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KaineD -> Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 8:35:15 AM)
Hey. I consider myself a dom, though I've never owned a slave before. I was wondering if you guys consider tit slapping or face slapping harmful? When spanking or using a whip or pulling hair, do you ever accidentally use too much force? 'Cause that kind of frightens me. I'm also turned on by pushing a girls head down on my cock, but I'm afraid I'll make her throw up or something.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 8:38:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KaineD Hey. I consider myself a dom, though I've never owned a slave before. I was wondering if you guys consider tit slapping or face slapping harmful? When spanking or using a whip or pulling hair, do you ever accidentally use too much force? 'Cause that kind of frightens me. I'm also turned on by pushing a girls head down on my cock, but I'm afraid I'll make her throw up or something. Depends on the person. Just gotta find the right one for you.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 8:40:28 AM)
I face slap all the time, its hot. I have never broken her cheekbone but I twice broke a submissives rib by hugging her goodbye. Accidents happen but it is VERY VERY rare to do any damage with any of the stuff we do. NOT because it is perfectly safe but because most of us are pretty sane. While you will hear online about all sorts of injuries, if you ask someone real, who actually does this, you will rarely hear of any injury. I love gagging a woman on my cock but yes, if you aren't careful you could end up with a lap full of vomit. They really hate licking it up too.

KaineD -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 8:40:45 AM)
Right. Thanks. I do hope one day I will find a girl who feels comfortable doing the stuff I'm turned on by, and vise versa. Where can I ask on these boards about... dating advice? There are no girls on this website in my country. Whats the best way to meet girls my age that are into what I'm into?

KaineD -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 8:46:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael I face slap all the time, its hot. I have never broken her cheekbone but I twice broke a submissives rib by hugging her goodbye. Accidents happen but it is VERY VERY rare to do any damage with any of the stuff we do. NOT because it is perfectly safe but because most of us are pretty sane. While you will hear online about all sorts of injuries, if you ask someone real, who actually does this, you will rarely hear of any injury. I love gagging a woman on my cock but yes, if you aren't careful you could end up with a lap full of vomit. They really hate licking it up too. Hahaha, thanks. Thats reassuring. I'm sure I won't bust a girls nose open if I go to slap her in the bedroom. And I'll try not to make a girl throw up when I have my cock in her throat. Though, having her lick it up, as gross as it is, sort of kinda turns me on.

toservez -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 9:01:29 AM)
Everything you describe is done and I am sure some will echo in but while face slapping can be a limit to some all things are practiced and some things are widely liked by most submissives. Accidents happen and not just with newbies, but being smart and going slow can hopefully eliminate most risk and limit anything bad to the minor area. Get to know yourself and ask questions to the people you are with and study their reactions. The fact that you are concern is a great sign that you will be good in this area.

MrrPete -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 9:01:40 AM)
Dating advice Change your profile. If you want to find someone who likes what youd then DON"t say your not looking. Just look in the UK in general and you'll find lot of subs. Afterall it's not like you're several thousand miles away. Discuss what you want to do before you do it. A lot of don't like face slapping and humiliation. You should know that before playing with them.

KaineD -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 9:20:18 AM)
I see what you mean. All that "i love humiliating and playrape" stuff is probably coming on too strong. I'd still prefer to find a girl in Northern Ireland, rather than have to get a boat across to England or Scotland to see a girl for just one weekend. I want a nice steady relationship.

thetammyjo -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 9:32:12 AM)
For me, harmful equals something that damages someone, physically or emotionally, that it will require a lot of time to recover from or which permenantly changes their body or mind in a way that makes them less capable of using it. I make a promise when I train someone and again when I own someone that I will never harm them on purpose. Sometimes accidents happen but usually if we are careful the harm from these is minor and the time required to recover and to regain capability is short. I think a good person would then stick by and help with recovery. "Less capable" may be in the minds of the person involved. I prefer to think long term and to realize that I might not always be around or we might not always be together. Therefore I need to help my slave or sub become the best they can be and not do anything to harm their ability to care for him/herself should a time come when we aren't together.

