RE: If you are attached at the hip so to speak, to your One, how do you become a bit more unattached?

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jauntyone -> RE: If you are attached at the hip so to speak, to your One, how do you become a bit more unattached? (3/20/2007 9:09:24 AM)
hello when I am not busy playing at being a soldier, I do things that I know he would like to see me doing. I read, I take the time to pamper myself [:)] (shhh, that's a secret ), I work around the house. Anything that occupies my mind and time is looked at as beneficial. Perhaps it is a bit easier for me because Master and i are often not together, so it's imperative that I keep myself busy. I wish you well, melissa

Missokyst -> RE: If you are attached at the hip so to speak, to your One, how do you become a bit more unattached? (3/20/2007 10:17:18 AM)
I was attached at the hip. Not only was he my dominant, but he was my boss and best friend. For 6 of the 7 yrs we were together I was his right hand, his business partner, and his most loyal defender. At the time it seemed to work. But now that it is over I am lost. He is still my partner but not my best friend, not my dominant, and he has moved on. Killer to the mental well-being, let me tell you. I don't know if I will ever dive into another relationship at this point. But I can tell you this, next time around, I am keeping part of me separate from him. It really is hard to recover yourself when you don't. Having given my all, and during other relationships, given only what I could, it is far safer to keep some of yourself for YOU. Find things to occupy yourself so that you have a life to fall back on. Friends to hang out with, or joy in other stuff that really makes life more interesting anyway. With or without a partner in your life. Kyst

Devilslilsister -> RE: If you are attached at the hip so to speak, to your One, how do you become a bit more unattached (3/20/2007 12:26:14 PM)
I've employed alot of tactics. There is forcing yourself not to think of him. One of the ways i found very helpful was going to the YMCA this summer. i'd thow myself so hard into the aerobic classes that usually by the end of them i could barely walk. I'd be wiped for a day or two and then go back and do it again. I went exploring in the woods around here. i hung out with my younger neighbors and managed to get in loads of trouble. i got back into school. I went to Texas for awhile.. i made plans and goals for my future.. with out him. All in all, its a mindset. i refused to feel like i felt. I looked into me, i said "this f*ing sucks" and i refused to allow it to suck any longer. On top of that i just slowly forced myself to stop caring. I emotionally seperated myself from the situation and i probably emotionally seperated myself from myself. You know if you do something long enough, it can become a habit. If you lie to yourself long enough, it can become a truth where there is a will, there has GOT to be a way.

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