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AquaticSub -> RE: Questions on D/s. I have my opinions, I’d like to hear yours (3/14/2007 2:48:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl

A wise man ones tought me that, "The D/s relationship is the most difficult and most rewarding of any relationship in the world."  that is of course if it's done right ;)

Shylah


That doesn't seem very wise to me. To us a d/s relationship is more rewarding because it's what we actually want. To the vanilla person, this would be unrewarding, to say the least.

Edited to be gender inclusive [:)] 

Edited again for typos. Curse my fingers!



DominaSmartass -> RE: Questions on D/s. I have my opinions, I’d like to hear yours (3/14/2007 3:20:27 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl

Questions: 

 1. How difficult has it been for you to find a lasting D/s relationship?

2. What is needed, in your opinion, to make a D/s relationship last long term? 

 3. Who gives more the Dom/Domme/Top or the Sub/slave/Bottom? 

 4. Is the D/s relationship more difficult to make last then other types of relationships?  

Shylah


1. No more difficult than finding a good relationship, vanilla, just friends, or otherwise.
2. Trust, committment, honesty, communication, attraction, hot sex :)
3. Ideally no one should give more. We each give more at certain times or in certain ways but equal energy should be maintained or else one of the parties is going to feel used in the bad way.
4. I don't think so inherently. I think people make it so.



mstrjx -> RE: Questions on D/s. I have my opinions, I’d like to hear yours (3/14/2007 3:30:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl

 1. How difficult has it been for you to find a lasting D/s relationship?

 2. What is needed, in your opinion, to make a D/s relationship last long term? 

 3. Who gives more the Dom/Domme/Top or the Sub/slave/Bottom? 

 4. Is the D/s relationship more difficult to make last then other types of relationships?  

Shylah


I have been in several BDSM relationships of some duration, a couple of them 7 and 5 years.  I can find relationships fairly easily.

Compatibility, I feel, is the key to endurance.

I would have to say that I give more to my relationships, because I assume far more responsibility.  And that's all right.  To an extent, a partner just has to 'be there'.  I'm good from there.

I think BDSM relationships are easier to maintain, because you know you started with a core set of values and goals.  That isn't always apparent in vanilla relationships.

Jeff



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