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RE: for the dom males on this site - 3/22/2007 6:38:40 AM

IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: Rafters

Somethings that won't work and why

Net Nanny style monitoring software.
Download, build and burn a free UBCD4WIN iso onto a bootable CD and you can bypass windows and it's software and connect directly to the net via broadband and dialup. Remove the cd and reboot and the PC's back to normal with no trace it was used.

Passwords to all their accounts.
Delete certain emails from your inbox, sent items and delted folders to remove any trace.
Open another secret account and use that.

Proper proxy software on the internet gateway, that's in a locked room so it can't be disabled
Use a work computer, internet cafe, friends
My cell phone speaks Web/Gmail/MSN messenger/SMS and soemthign called voice.

Total control of the entire internet
OMFG She meets some one in RL and has a traditional conversation using spoken words.

Like most people problems, technology isnt a cure. Unlesss she's snuggled on your lap while she uses it, and you can use the penis polygraph, you're going to have to *shock, horror* communicate. And if she wants to not be open and trustworthy then maybe a RL BDSM relationship isn't the ideal choice

Ok, sorry, but this just totally confused the hell out of me

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RE: for the dom males on this site - 3/22/2007 6:49:01 AM

onestandingstill

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rafters

Somethings that won't work and why

Net Nanny style monitoring software.
Download, build and burn a free UBCD4WIN iso onto a bootable CD and you can bypass windows and it's software and connect directly to the net via broadband and dialup. Remove the cd and reboot and the PC's back to normal with no trace it was used.

Passwords to all their accounts.
Delete certain emails from your inbox, sent items and delted folders to remove any trace.
Open another secret account and use that.

Proper proxy software on the internet gateway, that's in a locked room so it can't be disabled
Use a work computer, internet cafe, friends
My cell phone speaks Web/Gmail/MSN messenger/SMS and soemthign called voice.

Total control of the entire internet
OMFG She meets some one in RL and has a traditional conversation using spoken words.

Like most people problems, technology isnt a cure. Unlesss she's snuggled on your lap while she uses it, and you can use the penis polygraph, you're going to have to *shock, horror* communicate. And if she wants to not be open and trustworthy then maybe a RL BDSM relationship isn't the ideal choice

Ok, sorry, but this just totally confused the hell out of me

I think he means if you choose to be a schmuck and go behind your Dom/Dommes back there's other ways to communicate.
Point being if I HAVE CHOSEN to give that much control of my life to someone I'm not going to go behind their back and do the opposite of what I agree to so it's not a viable option IMO.
suzanne

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RE: for the dom males on this site - 3/22/2007 7:22:29 AM

CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: MasterHXB

do you control your slaves online activity?

Never gone the slaveowner route but I have had submissives. I never limited their activity and I do not believe I would with a slave either except in cases such as the below:

If your submissive/slave spends so much time on the computer that her obligations to her dominant/owner are not being met...then yes, something needs to be done. Whether it is communication over her time management skills or a refocusing of her priorities...however the dominant/owner chooses to do that...but something.

If your submissive/slave gets so caught up in emotional drama with others on the net that it begins to affect your relationship in ways that are more related to what she has seen and heard on line than what is truly happening within the relationship...then something needs to be done.

If your submissive/slave uses forums such as this to behave in a crude manner...boorish, ill-mannered, arrogant...and her "courage" to act that way comes about from being able to step behind the line of "well, if you don't like the way I act, take it up with my owner/daddy/master/mistress/Grand Poobah", then something needs to be done. I know that for myself, I want a submissive that is independent and intelligent and able to handle herself in the outside world BUT in the same way I handle the outside world....with courtesy and manners and the perspective that others' viewpoints may be just as valid....to them....as my own and that my occasional disagreement with those viewpoints does not have to be stated in an immediately confrontational manner.

The word trust has been thrown around a lot these days. Constant monitoring of my submissive's online activities...in MOO...would in my mind, even if not in hers, signify a lack of trust. It also seems to me that it would undermine trust she is building in me for how can she trust someone that she does not feel trusts her?And I freely admit to being a bit philosophical here....if she chooses to fuck around on me with someone she has met online and she wants to keep it from me, she'll find a way. How many married men come home from the office on time every night....after having fucked their secretaries during their lunch hour? How many married women come home on time every night and feed hubby and put the kids to bed...after having given a blowjob to the boss during the day? If you want to find a way to do it...you will. Yes, I can restrict time on the net and I can restrict access but at a certain point, I would begin asking myself...am I doing this to manage her in an "innocent" dominant fashion OR am I doing this because I don't trust her/am afraid I'll lose her?

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RE: for the dom males on this site - 3/22/2007 8:16:49 AM

Dnomyar

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well put CD.

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RE: for the dom males on this site - 3/22/2007 8:21:43 AM

drawntothedark

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My online activities are not regulated. He encourages me to come here to collar me (if not for the discussion topics alone!) I am suppost to use my judgement when it comes to other Doms.

He is not big on micro managing my life. He wants and encourages me to think freely with out him.

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RE: for the dom males on this site - 3/22/2007 8:50:27 AM

adaddysgirl

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

It has always struck me as odd that some dominants insist on having all your online IDs and passwords. Valyraen knows a few of my passwords, but only from when I've asked him to log in for me. He doesn't need the information. It's not like there is anything in my livejournal that he couldn't find out from asking me or anyone I talk to online that he doesn't know about. Of course our computers are right next to each other so we can see what each other is up to. I don't think I'd be happy in a relationship where I wasn't trusted to that extent.

i personally would not see this as a matter of trust. A former dom of mine made it very clear that he would have all my passwords once our relationship progressed to such a stage. It was not a matter of trust for him, but control...and when that time came, that would have been fine by me. Different strokes for different folks, i guess.

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