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daddysgirl1985 -> serving two doms (4/3/2005 7:06:00 PM)

what are the ramifications of serving two doms, especially if they are totally different? is there any possibility, at all, of a submissive pulling such a feat off?



MistressFire70 -> RE: serving two doms (4/3/2005 7:41:59 PM)

I can't totally comment on the ramifications, but I know that it can be done. A good friend of mine, a slave, is collared by two Masters. The Masters are friends and have agreed to a hierarchy; one is the primary relationship and one is the secondary relationship. In actuality, these 3 people are part of an extended poly chain. All relationships are discussed by all involved and approved by all.

So, yes it can be done, with lots and lots of communication between ALL involved. The primary has the right to set limits on the secondary relationship. Usually, these limits get relaxed as the trust is built up.

Hope this helps.

Fire



Kinkypupper -> RE: serving two doms (4/3/2005 10:33:23 PM)

See no real reason why one cannot..
however it is easier for a Dom to handle 2 subs then for 1 sub to handle 2 Doms..
there is bound to be com conflict in rules, requests, orders and guidelines.
What if one Dom likes you shaved and the other likes you VERY furry..
If they know each other and are both approving of it then go for it..



daddysgirl1985 -> RE: serving two doms (4/3/2005 10:47:49 PM)

i guess i might have a problem, i was wondering about a sub serving two doms who dont know each other at all and who are not aware that their submissive is serving two masters at the same time. so...i dont know



sweetpleaser -> RE: serving two doms (4/4/2005 3:59:14 AM)

quote:

i guess i might have a problem, i was wondering about a sub serving two doms who dont know each other at all and who are not aware that their submissive is serving two masters at the same time. so...i dont know


I don't see this as working because how do you explain to one that you can't submit to him at the moment because you are submitting to another? Even if this is an online thing, you would still be unavailable for one when he wants you to do something. JMO



Oumae -> RE: serving two doms (4/4/2005 5:12:33 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysgirl1985

i guess i might have a problem, i was wondering about a sub serving two doms who dont know each other at all and who are not aware that their submissive is serving two masters at the same time. so...i dont know


Can you really submit to someone if being dishonest with them?

If the sub hasn't told either Dom about the other Dom than in my opinion she isnt truly submitting, maybe it could be called bottoming as is just for the time she is with one Dom.

Oumae



Harrison -> RE: serving two doms (4/4/2005 5:23:13 AM)

A sub serving two doms?

not mine.

I expect my sub to be 100 percent mine....not 50 percent.

It might work for others...but, I see way too many problems to allow it in my world.

Just my 2 cents.

Harrison



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: serving two doms (4/4/2005 5:31:27 AM)

While it certainly is possible to have multiple doms (see polyamory section of boards) I can't see it working if the doms in question are completely different and not working cooperatively with eachother.



MedusaOblongata -> RE: serving two doms (4/4/2005 7:24:38 AM)

I have a submissive who serves me and another. We haven't had any problems with it at all. He was there first, and when she and I first started talking she was completely clear and honest about the situation. He and I have met and get along quite well, even co-topped her one night. As long as all parties involved are okay with the situation it should be fine.



sweetpettjenny -> RE: serving two doms (4/4/2005 4:06:15 PM)

I think any person who is dishonest and hiding things is bound to fail in a relationship...



daddysgirl1985 -> RE: serving two doms (4/4/2005 10:11:17 PM)

thank you to A/all of you for your insightful and helpful opinions. based on what you have A/all explained, i feel it is best that i only serve one dom. For only then, will i be able to totally submit to Him. These two men do not know each other at all and they are both too strong-willed, possessive and jealous for me to even dream of introducing them. In this respect, i will inform one of them that i do not wish to be involved with him anymore. again, thank you A/all for your opinions.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: serving two doms (4/5/2005 5:36:31 AM)

Please never base life decisions on what people say on an anonymous cyber board...please?

Each of those doms deserves you to at least be honest that this is what you were considering and the process that you came to conclusion.



daddysgirl1985 -> RE: serving two doms (4/5/2005 8:46:37 AM)

thanks emerald slave. of course, i weighed what everybody said to me with my own feelings about my situation. either way that i choose to look at it, its best the i serve only one of them.



submittous -> RE: serving two doms (4/5/2005 1:09:09 PM)

We are co-Doms with more than a few years experience with bdsm poly families and have to admit that many "slaves" cannot successfully serve 2 masters.... some however can really prosper under dual guidance. We find that working together provides a built in reality check and that helps us maintain consistency...

just our thoughts and experience

good luck

Bill and Iris



tianna -> RE: serving two doms (4/11/2005 11:26:25 PM)

i believe that i serve two Doms and give myself fully to both of them. The reason i say this is because when i am with one, i am totally with that person. When i am with the other one, i am only with them as well. Both of these people know about each other but have not met yet.

tianna



AlphaGeek -> RE: serving two doms (4/13/2005 7:22:29 AM)

daddysgirl1985,

Good luck with your choice!

Polyamory isn't for everyone, to be sure. With your two potential playmates exhibiting jealousy without knowing each other existed, they'd be poor candidates for a triad anyway. :)

I'm not entirely certain that the arrangement you described falls under the description of polyamory. Open communication lines are crucial to a successful polyamorous relationship. There appears to have been little communication between all members in the scenario you described.

If you'd like more information about polyamory, give me a yell! I can point you to some excellent reading material, both online and printed. I understand that you aren't pursuing a polyamorous relationship now, but armed with good data, who knows where you'll find yourself in years to come?

My personal experience was that my triad didn't come into existance through design, but more through happenstance. Perhaps it works that way for others as well? :)

Cheers!

A_G



MastrDK -> RE: serving two doms (4/13/2005 7:16:14 PM)

well I for 1 am all for poly that being said it is not a 1 way street...the house is poly... I Consider myself a kind loving and understanding man who knows whats sauce for the goose so to speak... so we are now just accepting hopefully soon another Master into the house...there has to be some chain of command yes but... COMMUNICATION is the ONLY key to success... and although slave will be alpha... one and all have a say in the day to day running of the household.. being a Master does not make me all seeing and always right..more often than not good discussions with subs/slaves and other Dom/mes bring out good ideas...we all occasionally get caught up in lateral thinking and occasionally cannot see the woods for the trees.. so before you step into this realm 1 of which I have lived for some 20+ years remember this is not all about me me me share talk love and listen and all things are possible as long as you all want them bad enough.....ohhh and yes we are looking for at least 1 more girl lol


MastrDK



WayHome -> RE: serving two doms (4/16/2005 12:38:34 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysgirl1985

i guess i might have a problem, i was wondering about a sub serving two doms who dont know each other at all and who are not aware that their submissive is serving two masters at the same time. so...i dont know



Um, that's called "cheating" and it's not the same thing as serving at all. Yes, you do have a problem.


Leto



knees2you -> RE: serving two doms (4/24/2005 8:24:51 AM)

I have mentioned in a previous post.

It is Writen, if You serve 2 Masters
at once, You shall shurley hate one of them~

How difficult it is to Be content with one~

Sincerely, ant



ginger21 -> RE: serving two doms (5/2/2005 11:10:45 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysgirl1985

i guess i might have a problem, i was wondering about a sub serving two doms who dont know each other at all and who are not aware that their submissive is serving two masters at the same time. so...i dont know

I think it's a problem in that you can't completely give yourself to either one. You won't be the best slave you can by either's standards. I know I wouldn't recommend it. It's basically cheating- you'll get caught sooner or later.



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