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RE: Pride - 3/27/2007 11:24:39 PM   
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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 2:51:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ah, but you're not *any old pregnant chick* .....you're HIS pregnant chick. He might not feel the pull toward a random pregant girl but all the things that make you sexually attractive to him are still there, despite being with child.

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 3:14:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		How can you be so sure it's pity sex?   Oh right, you're pregnant.

No way it could POSSIBLY be that A) You are the woman he loves.  2) You are VERY attractive.  or C) You're horny, he's horny.

Naaa, it couldn't be that simple could it?



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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 3:16:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		What they all said...PLUS sex is sex!  Now you know I am right.  Who's going to suffer?  You, that's who.  I know this isn't the most submissive thing to say, but...this is the time to indulge yourself.  Have sex...have lots and lots of sex.

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 3:22:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		i wanted to put forth my opinion, but im afraid to lol....
i'll just read what everyone else puts on this one!
Good luck & Congratulations on teh pregnancy, i hope all goes well for you!

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 3:24:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would also like to add that if asked a random sample of dads if they find pregnent women atttractive the answer would be "No".  But if you changed that question to " When YOUR lady was pregnant, was she attractive to you?" The answer will be a resounding YES.

Agirl said it well "you're not *any old pregnant chick* .....you're HIS pregnant chick."

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 4:35:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Pride maybe, but still valid feelings in my opinion. My ex husband didnt like pregnant chicks either and he went without for nine months even though my hormones were crying out for a damn good fucking lol.
 
Actually you need to take into account that your hormones are all over the place and how you feel now may not be how you feel in ten minutes or tomorrow. I never felt attractive when pregnant anyway so to know my partner didnt find me attractive with my huge bump in front of me was very hurtful and make me feel like cack. Saying that i did go from 10 stone to 15 1/2 stone in the time i was pregnant, even the sound of it isnt attractive huh? Oh and just so you know it was all baby and fluid etc i wasnt fat. See still got the paranoid preggars woman in me lol.
 
Seriously though talk to your master about this as if you are like me being pregnant will make you horny as hell. Plus being upset or stressed isnt good for your pregnancy so talk to him.

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 6:58:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd say your energy and your spirit have a lot to do with his attraction to you.
I think while indeed he may not be as visually excited by a big belly I think you have to give him enough credit to incorporate the notion you're serving a phenomenal purpose in bring his child into the world and that indeed is a womanly thing that can excite him for reasons other than visual lines.
I'd also say you specify he's not said anything for you to feel this way and you're imposing your self image onto him and then taking the sexual part of yourself away from him because you don't find yourself attractive regardless of his real point of view.
LOL look at it this way, with the baby taking up so much space inside your belly I bet your twat is a tighter fit, and if you're anything like  me I was wayyyy wetter when having intercourse when pregnant than when not & he may find that attractive too.
The shape of your pussy getting fuller as the baby grows is also something that usually visually turns on a man. Nothing like a swollen puffy pussy to turn a man on ya know.

I think you should indeed tell him your self image is not a very sexy one & allow him to decide how you two should proceed. I think cutting him off with the excuse it's pity sex is more you not wanting sex than him feeling pity at the point of your union.
It will be ok Missy, you can get through this.
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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 7:20:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think a man who does not find the average pregnant woman attractive may not view the woman he is having a baby with or is in love with the same way.

Think about it, how we feel about someone colors things a great deal.

Plus you see some strange woman on the street who is pregnant you see her frozen at a moment in time -- you probably have no idea what she looked like before.

However if he sees you he will see the gradual changes and it may not affect him at all the same way he does to strangers.  Heck, I think you may see the changes as more than he will for a long time -- this is what my sisters and friends who have been pregnant tell me: "How could he not tell I put on 10 pounds?"  I think it's similar to the complaint I've heard about women making any changes -- get a hair cut and he doesn't notice for a week if ever.

Aside from this, there is the fact of your Ds relationship.  I don't know what your negotiated rules are, but if I had a slave or sub who was pregnant and I wanted sex with her, we'd have sex unless she had some really good reasons why that might not be a good idea and the decision would still be mine as the owner.  

So in short, your emotions are going through changes with your pregnancy.  But try to remember that if he wants sex, and if your rules are he gets sex when he wants it, have sex and just accept it for what it is.  Try not to stress yourself out and live in those moments.

