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CreativeDominant -> RE: for the dom males on this site (3/22/2007 7:22:29 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MasterHXB
do you control your slaves online activity?
Never gone the slaveowner route but I have had submissives. I never limited their activity and I do not believe I would with a slave either except in cases such as the below:
If your submissive/slave spends so much time on the computer that her obligations to her dominant/owner are not being met...then yes, something needs to be done. Whether it is communication over her time management skills or a refocusing of her priorities...however the dominant/owner chooses to do that...but something.
If your submissive/slave gets so caught up in emotional drama with others on the net that it begins to affect your relationship in ways that are more related to what she has seen and heard on line than what is truly happening within the relationship...then something needs to be done.
If your submissive/slave uses forums such as this to behave in a crude manner...boorish, ill-mannered, arrogant...and her "courage" to act that way comes about from being able to step behind the line of "well, if you don't like the way I act, take it up with my owner/daddy/master/mistress/Grand Poobah", then something needs to be done. I know that for myself, I want a submissive that is independent and intelligent and able to handle herself in the outside world BUT in the same way I handle the outside world....with courtesy and manners and the perspective that others' viewpoints may be just as valid....to them....as my own and that my occasional disagreement with those viewpoints does not have to be stated in an immediately confrontational manner.
The word trust has been thrown around a lot these days. Constant monitoring of my submissive's online activities...in MOO...would in my mind, even if not in hers, signify a lack of trust. It also seems to me that it would undermine trust she is building in me for how can she trust someone that she does not feel trusts her?And I freely admit to being a bit philosophical here....if she chooses to fuck around on me with someone she has met online and she wants to keep it from me, she'll find a way. How many married men come home from the office on time every night....after having fucked their secretaries during their lunch hour? How many married women come home on time every night and feed hubby and put the kids to bed...after having given a blowjob to the boss during the day? If you want to find a way to do it...you will. Yes, I can restrict time on the net and I can restrict access but at a certain point, I would begin asking myself...am I doing this to manage her in an "innocent" dominant fashion OR am I doing this because I don't trust her/am afraid I'll lose her?
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