AquaticSub -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 9:39:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KaineD Hey. I consider myself a dom, though I've never owned a slave before. I was wondering if you guys consider tit slapping or face slapping harmful? Depends on how hard you slap. quote: When spanking or using a whip or pulling hair, do you ever accidentally use too much force? 'Cause that kind of frightens me. Instruct your girl to tell you when too much force is being applied. Either you will begin to learn, or you will learn that you should work with mind fucks and not force. quote: I'm also turned on by pushing a girls head down on my cock, but I'm afraid I'll make her throw up or something. It happens. Valyraen also likes this. Kinda breaks the mood but you laugh it off, clean up and go back to playing.

juliaoceania -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 9:42:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KaineD Hey. I consider myself a dom, though I've never owned a slave before. I was wondering if you guys consider tit slapping or face slapping harmful? When spanking or using a whip or pulling hair, do you ever accidentally use too much force? 'Cause that kind of frightens me. I'm also turned on by pushing a girls head down on my cock, but I'm afraid I'll make her throw up or something. This is standard in how we make love...lol. It is not at all harmful and I would just call it foreplay. He has never harmed me during play. I would think that one should find the tolerance of their victim, erm I mean partner, because just hauling off and slapping them across the face could cause a lot of problems like uncosciousness, popping an ear drum, or dislocating a jaw.. there are ways to do it more safely than others, and in fact you could hurt someone badly by doing it incorrectly. But there are risks in leaving bruises on people too, so the best thing is start slowly in your sadism.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 10:07:23 AM)
Accidents can happen to anyone, so I suppose anything can be harmful at some point. I love face slapping very much, but just because I enjoy it doesn't mean that care doesn't have to be taken. We had a bit of an accident the other night. My Master slapped me, but it was a bit dark and we were doing a forced type of scene. When he did, I saw this big flash of light and my eye started to swell a bit. It turned out it was okay, but it was very scary and it hurt for a couple of days. My poor Master felt like crap for hurting me that way, but it goes to show that no matter how careful you are and how much you don't want to do something wrong, it can happen. As long as you are sane in your actions and there is open communication between you, most of the time things will be okay. Just realize that anytime you start causing pain to someone else, or take swings at their body...things can go wrong, be prepared to deal with that and do what you can to prevent it.

GeekyGirl -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 10:28:29 AM)
Face slapping is pretty safe (and many subs like it...I happen to adore it..) but do be careful about bruising. It's hard to explain away a bruise on the face. The gagging during oral has happened to me on numerous occasions (sometimes it was done on purpose and other times it was an accident.) It's not as bad as you think. Just clean up and go on!

Mercnbeth -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 10:37:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KaineD ...I was wondering if you guys consider tit slapping or face slapping harmful?... as someone who was trained for 10 years as a wee one to take face-slapping as a form of corrective punishment without showing emotion, flinching, crying or reacting in any sort of way, the first time anyone slapped this slave's face during sex it sent her into a mental backflip and complete arousal shutdown. this slave has since accepted face-slapping as something she participates in for the pleasure of Master, however, it is a mental exercise and (just in case defiantbadgirl, et al is reading this too) this slave likens it to participating in a lesbian act in front of Master for His pleasure; this slave has never sought it out and the only pleasure it would bring this slave is knowing it is pleasing to Him.

SusanofO -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 10:40:49 AM)
Gosh it's so subjective - ask the submissive or slave in question. Personally, I hate face-slapping. But I also like stuff that could be considered a whole lot more brutal or dangerous, so it's a personal quirk, it doesn't mean it's "harmful" (to everyone). I just don't like it. You gotta ask the individual you're going to do it to - because there is "physically harmful", and then there is also "emotionally harmful" to consider (and they're not always exclusive or tied together, either), IMO. - Susan

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 10:48:00 AM)
Face slapping and tit whipping is done by most,Just take care and learn as you go...ONE subbie on here made fun of my clothes pins in my profile pic and said "whoo what a sadists''I explained to her that we have about 2000 of them each one painted a glow in the dark color by a devote sub/slave and when about 400 0r 500 hundren of them on her body then I turn out the lights and taken them off one at a time with my single tail" then she would say damm what a sadist smile...Just my two cents....BH

BDSM05478 -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 11:49:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly When he did, I saw this big flash of light and my eye started to swell a bit. And just to put this in perspective: Some of us are more than ok after a situation like this and would not consider it anything to stop, slow down or even think about afterwards; except maybe to savor that twing of pain over the following days.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: Whats harmful and whats not? (2/23/2007 12:08:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSM05478 quote: ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly When he did, I saw this big flash of light and my eye started to swell a bit. And just to put this in perspective: Some of us are more than ok after a situation like this and would not consider it anything to stop, slow down or even think about afterwards; except maybe to savor that twing of pain over the following days. Did I ever say we stopped???[;)]

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