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RE: How do you find out if a new date is kinky or poten... - 2/24/2007 1:44:15 AM

PassionChemistry

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Well Azzmaster,

you are as subtle as me then!!
The trouble is that lots of women, kinky or not don't respond well to sexual talk early on. Also, and importantly, the majority of women are potentially kinky but have never seriously explored, so the technique you suggest would screen them out!

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i just ask them, usually after a couple of drinks what the kinkiest thing they ever did was... i will ask if they like to be dominated in bed. if they r n2 the lifestyle or curious it won't freak em out. if it does then game ova, and i get out with a quickness

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RE: How do you find out if a new date is kinky or poten... - 2/24/2007 1:46:08 AM

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That's a great idea but the PC-police usually stop those words being used. Match dot com for example won't allow "kinky" and certainly not "dominatrix"

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I would think it is going to be very hard to find a compatible "kinky" partner in the vanilla dating world.
I would put a few suggestive words in my ad so I could weed out those totally not interested right off the bat.
Use your imagination to figure out what to say, without being to suggestive, good luck.

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RE: How do you find out if a new date is kinky or poten... - 2/24/2007 5:07:26 AM

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I know you can't use those words, I meant be creative and use words like STRONG woman.
Use adjectives like: strong, tough, take-charge, no-nonsence, woman in charge, hello? do you get it?

Get your point across and fly under the radar.
Good luck.

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RE: How do you find out if a new date is kinky or poten... - 2/24/2007 5:57:15 AM

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good plan...will do!

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I know you can't use those words, I meant be creative and use words like STRONG woman.
Use adjectives like: strong, tough, take-charge, no-nonsence, woman in charge, hello? do you get it?

Get your point across and fly under the radar.
Good luck.

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RE: How do you find out if a new date is kinky or poten... - 2/24/2007 7:21:11 AM

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It is fairly easy finding parthers in the vanilla world that have a fairly curious kinky appetite....If you don't start out a conversation about your interest in scat, you might just get somewhere.

Yes, I Imagine it's difficult for dommes to start a conversation about tributes in the vanilla world. Without risking being arrested.

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RE: How do you find out if a new date is kinky or poten... - 2/24/2007 8:29:29 AM

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I like to make the joke "Stick and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me." See if they think it's funny. At the least, if they are disgusted, offended or uncomfortable you have a pretty good idea that they are aren't kinky and saves you some time!

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RE: How do you find out if a new date is kinky or poten... - 2/24/2007 2:55:37 PM

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Wtrite "I like a woman with a controlling personality who likes leather wear" and see where it gets ya.

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RE: How do you find out if a new date is kinky or poten... - 2/24/2007 3:06:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDoMe

I know you can't use those words, I meant be creative and use words like STRONG woman.
Use adjectives like: strong, tough, take-charge, no-nonsence, woman in charge, hello? do you get it?

Get your point across and fly under the radar.
Good luck.

I love strong, tough, take-charge, no-nonsense, women in charge, etc., women.

Especially when they are submissive to me.

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