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Cumming? - 3/27/2007 11:20:50 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		Good afternoon to all,
   My Dom and i were talking the other day regarding that eventually i will be having him cum. Since i am new at having him cum is there any advice that i could recieve from you all so that i won't be nervous and do something wrong?? Or am i just totally oblivious to all this? Or should i just go with his adivce on "walking me through it"?
  Thank you
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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 11:23:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		Having him guide you through it is the best way for you to learn how to get him to orgasm.

Time, experience, learning techniques, experimenting and communicating over time will be the best way for you to learn how to "get people off."

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 12:24:02 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Don't yank it so hard that it detaches.

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 12:26:18 PM   
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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 12:29:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Don't yank it so hard that it detaches.


   

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 2:14:18 PM   
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Face him.
Bend slightly at the waist.
using your dominant hand, pat the top of your thigh and say..
 
 
 
 
"Cum on boy.. Cum 'ere.. that's a gooooooooooood boy!"

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 2:23:39 PM   
WhiplashSmile


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Status: offline 		I thought Dr. Ruth or the Fruit Cake lady on late night TV answered this one
awhile ago.

Seriously, have your Dom show you what he wants.  Do not be afraid and do it.



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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 5:48:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Don't yank it so hard that it detaches.



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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 6:44:09 PM   
Rafters


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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Don't yank it so hard that it detaches.


Depending on the method

By hand, hold it like a coke bottle and do a back and forth shaking motion, like you want it to fizz. Unlike a bottle, don't put your thumb over the opening at the end

By blowjob, the first step is to cross out the word "blow" and replace it with "suck". Once he's cum, release any pressure, but keep your warm mouth around it. It'll return to hardness quicker than when it's exposed to air.

Any other methods are out of your control.

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 7:12:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		grlneedstolearn,

A little basic anatomy research is probably a good idea. It will provide a context for understanding what your Dom will teach you. "The Joy of Sex" is the classic, but surely google can provide other references.

To get you started, most men have three erogenous zones that directly impact orgasm; underneath the head of the penis, underneath the base of the penis, and the prostate gland (accessable through the anus). Other men enjoy nipple stimulation, some enjoy pain, some enjoy power. Some enjoy light pressure, others firm. Some enjoy fast, others slow. And these things may change with mood and how close to orgasm they are. Finally, some do not enjoy prostate stimulation, so be sure to find out before you try this.

Good luck,
HawkWolf

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 7:16:58 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Hey you fuckin' guys let's talk some aftercare here.

Do not let they guy's cum oxidize........ie
do not let it catch any air---
swaller it
stuff in up your snatch
back into it with your ass and gobble
but for fucks sake dont look at it.

You will do fine after that.

Ron


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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 8:19:12 PM   
puella


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Status: offline 		Are you denying the beauty of warm cum  dripping all over a womans face and breasts,  Ron? 

I would never have guessed!

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 8:21:22 PM   
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you offering said face and breasts puella? (runs for My life)

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 9:41:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Hey you fuckin' guys let's talk some aftercare here.

Do not let they guy's cum oxidize........ie
do not let it catch any air---
swaller it
stuff in up your snatch
back into it with your ass and gobble
but for fucks sake dont look at it.

You will do fine after that.

Ron



Too funny Ron

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RE: Cumming? - 3/27/2007 9:50:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

Seriously, have your Dom show you what he wants.  Do not be afraid and do it.


This is probably the best advice you're gonna get. If your Dom knows how to get himself off, he should be able to show you how to help him reach orgasm.

The only thing I can add to it is to practice gradual squeezing techniques. As in, first ask permission to practice on his forearm. Grab it and slowly start increasing the presure while rubbing your hand up and down his arm. Pause at certain increments and just hold that bit of pressure while continuing to rub, then increase to the next level of pressure. It should take you a boringly long time to go from a feather light touch to a vice-like grip.

While you're working his arm, ask him to let you know about what level of pressure he'd like you to use when you start touching his cock, and about what level seems like the tightest grip he's wiling to put up with. From there, you've got your approximate toughness window -- that's how light and firm you can be without either making his skin crawl or sending you running for the Bactine.

You may want to practice a similar game using your mouth and a few of his fingers if you're going to try for oral sex, especially if you're just starting to learn how to keep your teeth out of the way.

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RE: Cumming? - 3/28/2007 5:12:05 AM   
HisSongstress


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Status: offline 		For oral novices and experts alike, I enjoyed this book:

Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing (Paperback)
by Sadie Allison

Happy experimenting and discoverying.

best!

...song...

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