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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/6/2007 10:16:16 PM

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Well if I am friends with someone, it is usually already a given I'd be with them in that way, if we both wanted to (or if one f us suggested it) not always, but usually that's the way I feel, so yeah, that could happen. Sometimes that can just seem so right, too, I agree.

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We'd been eyeing each other off and on for years, but we were never single at the same time. When my ex-fiancee dumped me on my butt, I just kinda ended up in Valyraen's room. The next thing I knew I was in his lap and well... I tend to let things go as they will. I've never been happier!

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/6/2007 10:22:21 PM

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I think that is so romantic! I really do. You two seem to be such a good fit. Best of luck to you both!

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/6/2007 10:25:08 PM

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Awww.... thank you so much! *hugs*

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/6/2007 10:48:14 PM

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This is a very good question! Oh fuck, I'm attracted to a couple different types, no one type specific. In terms of being a magnet. I would agree with that statment.

A magnetic personality is one that can attract and repel rather well, be it intentionally or unintentionally.   If you are one of those types which sits on the side lines and is scared about sticking out in a crowd, you are not very magnetic.

You have to be able to repel as well. Damn, I don't understand why some people think they need to have the world to fall to their feet and worship it.   Personally it would scare the crap out of me if the world acted that way towards me.

Look when the word magnet is used, this does not mean every woman will be drawn to you. Every Slave or Sub or everybody will appreciate and adore you. Because you will repel as much as you attract. The thing is to stand out and set yourself aside from the crowd.

You are not going to get a sub with a metal plate in her head, but you need to know what kind of sub/slave type you are looking for, or not looking for.

You can be certain you can repel the ones you don't want, at the very least. This will make it easier for you. Easier for another to be drawn to you with sincere interest.

If you know the type you are looking for, then get on with the show. You need to target something mentally, something besides looks alone. Damn, why is it so many people get so wrapped up in looks and forget about the mind behind the metal plate. Yes, you have to repel even the most beautiful woman, if she is not really what you want.

I can't give you any advice about how to stick out from the crowd and what you should do. Everybody has their own set of magnets to work with. But it's all about who you are or are not! Your hobbies, your interests, activities and whatnot! Be proud of the things you take or find pleasure in, let others around you know these things. Do these things, and stick out a little. Whatever you do, you have to be honest about it.   People can spot fakers! You don't need to lie or be dishonest, that won't get you very far. Just take who and what you are and turn up the volume a little! You'd be suprised at what might happen.

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 4:57:24 AM

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Whiplash the plate in the head was a joke. A smile and eyes that say hello is what attracts me. A great set of legs always catches my eye first.

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 5:41:46 AM

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Whiplash the plate in the head was a joke. A smile and eyes that say hello is what attracts me. A great set of legs always catches my eye first.

Tell you what there have been times, when I saw that pretty face... the smile and the eyes and the legs... and wished there was a plate in her head! Suck her in with a magnet! If it did not work, simply change polarity... and eject her ass to the curb! But what the Hell everybody knows this one by now...

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 6:07:24 AM

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Your friend probably means something like "charismatic." Carrying yourself well and speaking attractively helps. Stand up straight, take care to choose witty and intelligent words, speak them in a pleasant voice with minimal stuttering and vocal pauses ("like," "um"). Figure out your charming qualities, if you haven't done so already, and then work to exhibit them more often and more intensely.

People for relationships where we talk a lot and have sex periodically: need to be articulate and analytical; I don't tend to do well with people who have less than a BA, but I don't check diploma, I check the intellectual and critical quality of conversation. Too much investment in popular culture, especially television and popular movies, is problematic--not because it's wrong or bad to watch a lot of TV, but because it makes it hard for the person and I to have conversations that don't involve a lot of tiresome summary of either Survivor and Scrubs or what I've been watching/reading lately. Speaking precisely gives you points. Wry senses of humor help conversations to succeed, and help people want to keep putting up with me. People who take pleasure in considering food will seem more attractive to me in the early stages, likely because I meet people for meals.

People I want to play with at a party, or with whom I would have relationships that are mostly about sex and play: should still be precise and efficient in their speech. Beyond that, they don't have to be smart or articulate, or exhibit food snobbery, or prefer good books to pop TV. They do have to be hot--meaning that I need to find them pleasing to the eye and ear. They need to be willing to help me enjoy the play that I enjoy; in other words, they need to agree to bottom in the ways I want to top them.

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 6:34:25 AM

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Hello. =)

The Mister is, hands down, the kindest, most naturally sensual man I've ever known. The first time we went out to breakfast together, his eyes just radiated kind gentle attention. He woo'd me in a very old-fashioned way- a "gentleman caller" in every sense of the word. No pressure, no overwhelming machismo, just his quiet, sweet stable presence. I felt cherished and loved totally for who I was. He's calm, judicious, righteous in action as well as in thought. Secure enough in his masculinity to enjoy his sensuality. That's what drew me in. =)

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 6:58:11 AM

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I agree mp. You can tell by talking with a person how much education they have. My son just has a high school ed and my daughter has a college one. My son says he always feels left out when talking with her and her friends because of it. I think that would have an impact on the relationship between a Dom/Domme and their sub.

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 7:13:43 AM

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I would tend to agree with most of your post but I was sure surprised this past summer while in NC hunting my hounds...I ran across an ol" boy as country as could be and spoke that Carolina twang,IT turn out he has degrees from Princeton and a doctoral from a Major school in england,JUST goes to show you what they say is true,"You can't judge a book by its cover" its the content inside thats important...as always just this ol" master opinion of this subject..bounty

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 9:02:34 AM

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I never cared as much how educated a person is, as about how smart they are. I think there can be a distinct difference there. To me that comes down to how detailed, yet wholistic their thought process is.

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 12:22:58 PM

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I think the magnetic personality thing is a myth.

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RE: Magnetic personality - 3/7/2007 12:29:19 PM

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I never cared as much how educated a person is, as about how smart they are. I think there can be a distinct difference there. To me that comes down to how detailed, yet wholistic their thought process is.

- Susan

I totally agree with that. Having a college degree doesn't always mean intelligence, really. And it also depends on what person does with all that knowledge. I've known college graduates who just learned enough to pass. They didn't retain anything, and they sure as hell didn't enjoy learning, either. On the other hand, I've known blue-collar workers who soaked in as much knowledge as they could. =)

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