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Lost love - 4/5/2007 5:10:36 PM   
iwannapullurhair


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Status: offline 		Ever had a longterm relationship for years and then you broke up? It has been years since, but you still love that person? I still miss my lost love. I don't even know where she is.
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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 5:12:26 PM   
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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 5:26:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: iwannapullurhair

Ever had a longterm relationship for years and then you broke up? It has been years since, but you still love that person? I still miss my lost love. I don't even know where she is.


When I was 17 I was doing the whole surfer tan, blond hair, holding a beer at a surf party and I ran into this woman with dazzling blue eyes and butt length blonde hair.

Turns out she was 22 and preparing to take her oral exams for her PhD in Chemistry.  Got her phone number.  She helped me through a bunch of issues I had with girlfriends, and 9 months later we ended up together.  We were sort of together for 3 years.  She would dye her hair blue in cornrows, take it out, and have a 7 foot blue halo surrounding her.  We would get punked out or new waved out and go dance until the club closed.  We survived the 1981 Raincross Square DEVO riot.  We made love to reggae.  She said I was the only person she had ever met who could dance longer and more energetically than she could, and her friends considered her powered by atomic energy.

But it was not to be.  My life took me over there <---, and her life took her over ---->.  I caught up with her doing a search for her name about 10 years ago, and found it attached to a science paper on some unpronouncable chemical.  We spoke some, exchanged emails, but I suspect both of us knew that the gulf of time was too wide to be crossed. 

Part of me still loves her.  But it is like that Bruce Springsteen song "Glory Days."  The relationship only exists within the context of the time it existed in.  So I am not certain my feelings of loss are for her as a person or for us in the early 80's as a punked out couple stealing away into the woods to make passionate love after picking peaches.

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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 5:29:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		There is one person.  I'm not even sure it was love.  But it was a strong attraction, and a lot of agreement and is to this very day.  I think it will always be there.  It's a little bit of heart melt.  It doesn't hurt, it makes me smile.  It wasn't meant to be, for various reasons.  I hope he is happy.

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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 6:21:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes i was engaged to a squaddie for around two years, i cheated on him, we broke up. I still miss him at times. Saying that i've had short term relationships where i still miss the ex-partner. Any man i've truly cared for and split up from i miss at times.

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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 6:40:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yep, there was the one love of my life.  We were almost on the verge of our second reconnect, but a misunderstanding then a family illness and other things came up that took first priority in my life and he and I lost contact and I have no idea where he is now. 

There was a time I could always contact him through his parents, but they divorced and moved from the old home.  I did a search some time ago and I do know he, his father and brother were living in, Texas, for a while, but I'm not going to push the issue.  I only did the search after having a conversation about lost loves with a friend and looked the info up out of pure curiousity.   I'm not looking to get back together, but I am curious to know how he's doing all these years later.   Whatever the case, he will always have a special place in my heart, if ever there could be such a thing as a soul mate, for me, he was it.

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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 6:46:13 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		My first love was taken from me.  He was killed in a car wreck on our anniversary, coming home from shopping for the ring he was going to ask me to be his with. I defiantely still love him, and I know he would be happy seeing me where I am now.

I have one relationship that broke up after a long long time, and i do find myself wondering what hapened to him.  I dont love him, but I am defiantely curious as to what he did with himself after we split, we were together for 4 years

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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 7:08:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, except it wasnt all that long.  Lost him by chance and fate.  I moved, he moved - we lost contact.  Found him 10 or so years later and it was a disaster.  I spent 10 years holding onto him in a small part of myself.  I held onto the part he knew of me and i held onto him.  Yeah... i loved him... still do in a way.... and i'm angry. 

I had the moon in chinese charactors tatoed on my arm.  The moon was for him.  And i would look to the moon - quite often.. a sense of comfort..

and yet i found him - years later.  He had gone down the tubes.  I cried for 3 days straight when i found out.  Yeah it blew. 


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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 7:52:53 PM   
iwannapullurhair


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ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

Yes, except it wasnt all that long.  Lost him by chance and fate.  I moved, he moved - we lost contact.  Found him 10 or so years later and it was a disaster.  I spent 10 years holding onto him in a small part of myself.  I held onto the part he knew of me and i held onto him.  Yeah... i loved him... still do in a way.... and i'm angry. 

