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fusion -> Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:03:34 PM)

I have long past the point of considering strangers opinions of me or caring what barbs try to insult me with.  It is a general given here on collarme.  To inflate ones ego by insulting those who stand up and speak their minds or point things out or disagree is the end of all postings on here.  Some can not understandd a thought so I will place a question.  If Masterfulness means, the ability to influence people and things by way of a strong personality and skilled handling of people and situations.   I thought my analogy of even the most henpecked vanilla husband would not task his shrew of a wife to assist him this way.  Submissives whos' every thought is to serve and please have surrender all power and choice are given this job where is the masterfulness in that?    Where are the happy stories?   I never use the word master or dominant on here as that implies a respocibility to be a leader and a protector to me, around here it means its all about me.



StellaByStarlite -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:16:29 PM)

Hello, Fusion. =)

Okay.. you don't like the idea of a dom sending out his sub to look for another partner. We get it. Really. But yanno... the cool thing about forums is that don't have to get so emotionally invested.

I mean, what are looking for with this, really? Understanding your POV? General agreement, what? Because I have to tell you, guy, you're making yourself a target.

Cheers,
Stella



juliaoceania -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:16:29 PM)

You know, you did not need to start three threads with ideas that can be encapsulated into one.



domiguy -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:19:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fusion

I have long past the point of considering strangers opinions of me or caring what barbs try to insult me with.  It is a general given here on collarme.  To inflate ones ego by insulting those who stand up and speak their minds or point things out or disagree is the end of all postings on here.  Some can not understandd a thought so I will place a question.  If Masterfulness means, the ability to influence people and things by way of a strong personality and skilled handling of people and situations.   I thought my analogy of even the most henpecked vanilla husband would not task his shrew of a wife to assist him this way.  Submissives whos' every thought is to serve and please have surrender all power and choice are given this job where is the masterfulness in that?    Where are the happy stories?   I never use the word master or dominant on here as that implies a respocibility to be a leader and a protector to me, around here it means its all about me.


Where have you shown the ability to "handle people or situations?"  You unfortunately don't exhibit those qualities.

"That which does not kill me costs me money."



hisannabelle -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:20:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

You know, you did not need to start three threads with ideas that can be encapsulated into one.


amen. could one of the mods consolidate these three threads into one, pretty please?



KnightofMists -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:21:30 PM)

mmmmmmmmmmm the very fact you make mention of barbs and insults etc shows that you have been affect and influenced by what has been stated.  In fact, we are all influence in some way by those that interact with us.  This influence can be negative or positive... but it is still an influence.  Therefore, equating a Dominant as someone that influence others is a rather pointless exercise.  Since you have been influenced you are also saying you have been dominated.  I don't neccessarily equate being influencing on some one as being dominating to someone.  It can be a rather thin line at times.. but none the less the line does exist.

There are many ways to inflate ones ego... pontificating would be a possible example of this.  Do you know anyone here that has been busy pontificating at present... let me give you a hint... think movie sequals!

I am so glad that you have enlighted the room with your candle of knowledge and depth of thought.  I am sure that everyone will take your well expressed and considered thoughts.  I am sure that they will be appropriately influenced with what resonates with them.  But, I am also sure that which is just shallow pontification to inflate one's fragile ego will also be seen for what it is. 

On boards like this... we take what we want and leave the rest.  I can assure you that more often than not we will leave more than we take.  I would also suggest that we are more likely to receive more if we are able to give more.  Of course giving is a rather tricky business.. me thinks a Eskimo has little use for an Air Conditioner.  So giving away Air Conditioner in the far north is a rather pointless exercise.  I dare say the Eskimo would such see a person is a fool at best.... and well the worse.. I leave that to your imagination.

anyways.... looking forward to Sequal IV



azzmaster -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:25:52 PM)

i agree with the OP, it seems alot of people post something earnest then get dumped on by cranky subs.one of the reasons i usually post light hearted stuff. one thing u said in part 2 tho, about the older sub gettin rejected for the younger. some men may do that, but i much prefer older women. they have more experience and r not so silly. also many older women look better than young ones. if u start out good looking and take care of urself, no reason a lady can't be gorgeous at 50



BeachMystress -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:26:36 PM)

Why have you created three threads on the same subject?



AquaticSub -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:30:18 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fusion

I have long past the point of considering strangers opinions of me or caring what barbs try to insult me with.  It is a general given here on collarme.  To inflate ones ego by insulting those who stand up and speak their minds or point things out or disagree is the end of all postings on here. 



Please go back and read your old posts out loud. Then you might understand why we've been having trouble understanding what you asking. I would love to provide as much help as can, but I can't do that if I can't understand what you are attempting to say.

quote:


Some can not understandd a thought so I will place a question.  If Masterfulness means, the ability to influence people and things by way of a strong personality and skilled handling of people and situations.   I thought my analogy of even the most henpecked vanilla husband would not task his shrew of a wife to assist him this way.  Submissives whos' every thought is to serve and please have surrender all power and choice are given this job where is the masterfulness in that?    Where are the happy stories?   I never use the word master or dominant on here as that implies a respocibility to be a leader and a protector to me, around here it means its all about me.


I don't understand why a master wouldn't have his submissive helping him, I really can't. If Valyraen wished for another woman to join us I would want to be part of the process. I would definately be very unhappy if he just picked a woman who he liked, brought her home and said "Here Aqua, this is our new pet". Well that's nice but I don't know anything about her. Since it's incredibly important (from what I've seen) that the two submissives get along. Since that is possibly the key factor in making the relationship work (unhappy sub = disobiedent = unhappy dom) then doesn't it stand to reason that the first test of a potential girl be that she gets along with the submissive already in place?