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 7:34:31 AM   
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One - i already sorta had this conversation with him.  Right around the time i pieced it all together.  Except, i was feeling worse and more or less hurt.  I took it that i was unattractive or better yet fugly.  He managed to get a whiff of what was bothering me (ahem ahem ahem) , sat me down and had a convo.  He assured me i was not fugly, but beautiful and said many postive things.  BUT he did have to admit that he finds pregnant women sexually unattractive.  So while i know that he thinks all those postive things and i'm not ugly and this and that... i also know that its not a turn on.  Now i know that i am projecting abit, as i'm projecting that i couldnt possibly turn him on.....  but well its how i feel, damn it. 

And i know that if i said "hey, since you dont find pregnant chicks a turn on, lets just cut that out for awhile"  i know what his response would be.  He would tell me i'm nuts, that women are wacky, thats what i get for thinking, and then go and prove me wrong.  Except i'm right.  And it would be pity sex, because i know - that he loves me and wouldnt want me to feel the way i do.  He wants me to be postive, upbeat, happy, ect and so he would do it - just to so i was.  Not because he's turned on and wants to use whats his.... but for ME.  i dun want him to do it for me, i want him to do it for HIM.  Doing it for me sucks.  i'd rather suffer. 

LOL on the tight fit and swollen lips.

Miss - i know how i feel changes ever so often.  Unfortunetly, i've felt like this for awhile and it was ooook because, i havent seen Master in like 2 weeks.  I see him in about 55 hours.  But like, i'm not even upset.  It just seriously ruffles my feathers to even contemplate... doing it.. with some one who doesnt want to.   Reminds me of lame men who no one wants to sleep with, yet go around begging for it and you end up feeling bad for them... and hell - i'm better then that.  Stoop me to that level

I asked for one......... simple....... thing.  For everyone to agree with me!  AND you all call yourselves subs/slaves and you cant do ONE thing.  Shame on you!  i think you all should go tell your Doms that you've been naughty and ask for a whipping.  (Preferrably video taping it, so i can watch it later, as i havent had any of that either) Amends will be made!! 

(oh p.s.  if you want to throw in abit of porn into those video's you all are going to run out and make me.... no worries)


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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 7:46:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Okay.. in my personal, biased and completely subjective opinion, all women in their 3rd trimester of pregnancy are actually apeshit bonkers. They should be humored at all costs! It's wise to keep a supply of empty calories handy in case hormone-induced insanity reaches dangerous levels.

DevilsLilMama.. just repeat: "Hell, no, I won't blow! Hell, no, I won't blow!"

Heee!
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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 7:49:19 AM   
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we'd have sex unless she had some really good reasons why that might not be a good idea and the decision would still be mine as the owner.  


Ah HA!  Thats right, i just need to figure otu some really good reasons.  i need to convince him that its what he wants.  Hmmm.. i could go with the whole "sexually unattractive" thing and that i'm perfectly fine with it and that it actually benefits him in the end.. and he's always wanted me in chastity.. and that in 3 months of waiting it would just makes things better....

Barring that.... i'm out of ideas.. and i usually fail at trying to convince him of anything.  He always see's right through me.  ::sigh:: this is probably all very futile. 

Well now, there goes my nicely constructed fantasy.  Reality bites.


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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 7:50:31 AM   
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DevilsLilMama.. just repeat: "Hell, no, I won't blow! Hell, no, I won't blow!"


LOLOLOLOLOL

i'll try this!  "hell no, i wont blow!"  If nothing else, it'll seriously amuse him. 


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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 9:16:02 AM   
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we'd have sex unless she had some really good reasons why that might not be a good idea and the decision would still be mine as the owner.  


Ah HA!  Thats right, i just need to figure otu some really good reasons.  i need to convince him that its what he wants.  Hmmm.. i could go with the whole "sexually unattractive" thing and that i'm perfectly fine with it and that it actually benefits him in the end.. and he's always wanted me in chastity.. and that in 3 months of waiting it would just makes things better....

Barring that.... i'm out of ideas.. and i usually fail at trying to convince him of anything.  He always see's right through me.  ::sigh:: this is probably all very futile. 

Well now, there goes my nicely constructed fantasy.  Reality bites.



I'm confused.

If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe or unsexy while pregnant tell him that.

