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hisannabelle -> how do you define "scene"? (3/10/2007 7:29:33 PM)
how do you personally define "scene"? is it any sort of play that falls under bdsm or power exchange? is it only play of that sort that's been planned out? only play of that sort that happens in public, with an audience? something else?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/10/2007 8:12:22 PM)
Well there is "the scene" which is used as one of the many words to descrie the sub-culture- as well as community, lifestyle, wiitwd and others. "A scene" for me would be a substantial period of time taken specifically to enjoy and focus on kinky activities with someone. http://www.collarchat.com/m_272262/mpage_1/key_scene/tm.htm Why is it called a scene?

mstrjx -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/10/2007 8:16:26 PM)
Yeah, 'scene' is playing. Although my typical relationship would be based on D/s or M/s (which might for some not mean 'play'), I like to take time out to play as well. Daily, every other day, something like that if possible. Jeff

hisannabelle -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/10/2007 11:19:42 PM)
what's the ratio of what you consider "play" to sexual activity? is it the same, or do you separate the two? (please feel free not to answer...i was just looking for a more in depth response, so i thought i'd develop the question.) is play something you plan out? maybe i should add something along the lines of "how does scening figure into your relationship and/or your practice of the lifestyle?"

WhiplashSmile -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 1:07:27 AM)
There's scene play with or without sex. Sex without scene play. Also the Dynamics of Dom/me and submissive behaviors. Also, another aspect of something known a Deferment. This makes for a wide range of things to happen in any give relationship. In terms of scene play aspects of S&M, bondage, Dominance and Submission, Top and Bottom roles. You can be a Dom/me and be on the bottom of an activity per say. Also a Dom and Domme can play. Lets not forget the Switches as well. Really a Scene is something which is carried out to fillful all the Kink. Some people go as far to incorperate costumes, and act out roles. Role playing. Some just take their time, with ropes, chains, playing in a play room even. All depends. But it's more than straight vanilla sex. Then there are times when both enjoy vanilla sex. All depends upon how often people have time for what and when. Varies from relationship to relationship. Factors such a time, sex drive, fetish drive..

mstrjx -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 3:10:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hisannabelle what's the ratio of what you consider "play" to sexual activity? is it the same, or do you separate the two? (please feel free not to answer...i was just looking for a more in depth response, so i thought i'd develop the question.) is play something you plan out? maybe i should add something along the lines of "how does scening figure into your relationship and/or your practice of the lifestyle?" This is one of those 'how do you define sex' moments. Let me backtrack. A 'scene' is about painplay. But it's not JUST about pain. I like to craft a heady mix of pleasure with the pain. I call it 'the carrots'. If you understand that the carrots are just around the corner, then you'll do what it takes to get to them. That pleasure usually takes the form of an orgasm, through whatever means. So a scene to me means that my partner will probably cum anywhere from 1 to as many times as she can handle. But there might not be sex for me at all. This is where it goes off topic. She's just had numerous orgasms, and she realizes that I have asked for (or taken) nothing. How might that make her feel? It's all about the carrots. Jeff

nissa -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 4:56:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hisannabelle how do you personally define "scene"? is it any sort of play that falls under bdsm or power exchange? is it only play of that sort that's been planned out? only play of that sort that happens in public, with an audience? something else? when i hear the word scene, I think of something that is staged and not ongoing or constant.

MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 5:02:23 AM)
I believe Dominant or submissive is "being" (what you are) and a scene is "doing" (what you do). I use expressions like "public scening" and "planned scene" to distinguish from our everyday rituals/practices (scenes that become second nature)

Gentlegiant12 -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 6:36:23 AM)
Since we role play as a hobby a scene for us (my wife and my self) is more pleasurable if we incorporate props and costumes in to the scene. Also we use as high a quality in all aspects of our toys and clothes as we can afford.To Us Scening and Love making are about an exchange of power on both sides. It just makes sense to us to spend quality time in preparation.

Mercnbeth -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 6:45:36 AM)
I open my eyes and begin my day. I close my eyes and end the day. My definition of "scene" is what happens in between. Sometimes it doesn't go as I planned and sometimes I have nothing to do with how the "scene" progresses or ends. But hell, I love the spontaneity. As that life-styler Shakespeare said; "The world is my 'scene' and everyone else are players in it."

daddysprop247 -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 6:45:37 AM)
i define scening as bdsm play. and by play i mean activities done for the purpose of mutual arousal or enjoyment. scening is not something that takes place in my life. it just doesn't apply to the way we live this lifestyle.

Celeste43 -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 7:18:51 AM)
Scene or play is something that involves getting the toy bag out. Without the toy bag I just consider it sex.

SimplyMichael -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 7:40:17 AM)
A scene for me is when I pretend to be dominant and she puts up with it.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 5:12:46 PM)
What LA said. But, include this quip: A scene is what we do, a relationship is what we have. Master Fire

feralcat -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 6:49:00 PM)
Hello Mr and mrs Merc! I understand completely.My "scene" is very simliar.....it is my "normal". Sometimes it is planned,usually is not,but in many ways it just "is". It ebbs and flows throughtout my day. My boy sleeps chained to the bed,hooded or not ,cuffed or not...wakes to some sort of play,and it moves naturally throughout the day.It is in the small gestures,the teasing,the slight hand signals I sometimes use to communicate my desires,the rituals, etc.Is it ever not there? The "toy bag", well that is spontaneous,off the cuff play,and then again I can play with whatever is at hand just as easily.. .As for the poor boy, he just never knows because at times I have no "planned out" scene. I do as the spirit moves me. Life is an adventure,scenes melting into each other.....and it is a hell of a lot of fun!

Mercnbeth -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 7:13:57 PM)
feral, Appreciate your understating! The best "scenes" are those observed in retrospect and not preemptively planned. Fun is spontaneous and not scripted, with a live audience versus a laugh track. We 'plan' only in looking for the opportunity to enjoy ourselves. Hell, our "normal" isn't normal but it isn't meant to be anyone else's anyway. feral, I'd bet you and your "boy" and me and my "gal" we'd have a great 'scene' hanging out.

feralcat -> RE: how do you define "scene"? (3/11/2007 8:26:11 PM)
"hanging out" ...now there is TROUBLE with a capital T...poor "boy",poor "gal"! Nothing worse than the creative "not so normal" just hanging out! lol....there would be warning labels all over that gathering! Feral

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