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domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:13:08 PM

SimplyMichael

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I have been spending WAY too much time on the internet recently and if I don't get my head out of my ass I am not going to get the straight A grades I have been maintaining all quarter.

SO, I ordered someone to get their ass over to my house and "dom sit" me and make sure I am not posting and wasting time on the internet. It worked, I did an oral presentation on the virtues of colonialism today that so stunned the class nobody could even think of anything to ask. Considering how controversial it was, the lack of questions was a good sign as were the comments afterwards.

SO, even uber powerful and seriously amazing uber dominates like myself sometimes have to order our underlings to do things that would otherwise seem to reverse rolls and for me it worked and is a perfect stop gap as I do need to frigging stop wasting huge amounts of time here.

SO, my other point is since my little supervisor isn't here keeping me off the damn net, I wonder how people think I should punish her? I mean it can't be my fault I am here so I figure I will cut off a leg or something? What say you all?

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:15:39 PM

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Long as she can still serve one-legged...sounds good to me, but I'm feeling particularly blood thirsty today.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:23:01 PM

Devilslilsister

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Uhhh........... i have that problem at times too. I push everything off.... but no one "dom sits" me to stay off the net.

Depending on if she has higher standing orders........ like "go to work" and ect

i suppose you should (take time off the net) and whip her

OR

Let her punish you, since one shouldnt need a Dom (or a sub in your case) around to obey orders......

See......... Dom's inact orders....... they dont hang around to make sure they are followed 24/7

So in this case......... you've been charged guilty.

and your punishment should be 48 hours with no internet.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:24:31 PM

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Grats on the grades Michael, and the successful paper.

I understand the procrastination demon all too well. I get in a comfortable spot online in the winter because it is about all I can do. Then it starts warming up and I need a crow bar to pry my butt out of this comfortable ass groove in my seat. I often am involved with submissive women, not lifestyle, but women who get all drooly over the proverbial bad boy. It is an interesting paradigm, they always dominate their lives and past relationship and I usurp that control from them in our personal relationship... man I could tell some wicked stories... I do not use vulgar displays of dominance in public, but it does not take long to get them in a skirk in private. As you, I find it a bit easier to focus on my endeavors when I have a submissive as a part of that agenda as well.

So spank that ass good!

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:25:28 PM

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chaining her to the computer might be less satisfying but more effective

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:37:35 PM

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If it does not bother you too much, SimplyMichael, I'm going to ignore the how to punish your sub part of your post and comment on the other stuff.

There is a fantasy that the dom is always in control, always perfect, and always the one who needs to say 'yes' or 'no'. Nice fantasy but I have yet to know one single Ds or Ms couple/family in real life that fits this.

In my household the role of the slave is to first make my life easier. Sometimes this means helping me help myself by asking me questions or pointing out that I may be about to make a decision that goes counter to what I have stated is a goal for myself.

Like my dissertation. The goal is to spend between 2-4 every morning, Monday through Friday, doing something on it -- be that reading, writing, library research, revisions. So my slave will ask me when he gets home "How did your diss go today, Mistress?" If he's in the house he will even pop up to check on me, raising an eyebrow and clearing his throat if I'm doing something else.

Some folks (including him sometimes) think this makes him the dominant but in reality he's merely helping me do what I want -- stay focused. Usually with my writing, teaching or research I'm pretty good at this.

Chocolate and exercising on other issues. So in those cases he tries to ask me if I exercised today or if I want to go for a walk. In a store he might ask me "Mistress, if you buy that will you really feel good about yourself later?". I think it is a subtle line that a slave must walk to give us support and help us help ourselves.

I cannot imagine it is easy at all and he earns my respect for doing his duty in these ways just as much as if he were rubbing my feet or obeying my whim at any time.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:41:46 PM

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I think I need to buy a talking Dominate Memo Mate or Parrot to remind me of the crap I have to do.

I could use a good Domme from time to time, just to Dom sit my ass. This internet thing is fucking black hole for ADD to happen in.

Every time, I come on here. It's supposed to be only for a few minutes. hahaha yeah right! I feel like aliens must have abducted me, and returned me hours later.   No sense of time. A hour seems like it a 5 minutes.

