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cyberdude611 -> Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:07:10 PM)

Im not bashing specifically CollarMe since people on here are looking for many different things but even CM shares some of the problems. Websites specifically geared towards finding mates online in my opinion is a scam. Especially if paying for it (ie: eharmony or match.com). In fact, Yahoo! Personals was recently sued for creating fake profiles and contacting subscribers who's subscriptions are about to expire in an attempt to get them to renew.

Sure there are those lucky few that find someone and hit it off, and more power to those people. But how many people do you know personally that has had any luck with online dating? There are over 1,000 different dating sites on the net. Each one claims to have over millions of members. If this is true, wouldnt everyone be hooking up online?

And then the lies. How many of these profiles do you think are 100% truthful? Most lie about themselves and also lie about what they are looking for. I also think most people have enormously high and unrealistic expectations.

In my opinion, for many reasons online dating is a scam and a waste of time. There seems to be only very little sucess. And if you are truely looking for the love of your life, the old fashioned way may still be the best.



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:11:05 PM)

Thanks for the 411 cyberdude, and how cute you with this name would discover and share this with the rest of us.
I've met people from online, and no scam yet, but will be on the lookout now thanks to you.    M



juliaoceania -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:13:58 PM)

Well I have to say that I think you are wrong. I have met many people from online internet dating sites. I met my Dom on another BDSM site.

This site is free, so why be negative... kinky women for free, and you are bitching?[:D]



cyberdude611 -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:16:24 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Well I have to say that I think you are wrong. I have met many people from online internet dating sites. I met my Dom on another BDSM site.

This site is free, so why be negative... kinky women for free, and you are bitching?[:D]


I said i am not bashing this site specifically, especially since it is free. But some of these sites charge $50 a month for no promises or gurantees you will even find a match. Thats a scam in my opinion.



Lordandmaster -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:16:27 PM)

The problem with online dating is that the chicks never believe I can really wiggle my cock without using my hands.  It's just not the same through IM.



FukinTroll -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:17:17 PM)

well said M.

Op

We can hope for honesty here but not full discloser. Just like in real life we can't be sure about the person we are inviting into that life. So by not disclosing everything does that make one a liar? I think not. It makes them clever and longer lived. CM is probably one of the greatest people meet spots there is. Everyday someone has something going on that everyone in that area is invited to. So the easiest way to bust the CM myth is go to those events. Mercnbeth are always doing something, and I am sure they will send you a map.



LadyKimberly33 -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:20:54 PM)

I met My husband thru an ad in a newspaper before the internet dating sites. We have been together and happy for 12 years now, there are happy endings...



Real0ne -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:25:12 PM)

online dating regardless of the cost is bass ackwards and that is its archilles heel.

when you are meandering through life and you find yourself face to face with someone you are reading that person with all your faculties as they are you.  You can sort of just tell, pick out that one person in a crowd who you find first off attractive, on both a physical and emotional level, later intellectually.

Of course that is not the only scenario, you can like someone intellectually and then later the rest falls into place too but you can see each others nuances.

Online that is noneexistance.  Its like reading a romance novel, a bunch of text on your screen and snapshot of the best angle.

Its not bad its just back aswards from nature.

Talk for months fall in love with the text meet and find out the chemistry is like fire and water when you meet LOL

Finding a good match therefore online is like looking a grain of salt on the beach.



lilsubl -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:28:43 PM)

wait!!  this is a dating site???



FukinTroll -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:29:43 PM)

Yep. And you have a date. You're ass and my hand!

Muhahhahahhahhaha

Slurp!



lilsubl -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:30:18 PM)

now you're talking!!!  see??  no scam here....



