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DominaSmartass -> Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 4:02:56 PM)

Hi everyone,

So, my boyfriend is coming to visit me next weekend and I have been planning a scene to start immediately upon picking him up at the airport. All of our most successful ones have been spontaneous and we haven't seen each other in a few weeks so I'm getting really excited. But I've never done something like this before and I want to have it all planned out in advance. Looking for advice definitely and also feedback. It's a complete surprise for him and I know for a fact that he doesn't read the message boards. So for the 2 people on here who know who he is, don't tell!

Here's my plan so far. His plane arrives at midnight. He will not have eaten dinner yet, as per my instructions. I am planning on getting him in the car with his suitcase, as normal, then driving to the first gas station parking lot I see after leaving the airport and then pulling out my leather wrist cuffs. I'll stop the car and tell him to put them on. Then I will tie his arms behind his back (behind the seat of the car.) I will put a blindfold on him and possibly earplugs, haven't decided. I will pull take off his pants and underwear, or possibly tell him to do that before I tie his arms back...again, not decided on the exact details. One way or another he'll be in the passenger seat of my car, wearing a seatbelt of course, arms tied together behind the seat, wearing no clothes, but covered by a blanket. Then I'll drive us home and be able to molest him the entire time while he has no idea where we're going (he's never visited me at this location before.) I am planning on stopping at a fast food drive through and getting us dinner. More for the fact that he is tied down and naked (under a blanket, remember) while I do it than that I want fast food. I don't know if it would be better to have earplugs in so he doesn't know what's happened till I start feeding him french fries or to let him hear me order and possibly hear the cashier ask me what's going on. My plan is to say he's sleeping...It's believable with a blanket and sleep mask (blindfold.) I've also considered rigging up his cock to something like the "oh shit handle" in the car so that he gets a nice jerk and tug when we hit bumps. Anything to make the ride more interesting.

Then we'll finally get back to my place (it's about 40 minutes) and since it's fairly secluded he might be able to get into my apartment with only a blanket on him but that's risky. He might have to get dressed, thus ending the scene as far as I can see. I need suggestions, advice, whatever. I'm willing to take an alternate route home to make the trip longer. I'm willing to take us somewhere different and unexpected to continue playing before we arrive home. It's going to be well after midnight but it's very warm here in so-fla. So anyway, please, suggest away!




paulthesub -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 4:19:20 PM)

Depending on how sadistic You feel like being, You could make him drink a huge soda and keep driving around until he begs to go pee. Or You've heard of a bed of nails right? What about making him sit on a car seat of nails. How about if You feel like some humiliation? Make him stick his head out the window and bark at cars or people as You pass them.

Damn i'm glad i'm not responsible for making up my own punishments, i can get a little too creative for my own liking at times.




MBETWO -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 4:23:18 PM)

Drive carefully




Griswold -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 4:30:42 PM)

Blah, blah, blah....




SimplyMichael -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 4:59:31 PM)

Sounds like fun!

I have sunglasses that I sprayed black paint on the inside so you can't see through them but nobody can tell from the outside.

A raincoat is a great way of taking someone naked although it works better with women than men.

I would tie some CBT around his cock so you can jerk him while he is in the drive through.

have him have to lean over and change his order or something, make him speak to someone while you are pulling the rope on his cock. 

You could always take a decent sound recording of some very public place and then drive him to a secluded place, take out the plugs while the recording is playing and fuck with his head, bend him over and insert a buttplug for the ride home.

What helps me is knowing the triggers for someone and then designing the scene around whatever I am trying to do whether that is confidence building or degridation.

Another thing I just thought of is announce that you have to do something tonight or can't use your place and a fellow domme has offered to "keep" him for the night and thus all the secrecy.  Then you could wrap all the games around that, perhaps even at that secluded spot shave him or something.  Again, just depends on what sort of mindfuck will work best.




saltygoodness27 -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 5:03:23 PM)

Sorry, something is really bothering me...when, exactly, did that minimum wage employee working the late shift at the Burger Shack consent to be a part of your scene?  Moving past the fact that you're quite likely to get pulled over if you've got a man trussed up in your car like that, the whole fast food thing is bad etiquette at best.  Have your fun, take your risks, but don't subject some poor schlump just trying to do his or her job to your fetish so that you can get your rocks off.




SimplyMichael -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 5:11:14 PM)

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Rafters -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 5:39:44 PM)

Sounds a bit hard to get of in a hurry if the cops notice something funny, and the cops are trained to look for litte clues.