I had the moon in chinese charactors tatoed on my arm.  The moon was for him.  And i would look to the moon - quite often.. a sense of comfort..

and yet i found him - years later.  He had gone down the tubes.  I cried for 3 days straight when i found out.  Yeah it blew. 



How had he gone down the tubes? 

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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 10:01:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: iwannapullurhair

Ever had a longterm relationship for years and then you broke up? It has been years since, but you still love that person? I still miss my lost love. I don't even know where she is.


There is one person that I still wonder about and think it would be wonderful to see him one more time, just to know that he was okay. We dated for a year, pretty much I lived with him most of the time. He was gorgeous and very cool. We loved to dance. Thinking back on it, we probably did not share much in common, although both of us were highly sexed Aries. I broke it off with him because I was getting to a phase in which I was ready for a more serious relationship after I turned 20. I remember waking up every morning for a month crying because I knew it was over for good. I met my exhusband a couple of months later.

This guy's parents lived a few miles away from where I am now. Since I moved to this city (which was an hour away when we were seeing each other) about 4 years ago I have hoped to bump into him. I wonder if I would recognize him 20 years later... and I am pretty confident he would recognize me physically, but doubtful he would recognize me mentally.. I feel like a completely different person.

He was my first love, and you never forget that person.

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RE: Lost love - 4/5/2007 10:29:39 PM   
GeekyGirl


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Status: offline 		I still think about my ex husband.

We split up for a lot of reasons, mainly because he was a paranoid schizophrenic who couldn't hold down a job and had become violent. I haven't seen him since the day I handed him the divorce decree (he didn't even show up for the court date.)

I have spoken with him 3x since over email....the last time was almost 2yrs ago. I guess he's gone his own way, but I often miss him terribly. He was my one true love and I wish I'd been older and stronger and better able to deal with his mental issues. I've yet to meet someone who adored me as he did. I always wonder how he's doing....


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RE: Lost love - 4/6/2007 2:04:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I googled an old boyfriend and his orbituary came up, not what i was looking for.

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RE: Lost love - 4/6/2007 3:58:50 PM   
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I googled an old boyfriend and his orbituary came up, not what i was looking for.


OMG!  That is just awful to hear.  I'm so sorry that's what you found. 

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RE: Lost love - 4/6/2007 4:56:42 PM   
iwannapullurhair


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I googled an old boyfriend and his orbituary came up, not what i was looking for.


Yeah, that is awful.

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RE: Lost love - 4/6/2007 5:01:21 PM   
iwannapullurhair


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Status: offline 		I think I miss her the most when I go to the store and everyone is a couple and I'm there by myself. Anybody else know that feeling?

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RE: Lost love - 4/6/2007 5:12:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		      I just Googled the very first woman ever to break my heart.  Found myself on her blog page.  She seems to have retained her liberal views.  Oh well, my sense of humor scared her anyway...

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RE: Lost love - 4/6/2007 5:34:11 PM   
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I think I miss her the most when I go to the store and everyone is a couple and I'm there by myself. Anybody else know that feeling?


Yes, I know that feeling well.  Not the missing part - can't miss what you've never really had, but the loneliness that often overwhelms you when you are reminded of what you don't have.

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RE: Lost love - 4/6/2007 5:35:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ive been thinking about this quite a bit.. It's tough to explain what it is exactly I still feel. I still think about the first girl I ever fell in love with out of my head. She didn't cheat on me, but instead left me for another guy. It's really tough to explain, she was a talented artist, we shared pretty much every interest.. but there was something else. I've noticed that most girls I get involved with fit the same profile, for whatever reason: 1 1/2-2 years younger than I, photographers, problems with their mother due to drugs, and emotionally fragile. Anyways, I'm starting to get a little off topic. While I loved her, and still considered myself to be in love with her, I've decided that I'm not in love with the person anymore, but rather the idea of the person. Maybe not so much an idea, but an idealized version of her and I'm having difficulties getting past that in other relationships.

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RE: Lost love - 4/6/2007 5:51:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RosaB

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ORIGINAL: proudsub

I googled an old boyfriend and his orbituary came up, not what i was looking for.


OMG!  That is just awful to hear.  I'm so sorry that's what you found. 


Thanks.  I just remembered that i started a thread on it a few years ago:
First love

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