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RE: Real-Life Gender Roles - 3/12/2007 3:53:52 PM

LaTigresse

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And it really does not fall off due to lack of use. There is no harm in waiting to find someone that fits rather than using unsuspecting vanilla girls to satisfy your testosterone laden urges.

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RE: Real-Life Gender Roles - 3/12/2007 4:13:51 PM

hereyesruponyou

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I notice you are still fairly young (not meant to insult at all), and encourage you to give yourself time to find someone right for you. If you're not getting out and meeting people in the kink community how are you to know there isn't that one special person who is perfect for you right there, now.

I had kink tinged vanilla with my 1st husband and it was enough. After i lost him though i settled for a nice guy who was so vanilla just the thought of rope scared him (if he saw my toy bag now i think he would poo his pants). It just wasn't nearly enough in the long run. We were lucky to stay friends, but i do still feel as if i hurt him and should ahve been the one to know better. I just want to chime in and say don't be one of the 40 yr old wish i had done it differently types that are all over on here (me included)

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RE: Real-Life Gender Roles - 3/12/2007 8:36:22 PM

Tristan

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I think the gender roles can be fairly flexible. Personally, I'm dominant and a people pleaser. I think I found a combination of traits that works very well for me. I use my intuition as someone who wants to please others to enhance my dominance. I'm good at finding the things that excite my partners. I'm also good at taking control.

Carl Jung talked about masculine and feminine being a part of all of our personalities. I suppose it's like yin and yang. I don't think dominance and submission is any different. The difficult part is finding the balence that's right for you.

You mentioned being dominant in order to be submissive. The question is whether that dynamic works for you. If not, is there a way to make it work for you or do you need to find a D/s lifestyle partner?

D/s in the vanilla world seems to be fairly common. D/s with the lifestyle kinks seems to be less common. I've found that most people who are at least somewhat open minded are also open to different kinks if taken slowly. You just need to discover mutual kinks together.

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RE: Real-Life Gender Roles - 3/13/2007 7:00:23 AM

petdave

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

And it really does not fall off due to lack of use.

In the interest of helping the OP make fully informed decisions about his penis, i feel it necessary to point out that the above poster is a lesbian, and has no personal stake in the accuracy of this theory.

We now return you to your regularly scheduled programming.

...dave

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RE: Real-Life Gender Roles - 3/13/2007 7:10:15 AM

LaTigresse

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quote:

ORIGINAL: petdave

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

And it really does not fall off due to lack of use.

In the interest of helping the OP make fully informed decisions about his penis, i feel it necessary to point out that the above poster is a lesbian, and has no personal stake in the accuracy of this theory.

We now return you to your regularly scheduled programming.

...dave

Dear dave,

Thank you very much for the laughter. One of the best I have had all week.

Two swats for you!

LT

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