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New here and finding it frustrating - 2/13/2007 9:39:42 AM

Feminita

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Hopefully you recognize that my interest and writting this is quite sincere. We, as my profile reads, are a couple that can provide a wonderful environment and compatibility for the right woman. We would love to share our home with someone but find it inordinately frustrating that so many seem to be only "kids playing"...am I right?

How does one go about finding a "suitable" and "sincere" person?

I'd like to get to know someone better than the usual one-liners in responses..is this typical or just happening to me?

Would seem better to write little more about yourself OR let me know that you are not interested up front..ok?

Can this community offer me advice?

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RE: New here and finding it frustrating - 2/13/2007 10:27:33 AM

MsKatHouston

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Welcome and good luck in your search.

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RE: New here and finding it frustrating - 2/17/2007 8:13:02 AM

Manawyddan

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Online communities are rife with 'kids playing.' The only solution, sadly, is patience and a quick touch with the delete button.

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RE: New here and finding it frustrating - 2/17/2007 8:22:48 AM

popeye1250

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Maybe you'd have better results looking in your local B&D community.
That way you get to meet people "in person" and cut out 90% of the game players.

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RE: New here and finding it frustrating - 2/17/2007 8:24:14 AM

DiurnalVampire

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I am not new here and I run across the same problem. One thing you do have to realize is that the majority of female subs really DO get as much mail as they complain about. They are inundated by incoming mail, some useful mostly not, and they do have to pick and choose what they respond to and what they dont bother with. A one line email in response to your first contact might not be so bad. Try leading a few questions in a second mail, and see if you get a more useful response.
Sometimes, a first email response, a one liner or more, is just a fishing trip to see if you are actualy interested in communication or if you were sending to them as one of a mass of outgoing emails. If you get a response, take it from there, and they shold warm up in later emails. If not, then thats when you know they arent goingto be worth the effort.

Good luck, and be patient. It takes a long while to find someone good, but it is definately worth it in the end.

DV

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RE: New here and finding it frustrating - 2/17/2007 10:53:27 AM

EarlyWibury

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Hi..welcome to the Site..the joys of being online...The process of the search...I only look locally..within driving distance...someone I can meet...go from there...See if we..Click or don't Click...

Going to check out a BSMD Organization this Spring...that's in a large city...as that may be the more realistic way of meeting someone...but may meet someone between now and then...

One never knows..

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