Here's some simple things that won't blow your cover in public

On the Outside

Replace the blindfold with wraparound sunglasses that have had the inside painted black. Add a white cane, and you're walking a blind person down the middle of the street in broad daylight as people look on thinking you're a selfless saint

Disposable hearing aid plugs, same deal. Don't use ordinary open music headphones, they need the volume turned up too loud to drown out the outside world and can damage ears. Use the plug type that mute the outside world.

Neck brace, cervical collar, knee braces, even just lots of vanilla strapping and bandages

Don't use thick wrists cuffs as that just screams weird. throw on a lot of bracelets as camoflauge then simple shoelaces. A simple shoe bowtie will tie them, and if the traffic cop tells you to step out of the car with your hands up, it's trivial to remove.

Cover the seat with plastic first then a proper seat covering as subbies and I'm assuming subs can leak.


Underneath the vanilla clothing, anything low profile goes

If you want a woman to feel every bump, loop a crotch strap ($2 of heavy duty stretchy rubber tiedown) through a pair of simple ball gag balls placed across the mouth of the vagina and anus. This transmitts the cars vibrations to the labia, corks the resulting emissions and still lets subbie walk to the ice cream stand.

For subs, one ball should do the job

If the thought of a subbie forced to wear a gladwrap and tape diaper to prevent her cum showing through her jeans, offends the Dommes. They can strike a blow for equality by taping a condom over the nearest penis.
This protects the jeans, can hold a litre of fluid without leaks, won't pull on the tape when the subs sitting down in a kilt, but will weigh about a kilo a liter when they're upright.

Tie the wrist laces to the crotch strap or cock harness. Not directly to the genitals, this lets the bouncing arms and groin fell connected, while still being quickly removable in a way that doesn't remove skin..

You can always try a good flogging to the back of the thighs, to help improve awareness of variations in road surface.

Don't forget car bonnets are warm, so even on the coldest night you can throw your subbie over it and they'll be warm on the side you're not, for a good half hour.




Invictus754 -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 5:42:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

Hi everyone,

Looking for advice definitely and also feedback. It's a complete surprise for him and I know for a fact that he doesn't read the message boards. So for the 2 people on here who know who he is, don't tell!

Here's my plan so far. ... Then I will tie his arms behind his back (behind the seat of the car.) I will put a blindfold on him and possibly earplugs, haven't decided. I will pull take off his pants and underwear, or possibly tell him to do that before I tie his arms back...again, not decided on the exact details. One way or another he'll be in the passenger seat of my car, wearing a seatbelt of course, arms tied together behind the seat, wearing no clothes, but covered by a blanket. ...


Always consider the "what-if" factor...what if you get pulled over by the police or highway patrol (for whatever reason)?  The highway patrol might not be able to tell a "friendly, consensual scene" from an "abduction" and you might end up spread eagled yourself - on the pavement, at the business end of a Glock 9mm.  That is definately a scene-stopper.
 
My suggestion is to pull over in the same gas station parking lot and have him change into women's underwear and a buttplug (or something like that...you know what would humiliate him most) but let him put a button up shirt on and shorts over them.  I'm sure most police have seen men in women's underwear before, and you wouldn't be handcuffed yourself if you get pulled over.
 
Just a thought.




SimplyMichael -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 10:06:51 PM)

What a bunch of whiners.  Cops are NOT going to go nuts over some chick with a boyfriend tied up in the car, I HATE cops and will give them at least that much credit.

As someone who has had cops point guns at me before and pointed them at cops, I sort of know what the fuck I am talking about.  Even if it was a guy with a chick tied up, they are bright enough to see her cunt is wet and her eyes are glazed over in a good way. 

Of course give them shit or forget to suck up to them and they can cop an attitude, but hey what do you expect from power hungry twits with short dick syndrome?




WhiplashSmile -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/14/2007 10:25:58 PM)

Instead of ear plugs you might want to consider headphones that cover his whole ears.  With some music.. something with deep bass.  This way it will fuck with his sense of vibration as well.   Perhaps something like Lords of Acid "Slave of Love" repeated over and over, to remind him that's he is a slave! hahaha.. My God I Love that song... But you get the idea.

