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RE: Cuckolding - 2/25/2005 4:14:16 PM   
Sissyslave71


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This topic always intrigued me. I would say the couple in general would have to be pretty open minded and liberated to practice this sort of thing.

A lot of couples swing.

I suppose there is a thrill aspect of the male having to stay celibate while the female does not have to.

It sounds like domination...but people not even in the lifestyle seem to do this.

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RE: Cuckolding - 2/25/2005 5:56:39 PM   
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Hmmm.

I think this would be something I would do in the right situation.

I have a bigger desire to Dom a couple and force them to have sex. For some reason, that really appeals to me.

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RE: Cuckolding - 2/25/2005 8:29:55 PM   
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Actually, my definition is a man who is sexually aroused by the wife having sex with others.

A couple of years ago, I was approached by a Canadian friend to help him persuade his wife to do it, which I did. (She's very sexually submissive) As it turned out though, (And this may sound a bit "pithy") she really got into it bigtime. Then, all of a sudden, he decided he didn't want her to continue with it. Of course, she's not at all impressed and she's carrying on regardless. To the point where I can't see their marriage lasting, which is a real shame.

Oh what tangled webs we weave and all that.

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RE: Cuckolding - 3/1/2005 9:09:55 AM   
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good morning Ms Suz;
i am a cuckold, i would not call it a fetish but it is an extension of my servitude to the Woman i am with. i am small endowed andhave weak erections and have learned to accept my place. i am even gratefull for my condition since it allows me to serve better and please in other ways. i also agree with you that the cuckold does not need ot be present, it is the time for the woman to enjoy herself so it is for her to decide wether she wants the cuckold present or not. In the past, i would simply prepare her for her date and do housework while she was out and waited for her to provide aftercare, emotional and physical. i guess, this is just one subbie cuckold perspective.

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RE: Cuckolding - 3/6/2005 8:14:56 PM   
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I've not posted on here before but this subject is one I have participated in in real life. My limited experience has shown that most of the definitions here are pretty close to the mark, but remember, in this kink, as in almost all others, the variations are as numerous as the people participating in it.

At first I thought it was just a sub female/sub male sort of thing, but have found the virtually vanilla couples do this as well. The only ones I have been involved with were a sub male who loved the fact that someone else was using his wife. She, on the other hand, loved sex of any kind, and they asked Me to be their Master, which I did for over 4 years. He would prepare her in what ever manner I wished and then ask if he was to stay or not. Depening on My mood I would let him (facing the wall and jerking his little pecker off while I used his wife) or not.. and let her call him on her cellphone as I used her for My pleasure. So, looks like all kinds make up the pattern of this particular kink. One of Mine was to have her suck Me off, then transfer the cum to His mouth when she kissed him. *shrugs*. Different strokes I guess.

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RE: Cuckolding - 3/9/2005 12:08:35 AM   
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The following was pasted from Dictionary.com, the sources/authors below, but this is the definition from there:




cuck·old ( P ) Pronunciation Key (kkld, kk-)
n.
A man married to an unfaithful wife.

tr.v. cuck·old·ed, cuck·old·ing, cuck·olds
To make a cuckold of.


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[Middle English cokewald, from Anglo-Norman *cucuald, from cucu, the cuckoo, from Vulgar Latin *cucclus, from Latin cuclus.]
Word History: The allusion to the cuckoo on which the word cuckold is based may not be appreciated by those unfamiliar with the nesting habits of certain varieties of this bird. The female of some Old World cuckoos lays its eggs in the nests of other birds, leaving them to be cared for by the resident nesters. This parasitic tendency has given the female bird a figurative reputation for unfaithfulness as well. Hence in Old French we find the word cucuault, composed of cocu, “cuckoo, cuckold,” and the pejorative suffix -ald and used to designate a husband whose wife has wandered afield like the female cuckoo. An earlier assumed form of the Old French word was borrowed into Middle English by way of Anglo-Norman. Middle English cokewold, the ancestor of Modern English cuckold, is first recorded in a work written around 1250.

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cuckold

n : a man whose wife committed adultery v : be sexually unfaithful to one's partner in marriage; "She cheats on her husband"; "Might her husband be wandering?" [syn: cheat on, cheat, betray, wander]


Source: WordNet ® 2.0, © 2003 Princeton University

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RE: Cuckolding - 3/9/2005 4:11:37 AM   
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all again, are correct in some form. I have a link to a cuckold community. If you are interested in finding out more, just take a look. This was a very interesting read. All your opinions were very varied, and thankfully none ignorant. A far cry from other forums I have joined.

http://adultcommunitiesonline.com/ourhotwives/cuckoldguide/

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RE: Cuckolding - 3/9/2005 5:12:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: iwillserveu

Your wife and some other guy having sex.

