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RE: nilla vs lifestyle honesty - 4/4/2007 6:29:43 PM

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Thank you. Sometimes I wonder if I'm getting ye olde pointe across.

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RE: nilla vs lifestyle honesty - 4/4/2007 7:44:48 PM

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People are people, and besides, the differences between lifestyle and vanilla are not as straightforward as we like to make out. Some people have both, some people have a sort of mid-way lifestyle/vanilla mix. Some vanilla people are more lifestyle than anyone who we perceive to be lifestyle, and quite a lot of people claim to be lifestyle when in reality they're not.

It's more down to your own personal honesty and integrity, and that of the person you are with. If you are happy with your own openness and honesty and you are not a victim of someone being dishonest, what does it matter if people are honest or not?

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RE: nilla vs lifestyle honesty - 4/4/2007 7:50:33 PM

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quote:

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However i did also say that maybe its because the munch circles are so intertwined, we all know everyone elses business, what theyve been up to etc and that makes for not much escaping peoples notice.
So are people in the lifestyle really less honest in your opinion or is it just that the close knit community we live in means we can't escape other peoples notice when we are dishonest?

I think that's a very valid point, you made me think on a couple different levels. First, local scenes (at least here), are very tightly knit, on any given day, 99% of the group knows what's going on with the others, which makes it hard for someone trying to get away with anything. Also, in terms of dishonesty..the things that tend to be most harmful..ie, cheating, lying to a partner are harder to hide when everyone knows everyone else involved. In nilla relationships, I would say that probably usually isn't an issue. So, imo, not a matter of one group being any more open or any less dishonest, just harder to hide in one situation than the other.

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