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simplewhispers -> laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:00:02 PM)
I have talked to several "Doms" and I am just at a loss after most of the conversations..... 1st I get a few that think they "own " me after just one mail .... then comes the "you wont speak to others" 2nd I get "bow down blah blah blah " after speaking to me approximatly 3 min .. 3rd I get someone I think might have a clue I address him properly with respect ..... try to carry on a conversation letting him have the lead ...... what does he do....... does not know how to deal with the respect..... I have come to realize true "Doms" are few and far between.... very few ladies are lucky enough to acquire the real thing .... and I am so jealous.....[:o][:(][:(][&o]

SmokingGun82 -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:04:00 PM)
This morning, I logged on and there was a new profile, created today, which said this particular lady was single, searching for a life-long commitment. I read her profile, thought "Hey, maybe I'll send her a message" but had to run off to work. I got home this afternoon and the profile has been changed- she has been collared by Master So and So and you will face harsh punishment if you contact her without his permission. Apparently, saying "I own you now" after one or two emails is effective. Which is humorous and depressing all at once.

FukinTroll -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:05:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers I have talked to several "Doms" and I am just at a loss after most of the conversations..... 1st I get a few that think they "own " me after just one mail .... then comes the "you wont speak to others" 2nd I get "bow down blah blah blah " after speaking to me approximatly 3 min .. 3rd I get someone I think might have a clue I address him properly with respect ..... try to carry on a conversation letting him have the lead ...... what does he do....... does not know how to deal with the respect..... I have come to realize true "Doms" are few and far between.... very few ladies are lucky enough to acquire the real thing .... and I am so jealous.....[:o][:(][:(][&o] Hey! I thought we weren’t going to discuss my mail?

simplewhispers -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:08:21 PM)
I really dont understand ...... how someone claiming to have experience in D/s can think they own anyone after one or two mails...... you can certainly lust .... but I think thats about it .......

FukinTroll -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:11:05 PM)
Simple, you are on the proper side of the site now. As much as I would like to think that there is a proper legal aged person on the other side of the profile I would rather mete that out here.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:21:03 PM)
You're online. Don't have expectations that anyone will share the same values as you. Be pleasantly surprised when they do.

simplewhispers -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:24:54 PM)
I would be pleasantly surprised to find sanity ....... I just have not had any good replies lately ..... and the ones that I think might actually have potential ..... well .... [:(]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:28:24 PM)
What exactly did you expect on THE INTERNET?

simplewhispers -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:31:29 PM)
I realize that most dont feel this way but I expect to find decent folks be it on the internet or at the local grocery .... it is not that far fetched to think there are good people regardless of where you meet them...... yes I realize the stigma surrounding the internet ..... but not everybody is a ax murdering psycho........ I have met alot of good people online, hoping to meet the special one for me .....

mstrjx -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:47:51 PM)
Expectations are a really curious thing in the 'kink personals' world. In general, I would expect most women to want the same sorts of thing that you say in your post. Go slow (enough). Don't try to intimidate (too soon). Don't be possessive (until that's what both parties want). Don't be a jerk. But even that doesn't hold a lot of water all of the time. There seem to be other women who want to know the perversions up front. Who try and get a read on how dominant a person will be during the opening salvo. (Of course these people might not be what they seem, either, this being the anonymous Internet and all.) It goes against my grain to be impertinent before it's time. I could be a force of nature and I wouldn't let you know it until I believe it's time you were ready for that from me. It definitely is tricky determining what buttons any given person is going to respond to. Bad boys do seem to get more 'play'. Jeff

FukinTroll -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:51:40 PM)
simple, there are a lot of success stories on this site. Have any expectation you want.

Griswold -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:52:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers I have talked to several "Doms" and I am just at a loss after most of the conversations..... 1st I get a few that think they "own " me after just one mail .... then comes the "you wont speak to others" 2nd I get "bow down blah blah blah " after speaking to me approximatly 3 min .. 3rd I get someone I think might have a clue I address him properly with respect ..... try to carry on a conversation letting him have the lead ...... what does he do....... does not know how to deal with the respect..... I have come to realize true "Doms" are few and far between.... very few ladies are lucky enough to acquire the real thing .... and I am so jealous.....[:o][:(][:(][&o] Trust me....us subs get those too...in all the same formats. "Whaaaaaat? You'll send me away if I don't call you Mistress within 3 paragraphs? Hey, have I mentioned I own horses? Some of them are very gentle. Why don't you come out to my place, hop on one of the more docile ones...and take a fucking hike?" Or.... "Yes, I know we've known each other now for well over 30 minutes, and yes, I'm feeling somewhat of a bond...but no...not enough to send you $1,500.00.00 because you can't (make your rent/car payment...ad infinitum)...I know...it's been very difficult for you....and I promise....no...allow me to reverse that....I absolutely won't send you shit...what? You're going to dump me? I can give you a Marlboro...But wait...we were building a bond here....". Or.... "You will address me properly and you will accept my authority forethwith!!! You're no sub! You need to learn some respect!" (I've failed at so much in life....GAWWWWD help me....I blew it again!)