King Arthur was cuckolded by Lancelot an Gwenivere. (Yeah, they were dominant.)


(Actually...."close, but no cigar"....it's MY wife and another guy having sex hahahahahahahahahahaha:))

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RE: Cuckolding - 4/21/2005 5:50:36 PM   
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OK... then what is it when my husband (not submissive, and not dom either for that matter... ) likes to watch me have sex with other men? Or actually, likes to share me with other men.

What is that called? (heck... we've been married 20 years and i've never had a forum to ask that question... what a great place this is!!)

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RE: Cuckolding - 4/21/2005 6:51:33 PM   
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Your husband, by definition is a classic cuckold. Well, by My definition anyway. The voyeurism only adds to the humiliation for him, and ultimately the humiliation is the key.

Make hay while the sun shines though, (Assuming you're for the whole thing) because once on the path, turning back is no fun.



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RE: Cuckolding - 4/29/2005 5:53:38 PM   
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are you sure it's about humiliation? Cause in our conversations, it seems more that i'm his little cumslut... hmmm... so what would be some questions i could ask to help clarify?

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RE: Cuckolding - 4/29/2005 10:46:54 PM   
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I can only speak based on the instances I've encountered over the years obviously. It's actually a very very fine line between that and absolute control, but control requires you be ordered, rather than you choosing someone. i.e. he selects someone and you have no choice in the matter. Not whether you have sex, rather you have no voice in choosing a play partner.

As far as questions go, be honest, be open, and ask him to do the same. Ask him if you were open to this, what would he prefer.. That you chose someone, or he did... and go from there.

Is the water getting murkier or what? lol

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RE: Cuckolding - 4/30/2005 2:30:43 PM   
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Having been approached by a number of men who wanted their wives to become "sex slaves", or some varition, I find there is both great variation in motivation and in end result. Many of these men approached their wives with the idea for years to be rebuffed. I developed in the wife a sense her servicing other men to be more along the lines of Florence Nightengale.

I am trying to remember if I have ever failed in this endevour, but since minds tend to reject painful thoughts, perhaps in my dotage I have just forgotten. However, I find women when properly supported have enormous sexual appetites, and when supported by other wives and women, they are well beyond awe inspiring.

Husbands in many cases started with dreams they would somehow get to slide into the "master" role on my coat tails, but in most cases we ended up with a wife submissive to other men and a bit dominant to her husband.

Many watched, many even sucked males in preparation, some were told to stay home and wait, in a few cases wives moved lovers into the house.

I disagree with the comment sharing a sub or wife is always cuckolding or involves humiliation. I have given my subs to many men over the years. I arranged for my wife to have 7 men treat her like a Queen.

I am not at all sure in the former, I am expressing some underlying homosexual love. Certainly I feel great empathy for the men who cannot get laid easily, and I have a great sense of both power and deeper sense of ownership when a woman consents to give herself so completely to me, I have the right to give her to others. This to me is an act of profound love. Certainly, in these instances, my women were in no way "unfaithful" to me. In fact, I would consider their acts to be ones of deep and abiding faith.

In the case of my wife, she had undergone cancer surgery. She felt very insecure sexually. The experience was very loving. During the entire time, I never undressed. I was there entirely to see she was treated well, the men were guided to her maximum pleasure. I can remember one moment when two men were inside her and she looked over at me. The feeling of love and the thanks in her eyes still rocks me to the bottom of my soul.

In the case of my giving my women to other men, I have never felt I was in any way a cuckold.

In the case of most of the men, who's wives I helped become more sexual, I would say in 90% of these cases they were cuckolds.

All that being said, I also feel these are brave souls. I applaud any wife who brings forth the sexual Goddess of Love within her. I laud any man who shares his wife with others, for whatever reason.

In my mind there is far too much fear and loathing being foisted on us by the Big Three religions who hate women and hate sex. These people are as best I can tell the true Devil worshippers on the planet.

Sex to be is a highly spiritual act, the joining of yin and yang.

But I am one of those old time hippies, so feel free to ignore anything I say.

Zip

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RE: Cuckolding - 5/2/2005 4:06:51 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tidbits

are you sure it's about humiliation? Cause in our conversations, it seems more that i'm his little cumslut... hmmm... so what would be some questions i could ask to help clarify?


Quite a few men fantasize about marrying a hooker, a topless dancer, a whore, a "party girl", call it what you like...it's that seductiveness of being with, belonging to, etc., a woman who loooooves sex.

It's a good thang.

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