I don't understand why you keep posting this question. The answers you get aren't going to magically change.



AquaticSub -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:32:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: azzmaster

i agree with the OP, it seems alot of people post something earnest then get dumped on by cranky subs.one of the reasons i usually post light hearted stuff. one thing u said in part 2 tho, about the older sub gettin rejected for the younger. some men may do that, but i much prefer older women. they have more experience and r not so silly. also many older women look better than young ones. if u start out good looking and take care of urself, no reason a lady can't be gorgeous at 50


Azzmaster, for all the we don't get along - I have never mentioned being unable to read your posts. I literally can not understand what he is trying to ask in his second post.



FukinTroll -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:36:05 PM)

Well, he types better pissed off.



Squeakers -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:38:47 PM)

    Aquatic I have not been able to understand any of the OP's posts.  
quote:

I never use the word master or dominant on here as that implies a respocibility to be a leader and a protector to me, around here it means its all about me.
   What the hell does this mean?  



julietsierra -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:50:49 PM)

oh dear...and I'd hoped to not get involved in this craziness...but...lol...it's snowing out and the other family members here are watching movies I have no interest in.

So..

If my Master is looking for another girl, I sincerely hope he involves me. And know what? He is; he does; and we're happy. I'm not pimping for him any more than he's calling a call girl for me. We're in this together and together is how we'll look for someone - when we look for someone. We work differently from each other. I don't actively look, hoping rather that when someone comes along that I like, she likes me and we develop a friendship, that things will naturally progress further. Sometimes it's worked out that way. Sometimes it hasn't. When my Master looks, he tells them up front that I am a part of this. There are no surprises for them, and if he tells me he has someone for me to meet, I can know I've been a part of their conversations from the beginning.

I don't see it as pimping when I do this. I see it as developing friendships and a sincere desire to share with someone else. I don't bring it up lightly and I am not out there sending out e-mail after e-mail "searching" for someone. This is a friendship I'm hoping to find, not a call girl for him. What I get out of all this is as valid and valuable as what he gets. What he gets is both personal for him and pleasure out of seeing someone I can be with and enjoy. WE develop friendships with the people we get to know...or not. Sometimes I haven't liked the people he's contacted, but I'll certainly meet them and give them the benefit of the doubt. Why? Because HE likes them. that's why, and just as he likes finding someone for me, I like it when he (or I) finds someone for him.

With a few false starts and errors along the way (because both he and I are human), I've always  felt like we're a couple doing this, and I've never once felt like he was pimping me out.

So, someone else's perceptions of what it is WE do is just that...their perceptions and as such, they have absolutely nothing to do with me - or my Maser - or our relationship.

juliet



domiguy -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:51:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Squeakers

  Aquatic I have not been able to understand any of the OP's posts.  
quote:

I never use the word master or dominant on here as that implies a respocibility to be a leader and a protector to me, around here it means its all about me.
   What the hell does this mean?  


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2.respectable social standing, character, logical thinking,or reputation like that of a vulcan.

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Wow...Looks like someone needs to pay more attention to: "It pays to enrich your word power." Readers Digest 



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:56:55 PM)

correct me if i get this wrong, if Daddy should ever ask me to look for another sub to join us, you view my taking on this task as not being masterfulness (what a mouthful to say) on His part as Dom because He should be seeking the other woman Himself. that being said - what if i don't like or feel comfortable with the other - have you thought about that from a submissive's pov? or i suppose our pov don't matter in a Dom's eye.

if Daddy should ever think about adding another to our monogamous family, i know He would discuss the possiblity with me first because (a) it would change the dynamics our relationship and (b) i would want a say about the woman who will join us. i wouldn't see what i'm doing for Daddy as pimping for Him rather as a service to ensure His desires are met.  then again - Daddy and i have established no other will be joining us so i was merely adding my opinion hypothetically.

i see nothing wrong with a Master delegating the task of finding another to join them and from my pov it doesn't make him less masterful because it was given to his sub. though it would be his fantasy/desire, she's doing it for yet both women have to be comfortable with each other in order for the fantasy to be a pleasurable one.





unsung -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:59:13 PM)

Damn it ......... I am an Eskimo from the far north........ How come southern folk are always using Eskimo's as an analogy?  Geesh ............ proud of my heritage.  Air conditioners in the summer do come in handy as well, just as much as musk.  *mushes out of this thread giggling to self*

whispers just teasing Knight of Mists.  lol



AquaticSub -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 4:59:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Squeakers

   Aquatic I have not been able to understand any of the OP's posts.  
quote:

I never use the word master or dominant on here as that implies a respocibility to be a leader and a protector to me, around here it means its all about me.
   What the hell does this mean?  


Ok that part I understand. What he's saying is that the dominants/masters here are irresponsible, non-protecting of their subs/slaves and selfish.

Wow. That's one nice ego there. And yes, ya did use the words master and dominant. *eyeroll*



KatyLied -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 5:49:49 PM)

quote:

You know, you did not need to start three threads with ideas that can be encapsulated into one.


Fusion is the newest collarme spam.



MagiksSlave -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 6:10:11 PM)

I dont get why you have to creat a new thread every time you post about the same thing.. you know you are aloud to post in your own threads!!!


Magik's slave



mnottertail -> RE: Pimping for your Dom: part three (2/25/2007 6:18:40 PM)

I am sure these will meld, it is a cold fusion experiment, I am sure of it.

Rutherford 



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