Real0ne -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:31:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
So by not disclosing everything does that make one a liar? I think not. It makes them clever and longer lived.


it certainly can be a lie, there is such a thing as lie by omission.  like oops i forgot to tell ya i am a guy and thats my sisters picture that i posted LOL



FukinTroll -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:36:57 PM)

Feel free to post your SS#, bank account numbers, and a host of other "disclosers” on your profile.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:45:57 PM)

I think Id be more scared of the sites that did gaurantee a mate.  Theres no way to be sure I will find a match somewhere. Ever. I was lucky and did find someone wonderful here, but I cetrainly wasnt expecting to necessarily find the love of my life online.  Its a tool, like many others.  Use it to brnach out and meet people you would normally never have run tino in a bar or a club or something. Paid sites dont offer anything free ones dont, and yes they have a lot more fakes there becasue they use them to pull people in. For some, though, the idea that they are paying implies that they should put more of an effort into their profiles and look at and contact more potentials. If they want to throw their money into it, who cares.  Its another decadent luxury for those who have the money to spare.  The rest of us stick tofree services, which have almost as many fake profiles ut dont send more spam when your needing to renew...

If you go online ot any site, free or not, expecting to find love you are going to be disappointed. If you go on expecting to meet people, and through meeting those people hope to find something, then you will fare better.  Some of us are lucky enough to find the right one online, others take a lot more time and effort.

DV



susie -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:50:58 PM)

Meeting the right person is all down to chance. Chance that you might go to the same place and start talking, chance that your best friend introduces you to someone, chance that you went to the same school together etc. Dating sites increase your chances of meeting someone by widening your options. Of course there are fakes on these sites just like there are fakes everywhere in this life. I for one have met the love of my life on a bdsm site and am happier than I have ever been in my life so it works. I have also met many friends on here and other sites like it.

As for them being scams how can they be? They would only be a scam if all the profiles on a site were a fake and the site encouraged you to join knowing that there was no chance of you meeting someone.

I think many people who complain about not meeting someone special from dating sites are often the ones that expect to meet someone as soon they sign up and are not prepared to put in the time and effort looking for the right person.



FukinTroll -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/15/2007 11:53:11 PM)

Well I been here for a while. I'm just friggen picky.



SirKenin -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/16/2007 1:35:56 AM)

Of course online dating is a joke.  You are just figuring that out now?  That is why I do not do it.  It is people's last ditch effort to find a mate.  Most of them are online because they can not find a date anywhere else.  Studies show that up to 90% of all people posting profiles on dating sites lie about themselves.  They usually have self-esteem issues due to inherent perceived "flaws" or whatever have you.

It is a farce, and why I never bother looking for dates online.  I meet them in person.

Just come for the forums, and post your profile so people get to meet the person they are interacting with.



windchymes -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/16/2007 5:03:38 AM)

I wouldn't call it a "scam", per se, but they are greatly over-rated....by themselves, lol

I do know people who have met and are happily still together.  I work with a girl who signed up, met and recently married the very first and only guy who winked at her.   I, however, have been on that same site (not paying, of course!) for about six years, and have not met anyone close to "the one".   A lot of it is luck.

I have found that a lot of the sites are "test the waters" type sites for many who have recently separated, or are thinking about separating, or who just want to cheat on the side.  They initiate contact, but then disappear after a short time, for no apparent reason.  (Sound familiar?)  Or they have the "kid in a candy store" mentality....you have something that seems to have potential, but they are talking to others....and more others....and more others....   I see them using the same profiles for years, lol.

I keep a couple of active profiles on a few sites, because ya never know....but I'm not planning my future on it.



caitlyn -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/16/2007 7:05:42 AM)

My best friend (who is smokin' hot by the way) tried one of the big paid sites (don't want to mention names) that gives you matches. The first week, she got a message saying that there were no matches for her profile. I think she stayed drunk for two days.



juliaoceania -> RE: Online dating is a scam! (2/16/2007 7:27:35 AM)

I know which one you are talking about, the one that matches you. I had my profile on there 2 years ago... bought one month. It sucked! I can pick my own dates, and I do not need some random computer generated match list... They matched me with this anal retentive engineer single father of three wee ones. He basically wanted a bed warmer stepford wife, which left me scratching my head... how the hell could they have thought me a match for a linear thinking robot man desperate for a mommy for his little ones? I cancelled my membership.



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