calicowgirl -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:57:18 PM)
Pretty much nothing surprises me in the mail I recieve here anymore. I am easily amused so spend a lot of time laughing but am often pleasantly surprised by some of them. I have no expectations from this site. I have met some nice people and some not so nice, have accumulated a cyber stalker, learned a great deal from these boards and am having fun... is enough for now. Good luck to you OP. Cali

bobandchloe -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 8:59:09 PM)
Interesting post. I replied to someone who posted to CraigsList asking about information about BDSM and I sent a few links to local groups and some suggestions for reading. And I left it with something like "If you have more questions... let me know." Weeks passed before we really started talking. She finally got back to me and we really started a dialog, but I never went in for the "BOW DOWN YOU MISERABLE SLUT!" routine. Really, that just is... well... not 'real' (?) to me. That's just not what I expect. I suppose it's a good way to separate many of the internet only people from the people who really are in the scene outside fo the internet. Granted, this person and I have had incredible conversations through the Internet (email and chat) and I doubt we'd be where we are today without the Internet, but damn, I didn't play the almighty internet Dom - nope. Just tried to give honest information and indicated that I knew she'd be emailed by lots of people - so if she wanted more info she could contact me. After all, on CL, you can count on plenty of men responding to the poor helpess unknowing submissive woman. And $deity help the woman who falls for the first email that comes through. But I thank my $deity for CraigsList plenty. I found a wonderful friend that way. I'm amazed and joyful when I think of it. :) Now, all you other submissives, be sure you write your replies to this post while on your knees and naked! :)

AquaticSub -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 9:05:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers I have talked to several "Doms" and I am just at a loss after most of the conversations..... 1st I get a few that think they "own " me after just one mail .... then comes the "you wont speak to others" 2nd I get "bow down blah blah blah " after speaking to me approximatly 3 min .. 3rd I get someone I think might have a clue I address him properly with respect ..... try to carry on a conversation letting him have the lead ...... what does he do....... does not know how to deal with the respect..... I have come to realize true "Doms" are few and far between.... very few ladies are lucky enough to acquire the real thing .... and I am so jealous.....[:o][:(][:(][&o] My first response is: What makes people think this is going to be any easier then dating in the vanilla world? My second is: Hang in there. Being dominant tends to come with some bad traits, in my experience. Two are arrogance and self-importance. Sometimes you have to decide his other qualities outweigh those. And yes - being a sub also tends to come with some annoying traits. We just aren't talking about them right now. [:D]

AquaticSub -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 9:06:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers I really dont understand ...... how someone claiming to have experience in D/s can think they own anyone after one or two mails...... you can certainly lust .... but I think thats about it ....... Some people get married after dating a few months, or even less. shrugs Certain things work for certain people and sometimes people are just stupid. I'm sure this was already responded to, but I just had to say it. Sorry.

SusanofO -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 9:08:03 PM)
I got a few e-mails from Doms who wanted me to help them with their problems, right off the bat. Not many, but a few. I am a nice person (I think anyway) but it seemed kind of a weird way to start off a potential D/s relationship. Maybe they were trying to build up some insta-bond that way, and I can be very symapthetic and helpful, but not usually within the first 20 seconds of knowing someone. Know what I mean? I would not have minded this from someone I knew, maybe, or from someone with obviously platonic intentions, but coming from a potential Dom I didn't know at all, it was, well - confusing. I have am building a relationship now with someone I trust (who I did meet here, so it definitely is possible, and I also see lots of nice folks here who meet up with others whom they really like, too) - and I am fine (and I am not complaining, just remarking that I thought the above was a rather unusual opening tactic for some to use). I won't go into the "problems" that were mentioned, let's just say they were: 1) Sexual in nature, and - 2) Supposedly required my interactive assistance Did I think my leg was being pulled? Yeah. But part of me thought they might be serious, too, and for a short while, I was torn about what to do, and how to respond. I finally decided just to not respond at all. Maybe I was wrong. Guess I'll never know... - Susan

simplewhispers -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 9:23:12 PM)
well I guess one thing I want maybe not expect from all the potential "doms" is kindness. I mean you expect that from even strangers ..... I just want you to be good to me and expect the same in return ...... fairly simple....

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 9:26:16 PM)
oh the chuckles i had from Doms here - one had a strange fetish with newspapers and would send me messages every day wondering if i've read my morning paper before asking what sexual positions did i perform for my Daddy. another Dom sent me a very graphic note detailing all the things he would do to me if he was my master ("bow down and serve me now" was his opening sentence). then there was one Dom who sent me a note titled "urgent" asking for my yahoo ID and if i had a cam ( he tried pretending to be one of Daddy's "friends" here). yet i have received messages from a few male subs asking if i like watching them cum on cam ...also had a female Domme from eastern europe complimenting me about my collaring by Daddy before asking if i was interested in having a female dominating me (i guess answering her first question that i wasn't interested in being dommed by a woman wasn't good enough).

SusanofO -> RE: laughing while searching .... (2/23/2007 9:26:25 PM)
simple whispers: I agree. I think considerate manners never go out of style. There are undoubtedly a few people who have a strange approach floating around (as I mentioned, and others have noted), but I think more people than not, try to be considerate.That was my experience, anyway. - Susan

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