If this is your fears coming into play maybe you should join a support group for pregnant women or find a therapist you can talk to.  I suspect you aren't alone in your feelings and ideas but they are your feelings and ideas, should you really put them onto him and fantasize about what he is doing or why?  Of course you will still do this, I think it's something humans do, but a support group or a therapist might help you sort through things more, give  you another venue to discuss it.

Fact is that most people on this website aren't in a similar situation either because they aren't women, they aren't pregnant now or haven't been pregnant in the past. I, for example, can only speak from what I've heard and seen.

Again depending on what you've negotiated though that may be all you can do unless you have a stopword for things.

I don't know if you or he would be open to it, but maybe renegotiations for this pregnancy might be a good idea.  Give you each a chance to reevaluate whether or not it is realistic to think things can continue as they were before.  I'm in no way saying you should give up your Ds or sex, just that you might want to both adjust in a formal way so you feel everything has been discussed and noted.

Not the same but when Fox went from student to full-time mundane job we did stop and rediscuss and put in writing new considerations for our new realities.  One of these was flexibility and duty -- yesterday he called over lunch to ask if he could take overtime this week at work; I said "yes" and let him make arrangements after that with consideration to his evening duties to me and the household.

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 9:35:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Mabey he is realy afraid of poking the kid in the eye during sex with you.

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 10:09:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

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All right but there is going to be sex. And the only pity your gonna get is from this forum saying.. DAMN!!!!! He did what?

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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 10:18:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		::smiles:: Being uncomfortable or unsexy just wouldnt cut it.  Telling him "unsafe" would be a lie.  No its not fears, whats there to be afraid of? 

This line 
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Well now, there goes my nicely constructed fantasy.  Reality bites.
  Was in a sense me laughing at myself, and realising that i will get no where with this thinking (and that i might be being abit of a tard).  My lame and pathetic attempt to throw my hands in the air about the matter.  When i started the post, it did not enter my mind that i was projecting at all.  I was honestly absolutetly sure that this was the way of things.  In reading everyone's replies, i'm starting to realise that the way i believe things to be - may actually not be the way of things.  i may infact be speaking from total insecurity and pride.  The pride i can handle, but insecurity is wrong.  It alters a person's vision.  So yeah......... i guess i came to the conclusion (well mostly) to just drop it and go with whatever flow he presents.  It really is the only wise option. 

Nah, we dont need to renegotiate.  He alters and changes things as he see's fit.  It works for us.  He's generally very reasonable, but he makes sure to keep things on the path.  We've also no stop words or safe words or red lights or even stoplights.  (and yes thats another lame attempt at humour)

LOL Dnomyar......... 


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RE: Pride - 3/28/2007 10:29:05 AM   
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All right but there is going to be sex. And the only pity your gonna get is from this forum saying.. DAMN!!!!! He did what?


LOL  - i dont sleep with trolls - their penis's are prolly slimier then a dog and if i cant stomach that idea........


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RE: Pride - 3/29/2007 9:28:40 AM   
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All right but there is going to be sex. And the only pity your gonna get is from this forum saying.. DAMN!!!!! He did what?


LOL  - i dont sleep with trolls - their penis's are prolly slimier then a dog and if i cant stomach that idea........


OH NO, SHE DIDN'T GO THERE DID SHE????

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RE: Pride - 3/29/2007 10:57:22 AM   
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Mabey he is realy afraid of poking the kid in the eye during sex with you.

A funny story was when I had my daughter the woman in the bed next to me was getting her Demerol shots every 4hrs on the nose and blow out most of her day.
She said the most random things to her kid like "It's time to go back to the nursery so you can socialize with people your own age" and lots of stuff like that.
Well one day she pooped out with " And I'm betting you're real happy that blind, bald mouse isn't bouncing you around in my tummy, I told you that would end when you came out of me." I thought what the hell does that mean. LOl Of course curiosity got the better of me after an hour or so so I asked her what blind bald mouse bounced you around? Did you have mice running across the floor in your house?
She said no, my husband need sex 3-4 times a day. I kept telling him toward the end of this my 4th one I could feel the baby bouncing around with his thrusts. He said That was OK as the baby wouldn't know it was him & would think it was a bald blind mouse.
I really think this couple was a little wackey.
It was definitely the weirdest pregnancy conversation I ever had.
Now every time I hear about blind mice ( like three blind mice) I think of the head of someone's dick.
suzanne

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