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RE: Do you see anything wrong with this particular arra... - 4/3/2007 1:27:32 PM

OhBeMyMind

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

i hear you obe, but he is asking for advice on how to get his needs met....he is asking for an elaborate fantasy that is a lot of work...i am sure in his fantasy she is loving doing this and having a great old time following his instructions to the letter....but in real life doms would rather do stuff that is fun for them too and not so much work....he is young and may not realize that he is compromising his efforts severely and so we are pointing out the flaws so that he has the best shot at getting his needs met.

plus there are folks who he could find to do this for him for a price and they will do it to the letter...but they most likely wont have the years of understanding and skill to make his experience enjoyable or safe....what he wants is pretty advanced, i would not trust it to just anyone who needs some extra cash.

Thank you.
Nicely explained, and I do agree being safe should be a (if not THE) main priority.

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RE: Do you see anything wrong with this particular arra... - 4/3/2007 1:29:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Of course he should get what he wants. But, if you went to a restaurant and didn't follow the normal procedure of waiting to be seated, meeting the waiter, ordering your drink and appetizer, then ordering your steak, they'd be highly offended. You don't just march in, grab the first waitress you see and demand steak. People in the service industry deserve respect and quality treatment, no matter what service is being provided.

Master Fire

Point taken, and rereading his letter I can see where he could have been more respectful. Thank you.

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RE: Do you see anything wrong with this particular arra... - 4/3/2007 5:34:19 PM

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Like others have mentioned, I don't see how being tied up with pantyhose can be used for long term chastity. The other thing is that asking someone you've never met to put a long term chastity device on you is not advisable. She doesn't know you at all yet, you may be for real or you may plan to go to the cops and have her arrested. Or threaten her with arrest if she doesn't pay you off.

Plus the only time you can orgasm being with her means that she's at risk of being arrested for prostitution since prodommes can't have sexual contact with clients. I suppose she could toss you the key, send you to the rest room and tell you to come back in half an hour locked back in at which point you leave the key and the money on the table. That way she's safe but I doubt it's the scenario you are imagining.

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RE: Do you see anything wrong with this particular arra... - 4/3/2007 6:00:10 PM

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yes, he should not be passing himself off as the ultimate best loyal submissive. Presenting a domme a list of demands is not submission Second of all he should not automatically expect a pro domme to engage in sexual acts like bringing him close to orgasim then deciding nope none for you. .

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Someone please correct me if I am wrong......but if he is paying for it, shouldn't he get what he is paying for....what he wants????

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RE: Do you see anything wrong with this particular arra... - 4/3/2007 6:09:44 PM

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In my opinion bdsm , especialy when starts need a lot of talking. Vanila people when bouth want to be satysfied and want to be together talks. In bdsm it can be arranged like contract, or playing confession, or police examination, or mediwal
tortures made by inquisitor/ness there is many ways to know each other.
Nice is just coffee ar chat talk before meeting, to find the personality the limits, and what people want. BDSM pleasure comes , from contact of two people their bodies emotions feelings, personalities, and tehniques are after. of cours we have our desires, but we must think about our partner, not take him or her sa alive vibrator.

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