I'm glad you made this post.   I can relate to it well. I wonder if I can find any profession Domsitters in the phone book. I actually think these creatures carry the title of "personal assistent".

All the rich and famous powerful people have one,  some professional "Domsitter" to remind them of appointments, meetings and bring to attention everything that needs to be done.

Personally, I'd order her to smack you in the face if you refuse to listen to yourself! In short, you told her to do a job for your own sake. If you don't comply with your own orders, give her orders to smack you in the face or upside the head. This might be somewhat traumatic for both you and her alike. but it might work, to get your attention back to reality.


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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:51:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I think it is a subtle line that a slave must walk to give us support and help us help ourselves.

I cannot imagine it is easy at all and he earns my respect for doing his duty in these ways just as much as if he were rubbing my feet or obeying my whim at any time.

It is a line I've been learning to walk with Valyraen. Except in our case, it's been trying to gently remind him that he should go buy the Sunday paper to check the classifieds (isn't looking for work fun?). Fortunately, all that may be over! Huzzah!

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:56:03 PM

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Whiplash, i feel your alien abduction pain. I cant stop reading these threads...so much to learn...so little self control. Add to that too much time off work, the sub lag i'm feeling lately and here i am again.
Michael, try having your sub read to you instead of staying on the puter all the time. Erotic stories of course, to while away the time and turn it into constructive *down time*.
Just mho.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 1:56:46 PM

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I'm a bit of a masochist, If I had a sub or slave right now. I'd pass them a whip and order them to smack my back when my time was up. I'd have them standing over my shoulder and read off the time in 5 minute intervals.

It's just a matter of using them to top yourself from the bottom, when you step out of line. A form of self punishment.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 2:18:35 PM

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quote:

SO, my other point is since my little supervisor isn't here keeping me off the damn net, I wonder how people think I should punish her? I mean it can't be my fault I am here so I figure I will cut off a leg or something? What say you all?

Can I giggle yet? It's obvious that this was a bit tongue-in-cheek; the part about punishing her because she is not there to stop you from doing something

perhaps next time she could take your computer with her...that way you will not get in trouble on here.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 2:48:26 PM

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Michael, would you really want to cut that pretty leg off?

Azz don't give him any ideas? I can just see it now...being tied to the lap top while he still plays with it.

Though i do wonder, if the poor sub is failing only because she can't be in two places at once? And one of the reasons Dom-sitting works so well is the Dom can't tell her to keep up good grades when he himself isn't.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 2:49:08 PM

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I've never had a submissive "dom sit" me but I have used them as a sort of reward to motivate myself (as in I don't get to play with the nekkid slave until I get this project finished up... oh man do I work fast!

). I've also used them to help out in other ways. This is one of the reasons I put emphasis on service slaves when searching, its one aspect of what I want. Having someone to take care of various chores around the house leaves me free to work on various other projects and business pursuits and keeps me from getting overwhelmed with the work load. Right now, with a girl I've been getting to know and am considering I've had her doing some helpful tasks to help me out in one of my business ventures.

While I've not had a slave "dom sit", I do use a lot of other techniques to keep me organized. Journaling is one tool, its a lot easier to have something worthwhile to write in a journal if I actually get something accomplished each day! LOL I also create a "to do" list each morning to organize my day and what my objectives are, and usually I have a second more general list of things I need to accomplish in the next week or two. I also have a "deskmate" automated assistant on my computer that reminds me of appointments, upcoming events, checks email for me (an even reads it to me), as well as checking the headlines and such. Cyberbuddy works well for me and is inexpensive. Things like that help keep me focused on what I need to be doing, they keep me organized.

I read a great deal, but one of my "secrets" is that I don't read just one book at a time... I usually read about 1 chapter a day in 2-3 books. I find that keeps my attention better than trying to plow through 3-4 chapters at a time in just one book (this is mainly non-fiction reading). I also find that helps me get more out of each book sometimes, particularly when the books are all from the same general field.

