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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 1:23:41 PM

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Besides, submissives are a dime a dozen, just go online and post about how super safe, sensitive, and your high moral standards and BINGO!

::sigh:; you left out Old Guard, you know the chicks dig that too.

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 1:30:13 PM

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Michael said it best. LOL, but:

It's like a sub saying she didn't mean to get involved, but since he had emailed her, she felt she had to answer. About 10 emails later, I would think she had gotten her point across. Don't blame the Dom, blame her. Matter of fact, if that behavior is bad enough in your mind, move on without thinking ill of the Dom for one second. She could have handled it properly if she had wanted.

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 1:30:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

If you are only "annoyed" you don't take it seriously ENOUGH. It is people who only get annoyed that are the real problem.

Real dominates like myself carry knives and we gut these people and use their skin to make the collars for our slaves, that is how REAL dominates do it!

Nobody is bigger about protecting little subbies than SuperDomSimplyFantasticManlyMichael!!!!!!!!!

Ah... I see you too have studied Upholstery 101, Skin: The new leather, and People: It’s what's for dinner by Ed Gein!

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 1:41:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: Knight0Errant

I didn't say I was concerned. I'm not. I said I was mortified. Annoyed. In both of the communties I am involved in, this sort of predatory behavior would get the offender removed from the group. The internet being a wilderness largely free of responsibility and consequences as it is, I see how this sort of behavior thrives.

It thrives in the real world too - in the vanilla world. It is so common that it's cliche and has been since Zeus and Hera were just whippersnappers.

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It's a safety issue, is it not?

Not.

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 2:17:44 PM

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When I first joined I got the standard deluge of email from doms looking to offer their companionship through chat. Some of them were nice and understood I wasn't looking. And others (after a while) attacked my former dom as if he was lacking in some way. I was incensed! My ex is perfect, there have been few like him in my life, it was only his situation which sucked. It makes my anger rise when someone implies he is less than the man I came to love over 7 yrs.
These so called doms who thought they had an angle into my vulnerable state by suggesting my ex was at fault, got exactly what they deserved. Nothing but distain from me.

I think when people make attacks on other dominants do so with the intent to promote themselves. When actually, they are not only insulting the former dominant, they are insulting the judgement of the submissive who chose that man.
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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 2:48:52 PM

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Do you respond to every Dom/me that contacts you? Not too many people do. Wouldn't that be doing the same thing you are complaining about?

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 3:05:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
One would that with all the trouble of dragging those limp bodies out to the desert, digging those deep goddamn holes, and then filling them back up again would drive those lessons home but it doesn't.
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Until I fill up that old holding tank for the well where i work, i don't have to find a desert, which is good because i don't think we have one around here. And remember, when throwing bodies into the ocean, DO NOT attach them to things that float...... sigh

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 5:00:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: Knight0Errant

I didn't say I was concerned. I'm not. I said I was mortified. Annoyed. In both of the communties I am involved in, this sort of predatory behavior would get the offender removed from the group. The internet being a wilderness largely free of responsibility and consequences as it is, I see how this sort of behavior thrives.

However, I do think you missed the point of my post. Certain behaviors can be reliable indications of similar behaviors in other areas. Will the dominant who does not respect your relationship then not respect your limits when you are helpless in his/her power?

My purpose was to note a 'red-flag' indicator. Noticing these is vital online. It's a safety issue, is it not?

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

If your sub is faithful to you why are you concerned? Are you worried that someone more Domly may steal her affections? I think it's funny when Doms whine about such things, it makes you appear insecure.

argh spelling edit

I would like to know exactly how this persons behaviour is predatory . sounds more like he made a pass at your girl ... and hopefully she turned down the advance .. this in fact does not make him predatory. at least not by any definition I know ....

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 5:07:29 PM

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OK----here is the news folks, women, fat dumb and ugly no matter get hit on all the time, no man is different or in some alternate universe, we want their moving parts, they do not USUALLY say it or think it in terms that we do, MEN, they are inurred to a great deal of it--- but you gotta give them credit for their turn down skills, I am not sure I can withstand forever all the sluts after me.

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 5:08:52 PM

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Having been a previously married female, I think you are looking at the whole idea of not respecting a relationship in possibly the wrong light. There are many people out there that are simply excited by the idea of courting the unavalable and seeing if they can win them away from someone else. When I was married and I went out with single friends, I got far more attention than they did. Until I took off my ring.
I have seen it with Angel as well, there were a few people who contacted him telling him it was "too bad he was already taken" to see if he could be baited.
I dont see it as a red flag at all, no more so that I would a vanila relationshop being flagged becasue someone flirted with me while I was still married. It might just simply mean that the chalenge is the turn on, and the fact taht they are in a realtionship makes it that much more interesting to attempt a pursuit.
I dont take offense to other people telling Angel they would like to be with im. I find it flattering that my pet gets such attention. I am also very confident that I have nothing to worry about from any of them. He is mine, without question. He is permitted to contact others, he informs me of all the emails he gets and I have access to his account. Let them talk, thats al it is as long as your sub isnt in any danger of being wooed away.

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 6:17:59 PM

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without even reading the rest of the posts ( i will, sorry)

It sucks! It hurts. Some people will fuck with minds dom to dom then dom to sub---- ruin relationships. nearly ruin people.

in pain, sc

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 6:21:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: sugarcandy

without even reading the rest of the posts ( i will, sorry)

It sucks! It hurts. Some people will fuck with minds dom to dom then dom to sub---- ruin relationships. nearly ruin people.

in pain, sc

So you will be comming over for cattails later right?

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 6:23:51 PM

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cattails? Troll, do you mean those weedy things or cocktails like martinis?

we clueless want to know....

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 6:30:03 PM

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Yes!

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 6:32:28 PM

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Personally I feel if a submissive leaves her Dominant due to someone simply e-mailing her and "tempting" her away speaks volumes as to the lack of character in the submissive, and thus better without..maybe the submissive would be a better match for the wanna-be player Dominant then with the one she was originally with.On the other hand any Dominant who gets his undies in an uproar when his submissive is approached is an insecure Dominant...A Dominant should only really be concerned about the internal of his relationship not the external.....Tempting

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RE: From my journal: Asshole Dominants - 2/13/2007 8:20:25 PM

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