Now, you might want to have a pair of shorts handy for him to slip on so you can get him into the apartment, that way the cops won't have to show up and hand out a ticket for indecent exposure.   All depend upon how much of freak show you want to put on.. You could insist upon using a partial Holloween custom.. One of those Hooded Masks.. or something.  You could dress up yourself, and make it appear to people that you are just out fucking with people's head and having fun.  Sometimes that's the best way to slip things by the public nose!  You can make jokes about walking your dog if he's wearing a Dog mask.. or whatever else.. If you are dressed like Elvira... you could have him wearing a Spooky Demon mask.. and pretend his is some Demon or Demonic power you've captured.  Hell if you wanna dress up like Wilma from the Flintstones... make him wear a Fred flinston mask with a pull over costume shirt!! Anything to fucking make him look like a freak without him knowing about it... then being able to make a joke about it, getting him into the apartment!!  Trust me, this shit works everytime.. Some of your neighbors will think you two are just having some kinky strange fun... without thinking that you guys are Mistress and slave/sub... Plus no worries about the cops showing up...

Another stupid thing to do... for the fun of it... you could have a remote controlled vibrater like device... just slide or taped between the cheeks of his ass.. when you pull up to McDonalds you instruct him to stay very still and not move.. hit the button and his nose probally won't be bothered with smelling the french fries... LOL... do this while he eats to.. LOL... after feeding time, you can turn it off.. leave it off.. and let him wonder how long it is before you turn it on again... but never turn it on again... It will fuck with his mind waiting for it..... LOL...

There you go... that's all I have to add...





DominaSmartass -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/15/2007 4:48:38 PM)

Thanks for the great reply!
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Sounds like fun!


Yep, it better be! (otherwise, why am I doing it?)

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I have sunglasses that I sprayed black paint on the inside so you can't see through them but nobody can tell from the outside.

Great idea! I've heard of this before too. Definitely need to do it.

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I would tie some CBT around his cock so you can jerk him while he is in the drive through.

I love it. Definitely going to tie some rope around him and keep it in my hand for most of the drive.

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have him have to lean over and change his order or something, make him speak to someone while you are pulling the rope on his cock. 


Neither of us get off too much on humiliation, I prefer to keep it more passive. But still, a good idea.

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You could always take a decent sound recording of some very public place and then drive him to a secluded place, take out the plugs while the recording is playing and fuck with his head, bend him over and insert a buttplug for the ride home.

Very creative, I like it. Too bad anal play is not on his "hot" list. Someday it will be but for now it would just ruin the mood.

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What helps me is knowing the triggers for someone and then designing the scene around whatever I am trying to do whether that is confidence building or degridation.


Oh, most definitely.

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Another thing I just thought of is announce that you have to do something tonight or can't use your place and a fellow domme has offered to "keep" him for the night and thus all the secrecy.  Then you could wrap all the games around that, perhaps even at that secluded spot shave him or something.  Again, just depends on what sort of mindfuck will work best.


Hmm, good idea but this one would never believe me. He knows me too well and knows that I will NOT be sharing him with anyone or even leaving him alone for a second considering we see each other for one weekend a month. Too bad he's already shaven cause a shaving scene would be hot.




DominaSmartass -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/15/2007 4:51:41 PM)


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ORIGINAL: saltygoodness27

Sorry, something is really bothering me...when, exactly, did that minimum wage employee working the late shift at the Burger Shack consent to be a part of your scene?  Moving past the fact that you're quite likely to get pulled over if you've got a man trussed up in your car like that, the whole fast food thing is bad etiquette at best.  Have your fun, take your risks, but don't subject some poor schlump just trying to do his or her job to your fetish so that you can get your rocks off.


Give me a fucking break. Since when did a person wearing a sleep mask and earplugs and covered in a blanket become a crime? The fast food cashier will have no clue what's going on and I am not involving them in the scene in any way. The only thing that matters is that after a brief stop, I will start feeding him french fries and he's going to realize that we went through a drive through and wonder what he looks like and if the cashier noticed he was tied, etc. Which they won't. I'm sorry, but get off your high horse and have some fun.




DominaSmartass -> RE: Planning a scene - need advice (3/15/2007 4:55:00 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Rafters

Sounds a bit hard to get of in a hurry if the cops notice something funny, and the cops are trained to look for litte clues.


Thanks for the advice when it comes to doing play in public without being noticed. As for my original idea, it will be after midnight as I drive us home from the airport and unless I am speeding or have a burned out tail light, I won't be encountering any cops. It's not like they can see through my windows in the pitch black dark as I drive on the interstate at midnight. Again - puh-lease. Second of all, it might be embaressing if pulled over but seriously, what's a cop going to say if I've got my perfectly willing boyfriend tied to the car seat? Is that illegal?




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