One thing I have found kind of curious is that by staying busy I tend to be more energetic and more positive in the way I feel. When I have a lot of free time on my hands with nothing much to do I find I get restless, lethargic, and sometimes even depressed. Funny how that works out. I do set asside time for leisure of course, but even then I tend to be "productive", for example just over a month ago I bought a banjo and have been teaching myself to play, I practice an hour every day and its become something I look forward to each day to relax a bit.

As for punishing the poor girl Michael, I would suggest forcing her to have sex with you but that's just too horrible a fate.

Kidding of course.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 2:49:47 PM

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But Michael, I enjoy your posts immensly! If you weren't online so much, I might have to get my ass off this frigging computer and interact with humans... Noooooooo!!!

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 2:54:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

So in this case......... you've been charged guilty.

and your punishment should be 48 hours with no internet.

*Goes into a fit of giggles*
There is so much I would like to say.. but I am going to be a good girl and send out some emails.

Edited for a serious note.(Ok half serious)
If she doesn't have very valid reason, such as work, school.. ect.
Then chain her to the computer and give her permission to smack your hands if you try to touch the computer??? (Just a fun idea.. ok fun for me idea) LOL

rayn

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 2:58:57 PM

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I don't know about cutting her leg off as punishment...then think of how much longer it would take her to get you something...

Seriously, I know that the net can take up a lot of time. That is why I restrict myself to 2 to 3 hours a day and those are before work or after work. On Sundays, I make a deliberate effort to do almost anything else but go near a computer...even just to work...because everything seems to come easy while on there. Even when not on the net, think of how easy it is to move from your pix to a file you are working on to a file you are reading that you downloaded from the net...tooooooooooo friggin' easy.

Soooooooooo....I do yard work or make toys or clean the office or do laundry or talk to my UMs or watch hot rod shows with my brother, go for walks.

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 3:22:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I have been spending WAY too much time on the internet recently and if I don't get my head out of my ass I am not going to get the straight A grades I have been maintaining all quarter.

SO, I ordered someone to get their ass over to my house and "dom sit" me and make sure I am not posting and wasting time on the internet. It worked, I did an oral presentation on the virtues of colonialism today that so stunned the class nobody could even think of anything to ask. Considering how controversial it was, the lack of questions was a good sign as were the comments afterwards.

SO, even uber powerful and seriously amazing uber dominates like myself sometimes have to order our underlings to do things that would otherwise seem to reverse rolls and for me it worked and is a perfect stop gap as I do need to frigging stop wasting huge amounts of time here.

SO, my other point is since my little supervisor isn't here keeping me off the damn net, I wonder how people think I should punish her? I mean it can't be my fault I am here so I figure I will cut off a leg or something? What say you all?

I say take off a tit! Then you can call her biggie smalls!

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 3:42:18 PM

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LOL....

even better if you cut off the leg.. give her a playful swat with it, then use the stump to hold up your keyboard!! !

I do understand your point... and I have to admit, when I want to get more fit.. I do physical training with a sub

Imagine THAT strange dynamic..lol

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 3:42:21 PM

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I dunno. Let's start from the beginning.

You have responsibilities. Granted. We all do, to some extent. Even if it is just remembering to pay the bills.

You are spending time (whether it be too much or not, let's not quibble) on the 'net. What exactly are you doing there?

Are you posting, searching for an adequate LTR partner, or just goofing off?

If you find your reason to be something you need in your life, then it is a priority, at least to a degree, and falls (somewhat) into a similar category as a responsibility. It is simply a different sort of responsibility to yourself.

Regardless, subs are appreciative of their Dom/Master/owner who are disciplined themselves. It gives them something to look up to.

One of the things that I've found in my self-imposed-not-certain-it's-forever exile is that I have the ability to lapse into being undisciplined. I have realized that having a partner means that I'll not only get back on my own game, but can stay ahead of theirs as well.

While I think toeing the 'submissive' line to help yourself is cool, ultimately you need to be your own manager. That's what I'm finding.

Jeff

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RE: domly vs. sub orders and punishment - 3/8/2007 4:07:37 PM

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Mount Vernon just called - the Prime Minister wants his Rolls-Royce back. Something about leaving his first edition of the Domly Dom UberManual in the glove box and a slave in the trunk...

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