minute straight.  I threw my arms out and laughed and cried and thanked him for the hug and then the wind died down and I went home :)

I recommend going to places that help you feel close to him.  Embrace him.  Embrace his memory.  Thank him for having existed.  I know some days the pain is so great you don't know where to put it.   But think of it this way - how lucky were we, to have such beautiful people in our lives? 

Sending you hugs and warmth,
og.

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If you don't mind, I want to share something that happened to me 2 weeks ago.  See, my Dad was a Naval Officer who grew up in San Francisco.  His two favorite places in the world were SF and the Pacific (well, Seville was a 3rd but it doesn't come into play here, heh).  When he died, I had his ashes dropped by plane outside the Golden Gate.  My family & I stood on the ledge of a cliff in the Marin Headlands, and watched him go.  Just a couple weeks ago I went back there to visit.  It's such a beautiful place.  It was a gorgeous sunny day - blue skies and barely a breeze in the air.  I drove up the hill, got out of my car, and walked to the edge of that cliff (there is a guard rail, lol).   I smiled and said "Hi Dad!" and out of nowhere a gust of wind blew so hard it knocked me backwards, and continued blowing for nearly a minute straight.  I threw my arms out and laughed and cried and thanked him for the hug and then the wind died down and I went home :)

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ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

The next day on my commutte the CD player was acting up and I popped out the disc. On the radio (Mine tells me what song is playing) I heard Like Heaven by The Cure. I laughed so hard I startled the guy next to me. Next song comes up and it's Arms of an Angel, then the 3rd song Blue Eyes by Elton John..which was "our song".

I finally just looked up and said...Okay Okay I get it! Just to drive the point home (and totally his sense of humor) I find myself surrounded by trucks for Kenny's Plumbing. ( his name was Kenny). I guess I got my sign and then some.